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The Working Woman – Overcoming Stress To Achieve Success

As a working woman, your ability and drive to accomplish things allows you to handle complex challenges, run business and manage your family successfully. However, this can also put you at risk to chronic negative stress. This is because your aim for excellence is to focuses, independent and even aggressive, that you fail to care for your own needs, become too serious and inflexible and also over commit. Sadly, you hardly slow down that you do not realize that you are already running near to empty.


Under What Type Of Stress Are You?

Understanding the type of stress you might be experiencing is crucial in determining the proper solution.

  • The Dash And Crash Stress

This type of stress helps you stay focused and motivated to become successful, however once the stress levels decrease, you tend to crash severely.

The Solution

If you keep on pushing, you will collapse eventually as your nervous system crashes from being in high gear. Unfortunately, this crash will leave you drained and spent.

Go on vacation, explore, rejuvenate and rediscover, in order to help you recover from your crash. When you engage in exercise, keep it to a minimum. As your high cortisol levels affect your immune system, give yourself vitamin C boosts.

  • The Life Observer Stress

This type of extreme stress can make you feel as if you are in a bubble just watching life pass you by.

The Solution

This extreme state of stress is often caused by severe imbalance making it hard for you to apply life changes. Sadly, the more stressed out you get, the more withdrawn and severely overwhelmed you become.

To handle this type of stress, you need to start exercising for short periods of time at an easy pace and maintain a daily journal to track and connect how you feel emotionally and physically. You should also increase your positive vibes and self esteem by noting good things that occurred each day, accompanied with a reflection on why they are important.

  • The Constant Overdrive Stress

Your motivation is always on high drive preventing you from actually relaxing or even staying still, prompting you to constantly clench your teeth and tap your feet or hands.

The Solution

You have problems relaxing and falling asleep. You are also emotional, explosive, anxious and very straightforward with how you communicate. Your aggressiveness often fires up when under pressure and it does not simmer down quickly as your entire system is in overdrive.

Considering that you have so much nervous energy to burn off, you need to exercise at an intense pace and stay away from caffeine. When you stick to a regular exercise routine, your mood will improve and gradually protect you from any stress induced brain damages. Consider engaging in yoga or pilates and create a journal to write down whatever bothers you. Sleep is also crucial to eliminate stress, so if you are having trouble sleeping, consider the comfort your mattress offers. According to Parklane Mattresses, “plush models contain individually wrapped Marshall Coils, a spring system where every coil moves independently to conform to your body as you move during the night. The thin gauge wire used in our plush mattresses is piano wire strong but soft and supple enough to provide pillow like comfort.”

  • The Zero To Sixty Stress

Though you are generally calm, stress can put you in complete disarray when it hits you as you are extremely sensitive to stress.

The Solution

Evidently, a small amount of cortisol, which is a stress hormone, is being produced by your body. How you sleep and the state of your energy levels is based on the amount of produced cortisol. Small amount of cortisol can lead to an overactive immune response attacking body tissues leading to pain and inflammation. Sadly, the feeling with discourage you from exercising.

You can deal with this type of stress by exercising at a slow pace, then progressing to moderate intensity to provide relief. Do not forget to do some daily stretching for flexible muscles, and massage body areas that need soothing.

Valerie Collins is a freelance writer specializing in health and well being issues, and offers information about the latest apps and devices used to encourage quality sleep

4 Ways To Find Peace In Your Life

Finding peace among all the high-tech chaos of our day-to-day lives can be a problem.  There are emails to answer, calls to make, errands to run, family to attend to, and you are constantly glued to your smart phone.  It can be hard to unplug all your technology and unwind, but it will help you to find happiness in the long run.  If you’re struggling to find some peace, here are a few things you can try:


Vent It Out

It’s hard to find a regular audience to vent to about the problems in our lives.  Some people are fortunate enough to have a close friend who’s willing to listen.  For the rest of us, it’s all about getting creative as we vent out all the problems plaguing our life.  The easiest way to vent is to write out a list of all the things that are causing stress in your life.  If you’re a bit more creative, you can draw something out, throw darts, or even make a crude voodoo doll.  The effort of putting all your negative thoughts on paper can be draining – in a good way.  This leaves you free to focus on all the good aspects of your life.

Take Up A New Hobby

Hobbies are a wonderful way to escape from the day-to-day stresses of our lives.  If you don’t currently have a hobby, or if you want to switch things up, it may be time to investigate a new one.  An enjoyable hobby can help you to be better-focused, lower your blood pressure, and help you to find peace.  Exercising or attempting yoga are two wonderful ways to enjoy yourself and promote peace.  Exercise can allow you to channel your energies toward a cathartic release and release endorphins.  Yoga can also help you to find balance in your life.  Whatever it is that makes you happy, dedicate a few hours a week to it – minimum!

Quiet Space

One thing that promotes stress in life is the babble of people around them.  Whether it’s work, kids at home, traffic on the road, or just having friends that don’t stop talking – there’s one way to deal with it: get away from the situation.  Go home, set up your volcano vaporizer in a room that’s just for you, and spend a few hours alone.  If your home is too hectic, find a spot that few-if any-people know about.  It could be a place in the forest, a quiet nook in the library, or even a welcoming booth at a cozy restaurant nearby.  The point is to escape all the chatter and spend time with your thoughts.

Help Others

Another way to find peace in your life is by helping others.  If you’re uncertain about how to go about lending your time to another, there’s an easy answer: put it on Facebook.  One of the best parts about social media is the opportunity to ask a large group of people a question so that they can answer you in a rapid fashion.  Try posting something like:  “Anyone need help with something in their life?  I’m looking to volunteer my services this Saturday!”  You’ll be amazed at the amount of responses you get.  This one is a no-brainer, too: the more you help others, the better you’ll feel about yourself.

Ashely is very big into meditating and finding peace. To see more, check out her Twitter @ashelymarie1985.


The Importance Of Taking A Break For Happiness


Feeling stressed? Cramming for a big project at work or school? Stop what you are doing right now and take a break. You may discover that doing so might vastly improve your happiness.

Alex Lickerman, MD, a Buudhist physician, writes that “resilience doesn’t develop by removing stress from our lives (an impossible feat in any event).” Instead, Dr. Lickerman writes at the Happiness in the World site, “It develops when we’re exposed to stress and then given adequate time to recover from it.

What stress management in your life has to do with getting pumped up

Think about when you start an exercise program. For example, lifting weights can build our muscles and strength. But it only happens when you schedule regular rest times.

As Jeff Behar of Bodybuilding.com says, “It is rest that makes you stronger, because it is the rest that allows the muscles that you have broken down to heal and recover. It is the rest that allows you to recover so you can be strong, and thereby handle the increased weight, and increased number of sets and reps needed to gain further.” Behar also says that “without proper recovery time, not only will you reach a performance plateau, but you also will run the risk of injury, and may even experience reduced performance (less strength, less endurance, etc.).”

Sound familiar? We think that if we just push harder, work longer, stay at it as hard as we can, we will get everything done. Our culture rewards the idea of burning the midnight oil, and pushing as hard as we can. Think about how many people you know who talk about the long hours they put in as a badge of honor.

Yet like those weightlifters who over train, we experience reduced performance while working so hard. And paradoxically, as many life coach experts advise, the best thing we could do is to take a break, relax a little, and clear out heads, instead of grinding and doing the same thing over and over.

What you can do to get to your happy place

In his book The Happiness Advantage, Shawn Achor has very different advice when it comes to a big project or presentation than you may normally hear. He suggests that instead of cramming and going over everything again and again, he advises that people take a break and do something fun to get themselves in a happy frame of mind.

Do you have a favorite comedy routine that always makes you laugh? Look it up on YouTube now. What other things give you pleasure? Does it make you happy to look at pictures of cats being cute? Or maybe you enjoy some sort of crafting skill, like needlepoint or cross stitch or drawing?

Give this life coach tip a try the next time you feel overwhelmed at work. Take some time to get to your happy place. It does not mean you have to take a week off and go meditate in an ashram. Just spend a little time doing things that make you happy, and see if you feel renewed by doing so.

Unusual Ways To Reduce Stress


Stress finds a way to creep up on all of us, whether it is the looming exams or projects or the combination of finagling a tightly woven schedule of activities for everyone in your family. While taking a hot bath, drinking a nice glass of wine and even a massage can help relieve tension, you may not always be able to partake in those stress reducing activities, which is why we have come up with a number of other ways to relieve stress that are a little unusual and can be done almost anywhere.

 1. Swivel Your Chair
Break up your day by releasing tension when you swivel your chair around and around for a few minutes. The freeing feeling of spinning takes you back to merry-go-round days of childhood when our lives were stress free.

2. Walk Barefoot on the Grass
Getting back to nature connects you with earth and the simplistic basics that really matter. Relish a nice break walking on the lush grass and clear your mind to let the stress release from your body.

3. Have a Pillow Fight with Your Bed
There is nothing like releasing pent up aggression through a good ol’ fashion pillow fight – just make sure you attack your bed so you do not hurt anyone for real.

4. Procrastinate
Even if you are stressed out because you have a million things to do, take a moment for you. It may sound ridiculous, but take a moment to watch one of your favorite movies or read from your favorite author. The time spent outside of your reality will give you a fresh start and perspective when you return to your task list.

5. Balance on One Leg
Huh?! Yes, take a moment and balance on one leg with or without people around and take deep breaths. You will find yourself concentrating on your balance and not on the situation(s) that have you stressed out.

6. Make a Snowman
No, not a real snowman, but find materials to make your own personal Frosty the snowman. It can be cotton balls or crinkled up printer paper – this unusual activity is good to release the mind from its other stressors.

7.  Chew on Something Crunchy
Pretzels, chips or nuts – give yourself something to crunch on. The power it takes to break that down will help release stress through the chewing and crunching.

8. Get Practical
Jokes that is. Laughter is the best medicine, and that especially rings true with stress. Take a moment to release some good endorphins and play a practical joke on a co-worker, like putting a piece of tape over the mouthpiece of their phone – they will be able to hear people, but they will not be able to hear them! Just make sure they do not have any major phone meetings that day :)

9. Make Music with Paper
Experiment with all the ways you can make music with paper – blowing on it, waving it up and down? Not only will you hear cool sounds, you will have fun figuring out all the new ways to carry a tune with an object.

10. Revert to Age 2
Make “No!” your favorite answer. Stop taking on too much and making yourself stressed out. If you release some of the pressure you put yourself under, then you and those around you will enjoy a better version of you.

Kathryn Thompson, health advocate and assistant to Susan Wright DVM who is the staff expert for Dog training Collars, devotes part of her time providing encouraging advice and great tips regarding life changes and healthy living that make a difference.

3 Ways To Control Stress In Your Life


Stress is unpleasant to say the least and in modern day living, there are endless sources of stress. Sometimes it can feel unrelenting and besides the mental toll stress can take on a person, it is horrible for our physical health. Stress causes all sorts problems from triggering hormones that make us eat junky food to constricting our blood vessels. It is unlikely that you will ever entirely eliminate stress from your life, and furthermore, you can still live a happy life with stress present. The solution to living happy and healthy is to manage stress.


Anyone who has even a passing interest in learning about stress reduction or natural ways to promote overall health has probably come across the recommendation to meditate. Meditation is one of the most powerful and practical tools for stress relief. Sometimes considered a spiritual practice, it is actually a very practical tool that can be used by anyone, regardless of belief system. Meditation creates awareness of thoughts and feelings, and greater awareness leads to more successful management of negative feelings. We can learn to respond mindfully rather than reacting without thought, which gets us into all sorts of trouble. Meditation creates more calm within the body so that stressful situations won’t feel quite as stressful. You may still experience negative feelings at times, but these feelings will not be as intense, nor will they last as long as long. Some forms of meditation include yoga, which is a moving meditation, breathing exercises and guided imagery.

Cluttered House, Cluttered Mind

I was never very organized, and I still would not consider myself an ‘’organized’’ person, but I’ve made great strides at reducing the stress that comes from the raging river of thoughts that clutter my mind. There are always things to remember and things that need to be done. My mental clutter was really taking a toll on me, so I made a serious effort to address it. I set up automatic payments for my bills and started making to-do lists every day. As a freelance writer, each day I have to write articles, communicate with clients about various issues and follow up with bloggers about guest posts. The simple act of writing a check list each morning with all the things I need to do and tackling one thing at a time has helped tremendously—as I finish one thing, I check it off and on to the next. Often, a lot of little issues compound and create a huge amount of stress. Organization creates order in your mind and an orderly mind is a less-stressed mind.

Experiment with Natural Medicine

For thousands of years, people have been using natural means to manage their health. Natural medicines have been proven to aid in stress reduction and if you decide to take something for stress, a natural remedy is the safest way to do it. Not every treatment may work for every person, so you may need to experiment a bit. Try different supplements known for reducing stress and promoting emotional health. Some examples include kratom extracts which is very popular in Southeast Asian countries, valerian, passionflower, St. John’swort and kava kava. Even though these are natural medicines, it is still important to make sure they don’t interact with any medications you may be taking..

About the Author: Kelli Cooper is a freelance writer who is passionate about natural health and enjoys sharing information about how people can integrate it into their lives.

10 Techniques for Dealing with Workplace Stress

You wake up and dive in the shower, running late for your nine o clock start. Reaching the office, you grab coffee before a solid four hours of graft ensues. Lunch is a hasty wrap from the office deli, eaten at your desk between calls. To make matters worse, your supervisor calls in the afternoon as your performance is down. Call, emails, texts, complaints, demands. By the end of the day you barely know your own name, never mind your job title. You’re red-eyed, eye-popping tired and completely stressed out. Sound familiar? 

Stress in the workplace is now the biggest cause of sickness absences in the UK, with a whopping 100 million sick days lost each year to the plague of pessimism pervading offices around the country. That isn’t good for us, for our employers or for our economy, and with workplace stress found to be more prevalent in times of economic hardship, a vicious pattern of cause and effect continues.

Want to live a healthier, happier work-a-day life? Try some or all of these guaranteed stress-busters and see what works for you.

  1. Pack lunch the night before, and pick out what you are going to wear if you can. Lunch is important, giving you have a decent dinner to get your teeth into half-way through the day.
  2. Eat a solid breakfast. Porridge with fruit or something fibrous and filling will give you energy and feed your concentration whilst you toil.
  3. Prioritise your workload. This is will decrease your anxiety no end, as you manage smaller tasks promptly and efficiently, curve balls thrown your way won’t seem so scary. Letting things build up is a sure-fire route to stress.
  4. Communicate with your colleagues. If your workload is too much, speak up. Remember, if you don’t tell, they won’t know.
  5. Research shows that staff feel most anxious when they feel they are struggling alone. Ask your co-workers how they are doing and ask for a team meeting if the consensus is that the workload is heavy.
  6. Suggest stress-busting activities and ‘time-outs’ at work. Some companies have masseuse days, well being checks and other benefits you can take advantage of. Check your contract and employee benefit scheme.
  7. Count to ten before diving into action. Working frantically to try and combat an issue can often result in shoddy results, as you panic and miss out important details. Give yourself five minutes to jot down notes, close your eyes and think, or do whatever it is you have to do to approach your task in a cool, calm and collected manner.
  8. Avoid alcohol during the week. That bottle of Sauvignon looks tempting, but will only serve to exacerbate feelings of anxiety, worry and stress at work the next day. After all, it is a depressant.
  9. Do something for yourself every evening, from a long hot shower, to a favorite program, to half an hour of reading, to the gym. Even if you have time only to sit with your eyes closed for ten minutes and count sheep, do something that severs your evening activities from your daytime ones.
  10. Get your beauty sleep. Eight hours a night will make you perform better and feel able to cope with more. Play music or concentrate on your breathing to unwind, distract your brain and drop off, ready for the next day’s work.

The key is preparation, planning and a little forward thinking, as well as the ability to stop in your tracks and prioritize. And above all, to let things go. Your health is worth more than your hedge fund investment. 

Thanks to Inspire 360 - the UK’s NLP training specialists – for providing this article on dealing with workplace stress. 

How to Use Stress to Make You Stronger

Stress is bad … at least that’s what other people want us to believe. But is it really the case? Do we really have to fear stress and try to avoid it at all costs? Can’t we use stress to make us stronger?

Okay, since I’m writing this article you probably expect me to say that stress is good for us at some point … so let me not keep you waiting any longer: Yes, stress is good!

Well, maybe not good. Good is not the right word. Stress can still get us in trouble. All the health problems, sleep problems, addictions and such, they can all result from stress, but only if you don’t know how to deal with it.

First of all, I’m no expert. I know just as much about stress as you do. However, I’ve found an approach that lets me fight through stress and use it to my benefit. This is nothing fancy, but it helps me get back on track whenever I find myself in a stressful situation.

What is stress?

This is the first question we have to answer, just so we’re on the same page.

As it turns out, stress is quite difficult to define. Everyone seems to know what stress is, but no one can explain it clear enough.

Wikipedia’s definition says, for example, that: “Stress typically describes a negative concept that can have an impact on one’s mental and physical well-being.”

In essence, it’s everything that makes us feel uncomfortable and convinced that there’s something bad waiting for us if we won’t get a given thing done. It’s not the punishment that scares us, but the waiting itself.

What’s the worst that could happen?

This is the first question we can ask ourselves that can set us free. Most of the time the consequences of our action (or inaction) are not that serious. Once we try to imagine the absolute worst case scenario it becomes clear that we don’t actually have that much to lose.

Let me say that again, understanding the worst case scenario of the stressful situation we’re in is the first and the best step of fighting stress.

Sometimes just this simple realization sets us free and lets us take whatever action is required stress-free.

Use stress to improve your performance

The top performers are always ones who can turn stress into something that fuels them to reach the best results. Athletes do this all the time. They know that when the day of the competition comes it will be a stressful experience, but at the same time they know that this additional adrenaline can be used as an advantage.

This is all about training, it’s most likely not something you can learn overnight, but if you set your mind in the right direction you will be able to reach this stress-friendly attitude.

Here’s my advice. Start by creating a habit.

Whenever you’re in a stressful situation, begin by searching for the positive aspects of it. For example, if you have a project due tomorrow, begin by acknowledging that when you manage to get it done in time, you’ll basically acquire a new skill of focusing on the essential stuff and not doing all the side tasks that can sprout up (otherwise you won’t get your work done in time).

Another example, if you find yourself in a situation where one of your key clients decided to leave you, start by realizing that once you get a new client, you will improve your customer acquisition skills significantly, and you will be able to use these skills again whenever you like.

I guess what I’m saying is that in every stressful situation there’s a positive angle. This goes for all things, even if you’ve just lost your job… There are hundreds of stories of people who made it with their own businesses after losing a 9-to-5 job.

In a nutshell, my advice for you is: (1) identify what stress means for you and how it feels, (2) imagine the worst case scenario, which is usually not that bad, (3) find the positive side of the situation.

I believe that these 3 steps can get you through any stressful situation.

What’s your take on this? How are you dealing with stress?

About the Author: Karol K. is a freelance blogger and a productivity enthusiast. You can find him at ThemeFuse – one of the leading WordPress theme stores. Check out their great premium WordPress themes.

Spring Cleaning Shortcuts To Make Your Life Better

It’s almost summer which means spring-cleaning is on our minds. If you have already performed the traditional overhaul of your home it is time to do a mental check. How do you feel now? Usually when we do a deep clean of our home we feel rejuvenated, refreshed and calm. Imagine taking those same feelings and feeling them all year long. What if we told you there are simply tips you can do to improve every area of your life. By using the spring cleaning approach we’ve got a plan for you, that will help you feel more alive, relaxed and rejuvenated in every area of your life. Here are tips to help you clean up your outside world so you can feel good on the inside.

Your Home

There’s no place like home, and having a clean sanctuary will help you be more productive. This season get organized and feel your mood switch from stress to no more mess. Sometimes clutter can overwhelm us and make it hard for us to see the big picture. Start small and wrok your way to the bigger areas. By breaking up the tasks you will feel more accomplished after each one is done and clean.

Your Work

We spend the majority of our life working. It is just as important to enjoy what you do for a living, as it is to enjoy where you work. If your work environment is cluttered or filled with things that don’t ultimately help you do your job better then it is time to do a deep cleaning. Focus on your desk area first and make sure to cleanse the entire area with cleanser.  

Your Body

Recognize that your body is your temple and what you put into it will effect your overall mood and ability to cope with stress. If you are feeling overwhelmed and frustrated ask yourself what have you been eating lately? Choose healthy unprocessed foods for a more balanced energy level. Make sure you are taking care of your entire body. Many people eat healthy but don’t keep up with regular physicals or dentist office cleanings. Keep your teeth healthy by brushing at least twice a day and flossing everyday. The daily maintenance will help you feel clean and balanced and keep you smiling all year long.

By cleaning up the cluttered or messy areas in your life you will feel better and be able to enjoy life more with less stress and less mess. 

Shannon Kaiser is a lifestyle tip writer for many online and print publications. For more cleaning and health advice visit Tender Care Dental, a Dentist in Gladstone, OR.

4 Indications That You’re Stressed Out

Many of us feel harassed even if it seems to be just a normal, ordinary and boring day.  More so if it’s a manic Monday or any busy days.  Accordingly, if you experience any of the signs below, take some time out every day, whether it’s to go for a small walk or simply closing your computer.

1.  Weekend Migraines or Headaches

A sudden increase in stress like tons of workloads or due deadlines or upcoming events can prompt headaches and migraines.  You need to stick on your sleeping schedule by not allowing yourself to bring your work at home.  But if you really need to bring some, limit the workload or give yourself the schedule to work and the time to stop without extensions.  Likewise, stick to your eating schedule too.   Don’t skip meals and try to snack up healthily.  With these, you will minimize other stress triggers.

2.  Terrible period cramps

Research shows that those women that are more stressed have the tendency to experience painful cramps than those women who are not stressed.  Researchers blame this trigger to a stress-induced imbalance of hormones.  One way to relieve and prevent terrible menstrual cramps is by means of exercise as this can relax cramps and stress by reducing the sympathetic nervous system activity.

3.  Aching Mouth

Stress can worsen a sore jaw, which is a sign of teeth grinding.  Those who are experiencing teeth grinding when sleeping can ask their dentist for a night-time mouth guard that will be able to reduce teeth grinding or even stop it in the long run.

4.  Unusual Dreams

Normally, you would wake up happier than you were in bed especially when you are dreaming during the night since dreams generally get gradually more positive during your sleep.  However, when you are stressed, you would wake up more than likely to experience a disrupted sleep and unpleasant images all night.  Likewise, you would wake up feeling down and weary rather than feeling energized after your sleep.  As a remedy, good sleeping habits will do the trick.  Aim for 7-8 hours of sleep every night.  Try not to drink caffeine and alcohol close to bedtime and this may disrupt your body clock and sleeping schedule.

Stress is normal, but being overpowered by stress isn’t.  You can afford to allow yourself not to be in the best potential than it should be.  There are a lot of ways to prevent stress and to deal with it when you are experiencing it.  Think of happy thoughts and give yourself a break.  You deserve it.

Laine, a freelance writer, loves the beauty of hot tubs.  Their hot tub at home has truly made life easier for them.

The Pressure of Being You

One of the hardest things to deal with sometimes is the pressure that we put on ourselves. We can often brush off other people’s criticisms, but when we fail to meet a personal goal, it can knock us straight into depression.

Even though we all know that it’s not productive or even healthy to compare our lives to others, we can’t always prevent ourselves from doing it. You may look around at your friends and others in your age range and envy the fact that they have college degrees, higher paying jobs, a beautiful home, a new car, even a great spouse and family. You begin to focus on the fact that you all attended the same schools, maybe even the same college, and the same opportunities presented themselves to you. But for whatever reason, you decided to focus your energy on other things or things just didn’t work out the same way for you.

Sometimes we fall into a funk and can’t stop thinking of what our lives could have been if we made a different decision – just one single decision. In most cases it really is only one decision that changed the course of our lives. Did you make the choice to have a child at a young age? Come out to your family about your sexuality? Get married young? Drop out of high school or college? Fall in love?  Join the military? I’m not saying these decisions are negative ones, but they are some of the more common ones that change the paths of our lives.

So what can we do to fix it? We have to accept that whatever we decided to do in the past, we had our reasons for doing so.  That decision is done. Now it’s time to look to the future and make whatever life you had planned for yourself, start to take form. If it was school related, start off small. Fill out your financial aid information online. That’s a step. Get some applications to local community colleges and universities. That’s another step. It doesn’t matter how fast or slow the pace, as long as you are still heading in the right direction. We make the mistake of believing that the older we get, the less likely it is that our dreams will come true. Says who? It doesn’t have to be that way. Of course we have to make our goals ones that can actually be achieved. You can’t set out to be America’s Next Top Model or the next American Idol if you already know that you’re out of the required age range. But there are other venues out there for you, if you are willing to look!

I’m sure more than half of Americans are not doing what they thought they would be doing at this age. It’s life. It’s the way it is. But it’s never too late to go back and learn that trade you wanted to learn, or earn that degree, or open that business. You just have to accept that these things will not come quickly. All the work you avoided when you were younger will still have to be done to make these things happen. There’s no easy route.  Step out on faith and step out of the box.

Make your “to-do” list and check off each and every small step as you accomplish it. If you need some motivation, read or watch “The Secret” or pick up a religious book to feed your soul.  Just know that you’re not the only one who feels this way. If you made everyone at your class reunion drink a truth potion, you’d find out that you’re not the only unhappy one in the bunch. You’re not the only one with unfulfilled hopes and dreams.  You’re not the only one who feels that they are in a dead-end job, or lonely, or sick, or frustrated. So stop comparing yourself to them and stop criticizing yourself for past decisions. There are more than enough critics for you in the world. You need to be your biggest cheerleader. You need to be your biggest fan! Find your motivation!

VL on the DL


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