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One of the hardest things to deal with sometimes is the pressure that we put on ourselves. We can often brush off other people’s criticisms, but when we fail to meet a personal goal, it can knock us straight into depression.
Even though we all know that it’s not productive or even healthy to compare our lives to others, we can’t always prevent ourselves from doing it. You may look around at your friends and others in your age range and envy the fact that they have college degrees, higher paying jobs, a beautiful home, a new car, even a great spouse and family. You begin to focus on the fact that you all attended the same schools, maybe even the same college, and the same opportunities presented themselves to you. But for whatever reason, you decided to focus your energy on other things or things just didn’t work out the same way for you.
Sometimes we fall into a funk and can’t stop thinking of what our lives could have been if we made a different decision – just one single decision. In most cases it really is only one decision that changed the course of our lives. Did you make the choice to have a child at a young age? Come out to your family about your sexuality? Get married young? Drop out of high school or college? Fall in love? Join the military? I’m not saying these decisions are negative ones, but they are some of the more common ones that change the paths of our lives.
So what can we do to fix it? We have to accept that whatever we decided to do in the past, we had our reasons for doing so. That decision is done. Now it’s time to look to the future and make whatever life you had planned for yourself, start to take form. If it was school related, start off small. Fill out your financial aid information online. That’s a step. Get some applications to local community colleges and universities. That’s another step. It doesn’t matter how fast or slow the pace, as long as you are still heading in the right direction. We make the mistake of believing that the older we get, the less likely it is that our dreams will come true. Says who? It doesn’t have to be that way. Of course we have to make our goals ones that can actually be achieved. You can’t set out to be America’s Next Top Model or the next American Idol if you already know that you’re out of the required age range. But there are other venues out there for you, if you are willing to look!
I’m sure more than half of Americans are not doing what they thought they would be doing at this age. It’s life. It’s the way it is. But it’s never too late to go back and learn that trade you wanted to learn, or earn that degree, or open that business. You just have to accept that these things will not come quickly. All the work you avoided when you were younger will still have to be done to make these things happen. There’s no easy route. Step out on faith and step out of the box.
Make your “to-do” list and check off each and every small step as you accomplish it. If you need some motivation, read or watch “The Secret” or pick up a religious book to feed your soul. Just know that you’re not the only one who feels this way. If you made everyone at your class reunion drink a truth potion, you’d find out that you’re not the only unhappy one in the bunch. You’re not the only one with unfulfilled hopes and dreams. You’re not the only one who feels that they are in a dead-end job, or lonely, or sick, or frustrated. So stop comparing yourself to them and stop criticizing yourself for past decisions. There are more than enough critics for you in the world. You need to be your biggest cheerleader. You need to be your biggest fan! Find your motivation!
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- Surviving the College Search: The Adventure Begins (education.com)
- Selecting a College: A Checklist Approach (education.com)