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Top Story: Why I’ve Slept With White Men And Will Do It Again

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Photo by Davio Curo – No, I didn’t sleep with this White guy, but I have thought about it.

I bet you think I’m about to get deep, but you’re wrong. Why does anyone decide to have sex with a person? They’re attracted to them. It’s as simple as that. I don’t discriminate. I like men. Their color, race, or heritage is not important. Does that surprise you?

It has nothing to do with self hatred, but I will admit that it was a curiosity. I’ve learned that men are men Black, White or otherwise. I used to believe that Black people who dated outside their race were indeed self haters, but that’s a blanket statement that is simply not true.

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Women's History Month Spotlight: Tone Trezure – Singer, Artist, Musician & Composer

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Name and Occupation:

Latonya G. Givens aka Tone Trezure.  I am an singer/artist/ musician and composer.
 
What do you love about being a woman?

What I love about being a woman is that we hold the keys to any or everything in this world.  We have the power to heal, to nurture to sculpt minds.  The first voice a child hears is it’s mothers. We have the power to make or break souls.

What do you hate about being a woman?

What is there truly to hate about being a woman?   I am provided the same opportunities as men and I have more weapons to win the world over.  These long lashes, my beautiful brown eyes, my curvy hips, my big lips… a brain the size of Mt. Rushmore with a imagination that won’t stop.  I love being a woman.  I love the fact that I can mind-f@ck just about anyone if they let me.  Hypnotizing…
 
Something about you that would shock people?

Something about me that would shock people is that I wanted to be a Country and Western singer when I was growing up.  I love storytelling and no one tells a story like a good soul from the country.

 

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Women's History Month Spotlight: Kim Randall – Social Media & Marketing Pro

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Name and Occupation:
Kim Randall, Entrepreneur, Social Media and Marketing Professional

What do you love about being a woman?
I love that there is so much untapped opportunity for females in the business world.

What do you hate about being a woman?
I hate that even today we are judged first on looks and last on personality and drive to achieve and succeed.

Who influences you?
My competitors, family, other female entrepreneurs hiking up the same hill as I am.

Something about you that would surprise people?
I hate wearing heels, would rather throw on a pair of flip flops and jeans for my next business meeting

Anything else you`d like to add?
I am an entrepreneur that owns a Social Media Strategy and Management company as well as an online dating website recently launched at DEM Fall 2012 in Silicon Valley. I am a co-organizer of Tampa’s Startup Weekend, Social Media Day, Have spoken at Tampa’s TEDx and sit on the board of advisers for a local University.

www.kimrandall.me

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Black History Month Spotlight: Odette Hooks – Inspirational Speaker, Life Coach & Author

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Name and occupation?
Odette Hooks, Inspirational Speaker, Life Coach and Author

What do you love most about being a Black woman?
If the question were asked what do you love about being a woman than the answer would have been simple. However, in order to tell what I love the most about being a black woman, I would have to speak to you about the black woman’s past in order for you to appreciate my answer. If I simply told you what I love about being a black woman without the back-story, one would probably think that my answer was average and unappealing. So allow me to stir an image in your mind. The black woman: extracted from her native country and brought to a foreign land to be enslaved as a servant and used to breed more slaves. She was raped, beaten, and physically separated from her children due to slave trade and financial gain, not allowed to show forth her beauty and essence, nor to be educated or given the right to vote, but rather judged unworthy simply because of the color of her skin. This leads me to why I love being a black woman. I love being a black woman because I can apologetically be me – a wife, mother of three, entrepreneur, sister and friend. I can live my dreams, hopes and ambitions; love, laugh and truly be happy. I have the opportunity each and ever day to be a positive example to my 23 year old daughter teaching her that as a black women you can achieve an education and own your own businesses. Happily married for 21 years, I can show my daughter that a black woman can have a successful marriage and raise her children to be anything they can dream to be. I am honored that God chose to endow me with the color of strength and I do not apologize for being who I am because I love being me, a woman of color.

Who or what inspires you?
Living in a world filled with so much turmoil, senseless killings, lying and cheating to get ahead, stealing, and so many other saddening statistics, finding a source of inspiration can be challenging; I like to focus on the good. Those good things are happiness, joy, laughter, times of peace, love, family and friends, helping and empowering others. Therefore, I read a love letter everyday to inspire me to choose to enjoy the good things this life has to offer me. This love letter is inspiring because it’s written to me therefore it is very personal. In these beautiful letters I gain strength, find new joy, greater peace, and longer happiness. I learn better how to love myself and how to love others. The intimately warm feeling that comes daily while reading my love letters makes me wish that all individuals could feel like this everyday. These love letters come to me from the uncompromisable words of God in his Holy Bible. They are the most inspiring words I have ever read.

What advice do you have for other Black women or men?
In the society we live in there are so many expectations of what we should like, how we should look, what we should wear, who we should date or be friends with, etc. The greatest advice I can give to anyone, not just black men and women, is to love yourself unconditionally. There are so many people in this nation, especially people of color, which demonstrate actions that would lead one to believe they do not love themselves. When love is not nurtured within ones being how then can love be given out to someone else, not to mention receiving love back? Love is the strongest force on earth in my opinion and we have to give it to ourselves first in order to give some to others. It’s like karma; what you put out comes back. Therefore, love yourself so you can love others and they can give it right back but in abundance

Anything else you`d like to add?
Live life to the fullest. Know who you are and your worth. You are worth more precious than diamonds, rubies, pearls, silver and gold; you are priceless. www.willandodette.com

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How To Tell Someone You Don’t Like Them

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There should actually be no reason why you have to tell someone you do not like them – except sometimes people forget that not everyone wants to receive a text from them, be their friend on Facebook, or be uploaded to their social media pages at a party you both attended.

It is best to avoid anyone you really do not like – human instincts are there for a reason and until you know someone really well (and by this time it can be too late) you never know why it is you may not like them.

However, if it reaches the stage where you have decided you do not like someone – but they persist in contacting you or uploading you to their Facebook wall, it is time to broach the subject.

  • If you have friends in common telling someone you don’t like them may cause a problem, so find out about the relationships the person has with your close friends before you act. You can also speak to any close mutual friends and try and get an idea of what the person is like and why your other friends are happy to hang out with them.
  • If the person you don’t like actually does something which annoys you, this can be a good way to speak to them about the fact you are not keen to pursue a friendship with them. For example, politely ask them to take down any photos online which you appear in.
  • Blaming the other person is also a good way of bringing up the subject – if there is a mistrust between you, ask them what they don’t like about you, as you get he feeling there is an issue between you. Don’t be aggressive about this, but just mention they do not seem at ease around you or they don’t seem to like you. They may counter this and accuse you of not liking them, at which point suggest you both accept you don’t see eye to eye and just avoid each other in the future.
  • If you work with someone you don’t like, it is best not to be the one to cause an issue in case it affects your career. Annoying people often realize they are annoying and have a knack of deflecting their irritation factor onto others, and remain looking like Mr or Miss Popular at work, so just avoid them.
  • If a work colleague accuses you of not liking them, deny it and report it to your supervisor or line manager before they get there first. The bonus is you now have a bona fide reason for not liking them or wanting to work with them ie they are confrontational.

Instead of going straight into divorce, why not speak to a solicitor for legal separation advice. This means you do not have to rush into divorce.

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Good Men Are Not Like Busses

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Piggybacking off the above image; when those three or four come along they aren’t worth the ride. I haven’t been in a serious relationship in over ten years and I have yet to meet a man that would make me want to be in a relationship in those ten years. When I have met a man that I thought was worth my time he made lying and game playing a priority. At this stage of my life I don’t feel that I need a man to be validated or happy, however I would like to have a male companion that I can spend some quality time with as well as have great sex; something else that I have not had in ages. I really hope this changes in 2013.

Update: Nothing changed in 2013 :/

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Ask Dangerous Lee: What are the 8 mistakes not to make on your online dating profile?

Q: What are the 8 mistakes not to make on your online dating profile?

Chad Stone, New Mexico

A: There are approximately 8 mistakes? You asked a question that implies you already know the answer, so I won’t waste my talents answering. However, answer me this; what is the #1 mistake you’ll regret making with Dangerous Lee?

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Karolyn Kato Huddleston Loves "Keep Your Panties Up and Your Skirt Down"

Great job! There should be a warning that says, “Don’t read this book unless you got someone near to sex to death” 🙂 I loved it! The first story (The Safe Sex Kit) was my personal favorite because I know the situation personally.

I was shocked at the content. The book is small but large in impact and the stories were so hot and freaky, but the points were educational. Wow!

 

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The Racy Files: Mr. Locario

Name:

Mr. Locario

Explain what makes you racy:

I’m a dating and life coach who likes to really keep it real and help people get what they desire. I know a lot of guys are really out here looking for sex so I wrote a book to help them out called “How to Have Sex with 2 Women a Day”

Why is being racy so much fun?

It’s so much fun because I’m just being myself and sometimes that pisses people off. I kind of get a kick out of people being mad at me for doing my own thing.

Any advice to prudes or sticks in the mud?

You only get 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and 365 days a year. Life is short so lighten up and have some fun.

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The Racy Files: Erica Sandberg

Name:

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Explain what makes you racy:

In my business – personal finance reporting – most people play it straight. They feel it’s the only way to be taken seriously. But that’s just not me. Sure these can be grave topics (we’re talking about unemployment, debt, and a super tough economy here), but delivery matters and I want to be entertaining and enjoyable to watch. I have no problem taking risks. I’ll do skits, put on costumes, tell jokes, even flirt. On camera, I tend not to conform to the standard “look.” I love beauty and wear what appeals, usually with my mad hair down. Maybe because I’m half Italian/Sicilian (the other half is Norwegian) I’m super animated. If I could, I’d physically grab each member of my audience when making a point. Being really passionate about my subject is in itself racy. I want everyone to be as excited, angry, amazed, or motivated about any given topic as I am.

Why is being racy so much fun?

Because it makes me feel alive. There is a uniform that almost all in my industry wear – literally, in terms of clothes, and figuratively in terms of behavior – and it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable to have it on too often. So I don’t unless the situation warrants it. But that’s my choice. To be racy means freedom and stimulation, and I need a ridiculous amount of both.

Any advice to prudes or sticks in the mud?

Sure! Some of my favorite people have trouble letting go. Being racy can be scary because you can get hurt, and I think that’s what makes so many hold back. So to them I say try it – stick your toe in the water by smiling at a random stranger or saying something totally honest and audacious to see how it feels to have your heart beat faster. You may not do it again, or too often, but I bet you’ll always remember it with a huge (if internal) smile. Ultimately, the simple truism “life is for living” is a mantra that everyone who is afraid to be hedonistic or who frowns upon those who are would be wise to adopt.

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