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Why It Makes Perfect Sense To Want A Man With Money

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I’m broke. Poor to be exact. I make less than $10,000 a year. A lot less actually. And, I have bad credit. Why would I want a man that is doing just as bad as I am or slightly better with no current plans or hopes of things looking up?

Money is not the most important quality in a man. In fact it’s not even a quality (is it?), but you know what I mean.

For instance, there is a man, an old and good friend of mine, who was interested in seriously dating me but he does not have his own home or apartment, has a mediocre job, he pays child support for one child and he cannot afford to save a damn dime.

And, that’s just what I know to be true about his financial status. I’m sure it’s worse.

Let’s forget that I am not into him at all romantically for a sec, but what if I was? As a woman in her late 30’s with a child of my own to take care of I cannot and will not entertain seriously dating a man that is struggling financially.

It does not make sense, especially in this day and age. Sex, I would entertain if I was sexually attracted to him, but anything other than that is off the table, permanently. However, sexual relationships get old quickly. At least for me.

I’m sure 100% of women, if asked, would say that they want a man with money and rightfully so. Not just any man with money. Of course he has to have things like integrity, drive, personality, good looks and even a nice ass, but financial security is a must when looking for a serious long term relationship.

Why? Because things cost. It costs to live and enjoy life. Bills have to be paid. A legacy has to be built and that cannot be done when one or both persons is poor. Besides, according to traditional values (which I don’t usually give a shit about), the man is supposed to be the head of the household, the breadwinner.

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For the record, not all woman who want a man with money are gold diggers. Smart people know the difference.

Now, you may be saying – “A man doesn’t want a broke woman either.” You may be right. That’s fair. Though I’m sure that most well to do men are more than okay with their woman making less than them. It’s an ego thing. A man thing. I’m OK with that.

Don’t get me wrong, if the woman is poor, lazy, has no drive and no plans on how to become financially stable, there is a problem. However, if it’s a woman like me or a woman who is also financially stable I’m sure a man can work with that.

I have a college education, ambition, goals, plans and I own a business, but it is not a successful business, in my eyes. Success for me would be generating a stable income for myself and my child where I would never have to skip paying my Consumers bill (or any bill for that matter) and I would not be driving around in a raggedy ass ’97 Escort for going on two years now without car insurance and tags. It’s a damn shame.

If I met a man I really liked who just happened to be a well off business man or a well off garbage man, take your pick, we could build a legacy together. Meaning he could invest in my business or perhaps we could build an entirely new business together. We could pool our talents and help each other.

As I type this I am thinking that it would be great to have an angel investor, male or female, but those are harder to come by than a viable significant other these days.

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Alan Roger Currie says – Let Women Know What Your Sexual Desires REALLY Are

Being ‘Mode One’: Let the Women Know What Your Sexual Desires & Interests REALLY Are

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Author and Professional Dating Coach, Alan Roger Currie, will be releasing the audiobook version of his popular self-help book for men, ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking’.

Men and women can listen to the audiobook for FREE if they sign up for a no-obligation 30-Day Trial Membership with Audible.com, the audiobook division of Amazon.com

Dangerous Lee: What is ‘Mode One’ behavior?

Author Alan Roger Currie: ‘Mode One’ represents a certain style of verbal interpersonal communication. In my book, ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking,’ I discuss what I refer to as the ‘Four Modes of Verbal Communication’ that all single heterosexual men use when conversing with a woman of interest.

Dangerous Lee: Using four or five adjectives, can you briefly describe all four modes?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Mode One – Confident, Upfront, Specific, Honest, Straight-to-the-point; Mode Two – Cautious, Polite, Flattering, Vague, Ambiguous; Mode Three – Dishonest, Disingenuous, Manipulative, Misleading, Timid; Mode Four – Angry, Bitter, Hateful, Misogynistic, Resentful

Dangerous Lee: It seems pretty obvious why a man would choose the ‘Mode One’ communication style over both the ‘Mode Three’ and ‘Mode Four’ communication styles, but what makes ‘Mode One’ style of communication significantly better than a ‘Mode Two’ style? Some people might consider ‘Mode One’ to be too blunt or too forward. Right?

Author Alan Roger Currie: So. Is it ‘too forward’ to tell a waiter or waitress, “I do not want any salt on my potatoes”? What about going up to a gas station attendant and saying, “I want twenty dollars on Pump #7.”? Damn, that is really, really blunt and forward.

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Dangerous Lee: Okay, I get your point (laughs). I have heard you mention on your talk radio show that because of your Mode One communication style, you have had sex with women only a few minutes after meeting them. True?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Yes.

Dangerous Lee: What’s the quickest you have had sex with a woman after first making her acquaintance?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Approximately ten-to-fifteen minutes after we first met.

Dangerous Lee: Really? What is so special about your Mode One style of verbal communication that gets women aroused so quickly?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Being rebellious. This is why many women adore ‘Bad Boy’ types as opposed to ‘Nice Guy’ types. A ‘bad boy’ is one whose behavior represents the attitude of, “I refuse to act the way your mommy and daddy probably told you that ‘polite gentlemen’ should act.

I am going to say what I really want to say in the exact manner that I want to say it.” On the other hand, ‘Nice Guy’ types go out of their way to try to say all of the typical flattering and polite things that they think women want to hear.

The thing is, deep down, both the ‘Bad Boy’ and the ‘Nice Guy’ have the same exact desire to date women and have sex with them. It’s just that Bad Boys are more upfront and straightforward about their desires and interests. Nice Guys feel more compelled to ‘beat-around-the-bush’ because they are too afraid of being labeled a ‘jerk’ or an ‘a**hole.’ Bad Boys don’t care about subjective labels and petty criticisms.

Dangerous Lee: So being Mode One is all about behaving like a ‘Bad Boy?’

Author Alan Roger Currie: Yes . . . and no. I never encourage men to specifically exhibit the behavior of a “jerk” or an “a**hole” with women, but I do tell men to do at least three things that will naturally cause women to perceive them as more of an intriguing ‘Bad Boy’ type than a boring, predictable ‘Nice Guy’ type.

Dangerous Lee: What are those three things?

Author Alan Roger Currie: You’ll have to listen to the audiobook.

Dangerous Lee: So Elliot Rodger, the young guy who killed those people in Santa Barbra, California earlier this year was in a Mode Four state of mind? Correct?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Exactly. Also George Sodini in 2009. My mission is to prevent as many single heterosexual men from transitioning into Mode Three Behavior and Mode Four Behavior. Nothing good comes out of either form of Behavior. Even Mode Two has a lot of negative effects on a man’s psyche in the long run. If nothing else, he becomes too consumed with trying to be the man he believes other people want him to be instead of just being himself.

Dangerous Lee: So I can listen to the audiobook version of ‘Mode One’ for free? How?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Anyone who signs up for a 30-Day Trial Membership with Audible.com can download and listen to the ‘Mode One’ audiobook for free, with no obligation, as long as ‘Mode One’ is the very first book they download from Audible.com. If the person already has a membership with Audible.com, then the offer to download it for free does not apply.

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Every Love Has An Ending

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I remember back when I was a child, I made up a song called “Every Love Has An Ending”.

I can also remember hitting record and singing into my cute and colorful boom box like I was a superstar. The song was about a cheating man who broke a woman’s heart. I can’t remember how old I was, but I’m sure I was younger than thirteen.

It had a nice lil’ groove to it and the lyrics spoke well beyond my years and experience. I wonder where in the hell I got the notion from?

Were my psychic abilities kicking in? Or was it just my writing skills coming out? Either way, it would seem that, at least in my experience, that sadly every love does have an ending contrary to the Hollywood happily ever after fantasy that has been pimped to us for a lifetime.

What do you think?

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I Told Him I Loved Him and You’ll Never Believe What He Said

TRUE STORY

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Him: Well…how do you know that?

Me: That’s an odd response coming from you. I never stopped loving you.

Him: That was hella random. No offense, but I don’t know how to respond to that.

Me: OK. I understand.

But, I didn’t understand. I still don’t. What I do understand is that the man I loved is dead. I am in love with a ghost. I love who he used to be. I do not love the man he is now and it’s obvious that he cannot or does not love me anymore.

This forces me to finally move on emotionally and try to make myself available to someone that will reciprocate my feelings though in my heart of hearts I have given up on the notion of true and real love.

How could I not? He was my first love. My true love and it was real, once. This hurts like hell and my heart is broken all over again. How in the hell is it still beating?

I hate that I love him. It’s a waste of emotion. I wish I knew how to make my heart move on along with the part of my mind that knows better.

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Why I’ve Slept With White Men And Will Do It Again

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Photo by Davio Curo – No, I didn’t sleep with this White guy, but I have thought about it.

I bet you think I’m about to get deep, but you’re wrong. Why does anyone decide to have sex with a person? They’re attracted to them. It’s as simple as that. I don’t discriminate. I like men. Their color, race, or heritage is not important. Does that surprise you?

It has nothing to do with self hatred, but I will admit that it was a curiosity. I’ve learned that men are men Black, White or otherwise. I used to believe that Black people who dated outside their race were indeed self haters, but that’s a blanket statement that is simply not true.

Good Men Are Not Like Busses

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Piggybacking off the above image; when those three or four come along they aren’t worth the ride. I haven’t been in a serious relationship in over ten years and I have yet to meet a man that would make me want to be in a relationship in those ten years.

When I have met a man that I thought was worth my time he made lying and game playing a priority. At this stage of my life I don’t feel that I need a man to be validated or happy, however I would like to have a male companion that I can spend some quality time with as well as have great sex; something else that I have not had in ages. I really hope this changes in 2013.

Update: Nothing changed in 2013 :/

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Q: What are the 8 mistakes not to make on your online dating profile?

Chad Stone, New Mexico

A: There are approximately 8 mistakes? You asked a question that implies you already know the answer, so I won’t waste my talents answering. However, answer me this; what is the #1 mistake you’ll regret making with Dangerous Lee?

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Karolyn Kato Huddleston Loves "Keep Your Panties Up and Your Skirt Down"

Great job! There should be a warning that says, “Don’t read this book unless you got someone near to sex to death” 🙂 I loved it! The first story (The Safe Sex Kit) was my personal favorite because I know the situation personally.

I was shocked at the content. The book is small but large in impact and the stories were so hot and freaky, but the points were educational. Wow!

 

Why Water Is Often Thicker Than Blood

“Blood is thicker than water” is a German proverb (originally: Blut ist dicker als Wasser.), which is also common in English speaking countries. It generally means that the bonds of family and common ancestry are stronger than those bonds between unrelated people (such as friendship).

Family (relative) bonds are sometimes only stronger out of obligation. Many people do not get along with or like certain members of their family, but will be there for them when the chips are down. For me, that’s what “Blood is thicker than water” really means. There is also a saying that goes something like, “friends are the family we choose for ourselves”.

What’s at the root of some family issues? Religion.

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