Men don’t smile all day. Why should we? Posted on September 21, 2014January 8, 2024 By Dangerous Lee I’m only smiling for the camera. Happy I am not. After an SMH and eye roll worthy real-life experience I took to Facebook and asked: Men: Does it usually “work” when the first words you say to a woman are – “Why you look so mean? Smile!” ? — feeling curious.Post by Leigh Langston. It doesn’t matter if you want to “get with” a woman or not, though I’m sure had I given him the time of day he would of tried to get with me and let’s be real, men only say this to women they find attractive or want to get to know better. Approaching a woman, especially one you don’t know, this way is rude. It comes off as controlling. Just because a women is not smiling doesn’t mean she’s got issues in that moment. Then again, maybe she doesn’t have anything to smile about at that moment either. Men don’t walk around with a smile on their face all day. Why should we? None of us lives in a world worthy of smiles all day every day. A smile or lack of one is really not the issue here. It’s like Brian said in an earlier Facebook comment: social skills. Just say hello or ask how I am instead of putting an emotion on me before you know anything about me. If you think I look unhappy, try to cheer me up. That’s the least you can do. Say something nice. Starting a conversation with a negative is a turn off. Like they say: keep it simple, stupid. I’m just telling you how I feel about it, but based on many of the responses, I’m not the only women who does not like it and it’s one of those lines that has been passed on from generation to generation. I can remember my mom complaining about this ages ago when I was a child. It must die. Stop saying it to women. We don’t like or appreciate it. Like this:Like Loading... Related Blogs by Dangerous Lee Rants, Essays, and Think Pieces Vintage Dangerous Lee Communicationgentlemenmannersmenmisogynypickup linesRespectSexismsexual harrasmentSmilesocial skillswomen
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Happened to me at the gas station not that long ago. I got the “It can’t be that bad, smile.” I so wanted to spray him with gas and set him on fire. Not, you know, to kill him or anything, just maybe teach him not to talk to strangers that way ;-).
LOL – might be we both see those gas prices and frown up almost instantly. Either way, not the time or the place to hit me with the “you need to smile” line, for sure.
I agree….when I am in a foul mood…being told to smile when I don’t want to makes me want to punch out the jerk who is trying to make me feel what I am not feeling….sometimes you just need to cool off on your own timetable and not theirs