Donna Mae DePola

Women's History Month Spotlight: Donna Mae DePola – Founder

Donna Mae DePola

Name and Occupation?

Donna Mae DePola, Founder The Resource Training Center and The Resource Counseling Center

What do you love most about being a woman?
What I love most about being a woman, is that women can be ourselves at all times.  Our emotional being and feelings.  We are caretakers and women tend to fix things within other people’s hearts.  

What do you hate about being a woman?

That sometimes women don’t protect and respect each other.  Women can be overly critical about one another and judge women by the way they talk, dress or behave, rather than defend their right to do so.

Who or what influences you?

Besides, Oprah?  Powerful women who have made it in life, who may have struggled or may have been victims.  It is so wonderful to see a person who has been troubled, overcome their demons & come out of the shadows to helps others.  

Tell us something about you that would surprise us:

That in spite of my life I hold no animosity, nor am I a victim, but a survivor.  I don’t blame others for what I am responsible for, and take responsibility for my own life. I hope to continue to live by power of example for others who have survived what I have survived. 


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Name & Occupation:

Tiarra Currie, Graduate Student at Columbia University Teachers College, Residential Counselor at GEMS, and Respite Worker for the Bendel Youth Empowerment Program

What do you love about being a woman?

I love the struggle of a woman and how complex we are.  We are resilient. There is no simple way to explain us. We have certain strengths that we gain through our experiences that we don’t even understand. A woman is multitasked; we are mothers, wives and girlfriends, daughters, entrepreneurs, and scholars. We are irreplaceable. Looking back through my journey I have been hurt, lied to, abandoned, disrespected, talked about badly, and failed but I don’t live there and a stranger looking at me would never know.  We as woman endure these pains as they drive us to keep going.

What do you hate about being a woman?

I hate that we are so emotional. I cry about everything and many times I don’t even know why. I over think everything. I hate that we have been socialized to be nurturers and we put everyone else before our own well being. I don’t want to be 40 and not know what makes me happy because I spent my life making everyone else happy.

Who or what inspires you?

Love inspires me. I love love. I have learned so much about myself from being in love. I found who I am supposed to be because I was able to be vulnerable with people who mean the world to me. The who that inspires me is my family. I wake up and feel like I am their prayers answered. In everything I do, I am pushing to make history and give my family everything they never got to see because they made sacrifices for my life.

Tell us something about yourself that would surprise us!

I don’t own any flats. I cannot concentrate if I do not have on heels. Heels are a part of my life. It is my signature. People know me for always wearing heels. I feel most comfortable with them on. It’s kind of a metaphor for my life. In every strut I take, I own my purpose.

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Name and Occupation: 

Kristin Pedderson
CEO/Owner Big Fuss Records Inc.

What do you love about being a woman? 

I love my curvy shape and love to wear beautiful high quality classic clothes that incorporate rich colors and fine fabrics.  I love to cook and I love my home.  I love curling my hair.

I am old fashion. I grew up with two brothers, and my closest friends were often men.  I gravitate toward men and enjoy the two way comfort and encouragement I experience with men in my life. I love my sexuality.  It’s about love and friendship. I love the way it feels to be protected and looked after by an emotionally open man who is also physically strong.  I feel like a total woman when he cares for me, and I love caring for a masculine and sturdy man as the capable woman I am.  Dynamic, loving and encouraging, I love having gal pals to spend time with, sharing and supporting each other in friendship.  I love that I can be my own person. A woman who is a leader that is smart, strong and sexy, and still feminine and soft inside and out, sometimes weak and needing compassion and covering.

I’ve learned to love the skin I’m in and most of all my loving heart. I even love the emotion I feel as a woman; the tears that often flow with the ups and downs in life. A famous singer once said that “love is understanding”, I love understanding and as a woman I feel naturally inclined toward this.

What do you hate about being a woman? 

I hate that woman make 60-70% on the dollar to what a man makes when it comes to professional employment and income.  I believe woman should be paid according to their work ethic. Gender should not influence the ability for a woman to get promoted or an equal rate of pay for a similar position.

I hate that some men appear to be intimidated by a strong woman who thinks for herself. I have met men who believe a woman who is a leader and runs her own business and household, can be a ball breaker of sorts, and difficult to get along with. I feel that this is untrue and stems from insecurity.  I believe both sexes are endowed with understanding and when a person is strong, they are weak too. We have all sides.  The strongest men can appreciate a woman’s strength and prefer to lift up.  Not put down. I believe in Christ principles of service to one another. It takes a strong man to admit he’s wrong at times and to serve LOVE over ego. It takes a strong woman to do the same and I believe this to be the answer for equality.

Something about you that would shock people?

For most of my life I have been polyamorous. (Pertaining to multiple and simultaneous loving relationships) I am very selective about who I, let in, get close to and trust.  For me love takes time. When I had my spiritual awakening twenty three years ago, I felt a knowing in my spirit to “Practice Non-Attachment”. I felt this was an essential word for me because I saw so much divorce, abandonment and short term love around me, and in my life, prior to awakening. I felt an understanding of this path would be the highest good for me.  I trusted all my needs for LOVE would be met.  (I also have/had a big dream of rock and roll music on my heart, which seemed a lot like TRUE LOVE)

As a guru, I thought OK; but does this mean I must live without love, sex and intimacy?  I walked on, and in the past years I have been more free and whole than ever. Perhaps I have not met “One” individual love yet; a man who walks in integrity and equality with me. Perhaps he will appear at an opportune time, but for now, my life already knows lasting love. It comes in more than one individual.

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The Racy Files: Mr. Locario


Mr. Locario

Explain what makes you racy:

I’m a dating and life coach who likes to really keep it real and help people get what they desire. I know a lot of guys are really out here looking for sex so I wrote a book to help them out called “How to Have Sex with 2 Women a Day”

Why is being racy so much fun?

It’s so much fun because I’m just being myself and sometimes that pisses people off. I kind of get a kick out of people being mad at me for doing my own thing.

Any advice to prudes or sticks in the mud?

You only get 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and 365 days a year. Life is short so lighten up and have some fun.

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Book Spotlight: Thank Goodness You Dumped His Ass!

Author Charly Emery is proud to announce the release of her new book, Thank Goodness You Dumped His Ass: Use Those Mr. Wrongs to Lead You Straight to Mr. Right. With a refreshingly frank and entertaining writing style, Emery focuses solely on results by delivering a set of simple, specific and strategic steps that ensure success in the relationship market.

I asked Charly the following question and her answer follows:

Dangerous: I have not been in a relationship in 10 years. Men find me intimidating and unless I am initially physically attracted to someone I don’t give them the time of day. What is my problem?

Charly: I’d need more info to be super specific, however taking your question at face value, I’ll give you what comes to mind in general.

Most of the time we think men are intimidated when they don’t approach or fail to pursue something they start further, but to be real… sometimes if we have a harsh or cut and dry attitude toward them and/or relationships, men pick up on it and would rather avoid the situation. It’s the “I don’t need a man” stance, and it works really well as a deterrent. Of course we don’t need them, but putting off that vibe is more undesirable to a guy than it is intimidating.

Now I don’t know anything about you, but you haven’t been in a relationship for 10 years, so clearly something about you is not translating for those guys you are attracted to either. My advice would be to first assess what your true feelings toward men and relationships are. If you are conflicted about wanting to meet someone or a love relationship in general, you’ll block men from approaching you energetically very easily —even if you don’t think so. If you’re afraid that adding a man threatens your identity or sense of independence, you could also block them. No matter how you slice it, men need to be attracted to you just as much as you want to be attracted to them, and if something about your personality is non-welcoming, they’re going to move onto the someone who appears to be more open. I’d ask yourself honestly what the value even is for you to add a man to your life —because if you’re not clear about that, or don’t believe there is much value you’ll also block men very effectively.

Our attitudes toward men and relationships have a lot to do with who we attract (and don’t attract). If you want to attract a good guy for you, you’ve got to be clear about wanting the relationship, welcome one into your life by recognizing that it will add value and then make sure you’re motivated by the right reasons —perhaps in your case, you’re just not really motivated at all… Love is business and you’ve got to assess your mission statement in the relationship market just as clearly as you defined the purpose and plan for your website. I run through the entire process in my book so women are empowered to own who they are in and out of the process, while dumping any residual baggage too.

In truth it’s never the man we’re after. The product we want is the relationship experience —from a business perspective, the man is simply the market that yields the product.

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