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Q: How risky are BJs (blow jobs) ? Like if I were to do it, how can I make sure I don’t catch anything?

– Anonymous

A: Unprotected BJs are very risky. It’s best to use a flavored condom for protection. If you have unprotected oral sex, don’t swallow. Be sure to check the goods before you put your mouth on it, protected or otherwise.

Oral sex presents the lowest risk, but it’s still risky.

Anal is the most dangerous form of unprotected sex and then vaginal. If you allow him to cum in your mouth don’t hold it in, spit it out immediately. Also, don’t brush your teeth before or immediately after.

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National Poetry Month Spotlight: Sandra Connelly – Language of Love


Language of Love

Leaf of life.
Blue honey skies.
Tested by a touchstone so we can go through time.
Back to the time when the people of the world spoke only one language.
The language only a family could speak,
The language of love.


My name is Sandra Connelly and I am a Registered Nurse. This poem I wrote when I was in the 4th grade and has aided me mentally in the hard times that life brings. This poem talks about hope and love. As a nurse in this global society, I live by these words in knowing that if language and culture are not the same heart and love transcends this boundary. Working with the sick and providing care to children, and now teaching nursing students, I am tested by these touchstones for purity of heart on a daily basis. Thank you for featuring this poem in your column. Love is an amazing gift we can give one another and is THE healer of sickness and disease.

National Poetry Month Spotlight: Alexandra Chauran – The Construction Crane

5178 (2)The Construction Crane

My friend led me through the dense foliage
To where the abandoned crane sat
Stark and full of purpose in the sunlight

Its mighty tracks were cracked and pulled
apart by the roots of trees whose rough trunks
I could only just put my arms around.

Rust melded with the aged yellow paint
And time pressed the door open wide to welcome us.
A startled bird exploded into flight as our
Feet crunched the dry leaves within.
Shafts of sunlight illuminated the dead engine,
And the log vines of the blackberry bushes
reached for its cracks.

The name of the driver was printed near his seat
We could see where his hands had gripped the leavers,
And where he had squinted through the window,
Now obscured by the long fingers of its cracks,
At his unfinished job.

As we looked at the triumphant forest,
And the meadow filled with daisies
Laughing in the wind,

We wished he was there to see.

Bio:  Alexandra Chauran is a professional fortune teller and nonfiction author who lives in Issaquah, Washington state.  She takes care of two small children and a husband while working on her doctoral degree.  In her spare time, she writes novels, and has several unpublished manuscripts running around her home begging to see the light of day.

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National Poetry Month Spotlight: Indi Wright – Infinite Hope


Infinite Hope

For once in a lifetime
I have great expectation
Along with confidence
No more false hopes
Nor empty promises
This hope is a trust
Transferred the stock
From man’s investment
Granting sole custody
In God I now trust
This hope is endless
It never runs dry
All encompassing
A wellspring of joy
Spouting rivers of peace
An abundance of rain
No droughts in sight
Against odds of what
The eye doth see
This hope surges beyond
And above all derision
Infinite hope is timeless
That’s before time existed
Yet newly found by me
‘Twas there all along
It endures through
All circumstances
Denials and delays
In the face of hope
Against hope when
It seems like it’s hopeless
That’s when I hope most
For I know
In whom I trust and
I can rest assured that
He is more than able
To obtain the victory
As a master of success
He works best
When it seems that
All hope is lost
My hope has no limits
It’s boundless
Securing me eternity


Emerging from the obscurity of the world into the marvelous light of Christ, Indi Wright is a trailblazer for the Lord. Leaving the ‘glamorous life’ and a background in entertainment, Indi uses her testimony of what God can do through you if you allow Him to use your talents for His divine purpose and glory. Indi Wright is a nationally acclaimed poet, prolific author, pastor, Licensed Massage Therapist, devoted wife and mother of one. Indi has a passion to not only reach but forever impact the lives of many through her powerful, thought-provoking and inspirational literary works.

Her mission is to encourage and empower others to rise above and overcome adverse circumstances in order to walk in divine purpose. Her writings are God-breathed, bringing life and instilling hope in the souls of each reader. After releasing three books, her next two projects are set to debut in Spring of 2013. She is the founder and CEO of IWright publishing company. It is a revolutionary company that goes beyond the typical publishing needs, equipping aspiring writers with valuable information and resources needed in their literary endeavors. As Co-Pastor of True Ambassadors of the Lord Jesus Christ, a prophetic and healing ministry, her bold teaching style is one-of-a-kind, fresh from heaven. Indi is currently embarking on a Midwest book tour with events at Books a Million stores in Sandusky and Chicago.

FaLessia Booker Loves Keep Your Panties Up and Your Skirt Down

I really appreciate the unique viewpoint of this book. I consider myself very well-read, and have encountered very few titles that have touched on the topic of safe sex from so many angles. Dangerous Lee handles this subject through a series of informative, eye-catching short stories that made me stop and think. The HIV information appending the stories gave credibility to the title. Surely there is a need to “keep your panties up and your skirt down” with the prevalence of STI’s and STD’s within the global community. Dangerous Lee doesn’t restrict her stories to just the African American experience, but paints a broader picture that includes young, and old, married and single, black and white. The message that she drives home is simple, yet powerful: these issues affect us all, and our ignorance, arrogance and misinformation are killing us!

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Flint Positive Spotlight: Artist – Percy

Painting and creating art is a way I can express myself; express what I see and feel in the world around me, in an almost universal language. What’s important about my art is not that I express exactly my thoughts to the ‘T’. Sometimes I start out with an idea, and it turns out totally different from what I had in mind. I understand that art can be very subjective at times. It can mean different things to different people, but as long as my art gives people pleasure in any way, be it in an intellectual level or merely pleasing to the eyes, to me this is what makes art fun. Getting close to something that you intend to say through visual poetry, a canvas can speak to a nation. Though I am fairly new to the art world (2 and a half years),finding my way through styles and paint mixture brings me joy. I just want to capture the essence of life and what that entails with my brush, and that is the adventure.

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Asian/Pacific American Heritage Month Spotlight: Cindy Chu

Name and occupation:

Cindy Chu—Actress 

What do you love most about being of Asian Heritage?

I love that I come from such a deep culture and that my parents raised us to appreciate our roots while still allowing us to branch out into our birth country, the USA.  Our family has a lot of history behind us, including being related to Zhu Yuanzhang (different spelling of the family name in English but it is the same character in Mandarin, meaning vermilion, or royal red) and I actually have met some distant cousins around the world when talking about our last names, and realized we were related to the same man from way back when. 

Tell us an interesting Asian History Fact:

Anna May Wong, the first major Chinese American actress, had to leave the USA and go to Europe in order to keep moving up in the acting world.  American cinema was too biased to allow her to grow at that time, so she went where she could make the next leap. 

Who or what inspires you most?

My grandparents and parents have all been huge inspirational figures for me.  I only have one surviving grandparent left at this time, my paternal grandmother, but I had heard all the stories of my grandparents leaving China in 1949 for Taiwan, pretty much with what they could carry on their backs.  My mom was a baby at the time, and the soldiers in her father’s squad would help carry her.  All my grandparents built their lives in Taiwan, and then my parents decided to try and make it in the USA.  My dad came here with two suitcases, one full of books, and the other clothes, and I think $600 cash in his pocket.  He managed to find some work washing dishes, and went to school and got his degree, and then spent several decades working for Chrysler.  He moved our family from Detroit to Grosse Pointe Farms so that we would have access to a great public education.  It’s amazing to me the experiences that they all had to go through in order for me to be where I am at today, and my four siblings, too. 

Something you often think to yourself that you’d like to say publicly:

Be happy, love life, enjoy the moment, and don’t be attached to material things. 


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Asian/Pacific American Heritage Month Spotlight: Michael Soon Lee


Name and occupation: 

Michael Soon Lee, MBA, CSP – Professional Speaker & Business Consultant

Former motion picture actor with such stars as Chevy Chase, Goldie Hawn, Robby Benson and Clint Eastwood.  Former Dean of the School of Management at John F. Kennedy University. Author of seven books including, “Cross-Cultural Selling for Dummies” and “Black Belt Negotiating”.

What do you love most about being of Asian Heritage?

I love sharing my Asian culture with others so they can get past differences they see on the outside to see how similar we all are on the inside. I also love being able to dispel myths about the Asian culture such as the fact that some believe that Asians are not articulate (I’m the first Asian American Certified Speaking Professional in the National Speakers Association), that Asians are good at math (I suck!) and that Asians are quiet (I’m definitely not!). I love sharing Asian food and their origins with my friends and learning about their culture as well.

I am a 5th generation Chinese American. While I am Chinese I’m not accepted by many in my culture because I don’t speak the language (thanks to the California public school system I speak Spanish!) and I’m not fully accepted by many Americans because I don’t look like the majority. I think this is why my clients want me to talk about how to bridge the gap between Caucasian salespeople and their multicultural customers.

Tell us an interesting Asian History Fact:

Fortune cookies are not a product of China. The best guess is that they were invented in Los Angeles in 1918.

Who or what inspires you most? 

Prejudice against Asians and others who are different inspires me every day. It’s what gets me up in the morning hoping this will be the day we eliminate prejudice and discrimination. I help salespeople to increase their sales to multicultural customers. Learning about culture bridges differences between people.

Something you often think to yourself that you’d like to say publicly:

Don’t be afraid of me! If you take the time to ask me about my culture and get to know me as a person, not a stereotype, you’ll see that we have more in common than we have differences.



Asian/Pacific American Heritage Month Spotlight: Dr. David Che

Name and occupation:

Dr. David Che, Dentist and Author

What do you love most about being of Asian Heritage?

That Asian families in general push their kids to succeed academically and to try to be model citizens.

Tell us an interesting Asian History Fact:

Chop Suey was invented in America, NOT China.

Who or what inspires you most?

Jeremy Lin, the first Asian American basketball player to be in the NBA.

Something you often think to yourself that you’d like to say publicly:

Human relationships comes down to two things: trust and responsibility. When you don’t have those, you don’t have anything.



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Women’s History Month Spotlight: Brianna R. Sadler

Name and occupation: 

Brianna R. Sadler, Attorney.  Partner, Madgett Law, LLC.

What do you love most about being a woman? 

I have the upbringing of a lady with the tenacity of a bull.  Women are now being allowed to be so many different things, from choosing to stay home and raise children to running huge companies!  The sky’s the limit, baby.  Of course there are still roadblocks, but we have been busting through them with zest since the beginning of feminism!  Also, I like that I insightfully know whether my suit matches my shoes, some men will never grasp that concept.

Have you had to deal with much sexism in your industry?           

There are a lot of older men who either want to help me or treat me like a “little lady.”  Either way, it’s my job to get the best outcome possible for my client, so I have to be a chameleon to cater to however he sees me.  Women are also sexist toward other women sometimes, so I have to take the stance of letting them know I am aware that I’m a young attorney and I have a lot to learn from them.  

Who or what inspires you most?       

My family.  My great-grandmother was a feminist, leaving an abusive husband with no money and three kids.  She also is reputed to do a mean Charleston.  Another (more traditional) great-grandmother used her egg money to buy her children books, so they could be educated and learn English as well as Dutch.  My grandmother used her wedding money to go to college.  My mother supported my father through college and then went herself.  My family (on both sides) has quietly been run as a matriarchy for generations.  The fact that these women worked hard to create a better life for their daughters and their daughters’ daughters motivates me to do the same.

Something about you that would surprise us:    

I’m also a bartender, and I minored in dance and athletic coaching.

Advice for women entrepreneurs:         

Get mad!  Women are conditioned from an early age to accept everything in silence, and that’s not the case anymore.  If something isn’t right, say something!  Don’t just laugh it off.  You don’t have to smile if you’re not happy.  Finally, no one is going to do it for you, go out and get it yourself!



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