I am a huge Lady Gaga fan, but even I’m not feeling her latest release, ART POP, and her fashion has always been insane but her latest costumes are giving me the stink face where I usually find her fashion funky and stylish. I’m not into the ART POP Gaga, but I’m still a loyal Little Monster!
I know my artiness + musical goals may seem lofty, but there is a POP STAR IN THE LOUVRE, right next to the Mona Lisa pic.twitter.com/6XNYfEFRK1
— Lady Gaga (@ladygaga) November 21, 2013
It’s hard to imagine a life without facebook these days. It makes it so much easier to keep in touch with all of the people in our lives, no matter how far away they are. And yet, sometimes people are put off from visiting the tool, thanks to the annoying way in which their friends abuse it.
Many of you will recognize the behaviors depicted in this infographic. The facebook users who seem to tell nothing but lies when they’re online, or those who simply exaggerate the truth to a ridiculous degree. There are also those who never seem to pipe down about their latest gig or event, or continuously try to get you to share their latest business updates – like you care. Then there are the foodies, who do nothing but post pictures of dodgy looking meals that either they have cooked or have been served in some unappealing restaurant. Above all, those who update their status with inane and pointless comments are the most irritating, at least according to a study carried out by LoveMyVouchers.co.uk last month.
Check out the rest of the findings in this infographic and see who you can recognize amongst the user types. It’s highly likely that you will know at least one of each!
Created by http://www.LoveMyVouchers.co.uk based on their poll of 1063 newsletter subscribers.
“Selfies” are as common place on the internet now as “reality shows” are on television. Voyeurism is all the rage and we all want to encourage others to take a peek (within reasonable limits of course) into our intimacy. Social media sites such as Twitter, Facebook and Instagram coupled with always on hand, always ready smartphone cameras we have the ultimate opportunity to share ourselves with the world and his (or her) dog (or cat). And I am sure that all of us want to look our best and appreciate a few compliments from our friends (or complete strangers for that matter) on how good we look.
So how to make sure that the “selfie” posted on our Facebook page will garner a sigh of admiration rather than a howl of derisory laughter? Here are a few tips to keep in mind next time you point that “eye” at yourself with the intention of letting others in on the view.
WHAT’S YOUR STORY?
What do you want to share? Did you just get a new haircut? Have you just bought a slinky new black dress? Are you on your way to do a bungee jump? Have you just discovered a brilliant new Korean restaurant? Are you just having a quiet evening at home with your pet?
Have your “selfie” tell a story. After all you wouldn’t call someone on the phone without having something to say, would you? Unless you are Narcissus reincarnated, your “selfie” should be more than just showing off your cute nostrils! “Selfies” are as much a statement about who you are and what you are about as they are about how wonderful you look.
Another suggestion would be not to take yourself completely seriously all the time, have fun and share it with your viewers. Most people are not all that fond of others who are self-absorbed and self-important. But they will delight in the company of good natured, good humored and fun-loving individuals. So have fun, share the joy and people will take pleasure in looking at your “selfie”.
Part of any good story is the backdrop against which it takes place. Pay attention to the background when you are taking your “selfie”. What does putting on your motorbike leathers and then posing in front of the bathroom mirror to show off your lovely porcelain toilet bowl in the background say about you? People will most likely get hold of an end of the stick that you didn’t even imagine existed. At the very best the background should enhance your narrative and at worst it should not detract from your story. If you cannot find a background that suits your story, go for a simple, clean, neutral backdrop.
OK, so 99.83 percent of the people taking a “selfie” are likely to be as far removed from a professional photographer as a two year old child with crayons is from Rembrandt. Good lighting is essential if you want to maximize the chances of netting compliments about your exciting life and your absolutely gorgeous complexion and skin.
Try and find even lighting and avoid light that creates harsh shadows. The absolutely ideal times for an outdoor “selfie” are the “magic hours” of the day (first couple of hours after sunrise and last couple of hours before sunset).
Consider how you want the light to enhance your portrait, for example backlighting can help create a halo effect around your head and can be very flattering.
Avoid overhead lighting, as this will just create shadows on the lower half of the face (the classic being a deep shadow under your nose and over your lip) which will not flatter you at all. If available on the device you are using try using fill-in flash to lighten the shadows.
Do a search on the internet for “selfies”, and you are likely to find yourself immersed in shots with either part of an arm leading your gaze into the rest picture or a reflection in the mirror. There is nothing wrong with either one of these techniques per se. But sticking to just these two methods is soon going to prove very limiting in what you can show about yourself. If you are a “selfie” junkie, it may be worth your while to consider investing in a mini tripod and a free self-timer app for your smartphone that will allow you to provide some variety to your “selfies”.
The best angle to take a “selfie” is probably with the lens slightly above the eye line. This provides a flattering angle and also may help hide the double-chin that some of us have the misfortune of sporting. Avoid shooting from below unless you really do want to demonstrate just how heavy you can look.
Avoid the classic beginner’s mistake of placing yourself dead center in the image. This makes for a boring, static, stagnant image and only creates the impression of you hanging in the middle of nowhere with nothing exciting likely to happen. Instead, try using the rule of thirds to create a more dynamic and interesting composition, for example try placing your eyes a third of the way down from the top of the frame.
Taking a straight-on shot can give you a flat, one-dimensional appearance. Turning the head or body about three-quarters of the way toward the camera provides an attractive angle for the self-portrait. However, it is important to stay subtle, don’t over-exaggerate the angles and avoid extreme head tilts or turns that look unnatural (unless you are trying to illustrate that you are double-jointed).
In the end don’t go overboard with the posing. Even the supermodels taking “selfies”, don’t bother too much with striking a glamorous pose. The idea of a “selfie” is to share something about yourself, your life and your interest. It should remain accessible and sincere. In any case, jutting your leg out from the side of a slit dress in an overtly sexy pose is not going to make up for the bad hair day you may be having. If your pose is awkward, it will show. Keep it natural and people will appreciate that your “selfie” is about sharing rather than self-indulging narcissism.
DON’T SPY ON YOURSELF
Most of the devices used for “selfies” now provide a self-facing camera, permitting the subject to make sure that he or she is in frame and correctly positioned when taking the shot. Unfortunately, this feature has done nothing to cure the phenomena that I call “surreptitiously spying on myself”, whereby you may more often than not, notice the “selfie” looking towards the lens out of the corner of his or her eyes, while trying desperately to appear as if the camera was the last thing that was of any interest. It just makes for the most ridiculous of self-portraits and I doubt if it would illicit any sort of admiration as to the prowess of the photographer or the attractiveness of the subject (and as you are both, you lose out twice). So either look directly at the lens to make it clear that that was your intent all along, or take the shot after you have made sure you are in frame and completely look away from the camera. Spying on yourself out of the corner of your eyes will only make you look insecure, unconfident and creepy.
There are just some days on which a photo will simply fail to capture all that gorgeousness that is really you. And on such days, an app for your smartphone may just prove to be your hair stylist, makeup artist and best friend. There are tons of apps available that will provide any variety of effects to enhance your “selfie”, ranging from minimizing a distracting shine on your face all the way up to adding a bit of warmth and glow to the light.
If all else fails, try converting yourself to monochrome. It may just well hide all the faults and also win you some kudos for being an “artiste”.
I hope the above will prove helpful next time you wish to allow us in to take a peek into your world and will give you a few ideas on how to take a “selfie” worthy of yourself.
Abdul Sami Haqqani is a professional photographer who contributes his work and expertise to the Dremastime Stock Photography community. His profile and portfolio can be found at: dreamstime.com/shadow69_info
Name and Occupation:
Latonya G. Givens aka Tone Trezure. I am an singer/artist/ musician and composer.
What do you love about being a woman?
What I love about being a woman is that we hold the keys to any or everything in this world. We have the power to heal, to nurture to sculpt minds. The first voice a child hears is it’s mothers. We have the power to make or break souls.
What do you hate about being a woman?
What is there truly to hate about being a woman? I am provided the same opportunities as men and I have more weapons to win the world over. These long lashes, my beautiful brown eyes, my curvy hips, my big lips… a brain the size of Mt. Rushmore with a imagination that won’t stop. I love being a woman. I love the fact that I can mind-f@ck just about anyone if they let me. Hypnotizing…
Something about you that would shock people?
Something about me that would shock people is that I wanted to be a Country and Western singer when I was growing up. I love storytelling and no one tells a story like a good soul from the country.
Whether it be a closet full of sexy dresses or a compliment from a stranger, there are many ways to feel sexy. The idea of being sexy is desirable to most; everyone wants to be desired. But everyone also has different ideas on being sexy actually means. Is it all about our looks? Must you have flawless skin and a body to die for to be considered sexy? Does sexiness come naturally or do we have to work for it?
To be sexy means you have something worth paying attention to. If you want to get the attention of others, be it for a relationship or just simple attention, it’s important to feel confident in your own skin. There are a few ways to achieve this level of confidence that will surely get you noticed. The trick to being sexy is also sustaining that appeal so that others will be inspired by, or jealous of, your knack for charismatic appeal.
First, if you wake up every morning hopeful and looking toward another day of new surprises and glorious happenings, you will exude a positive energy that will draw people toward you. Positive energy is both sexy and contagious and will change the way you feel about yourself and those around you.
Secondly and thirdly, it’s important to keep your physical appearance and overall health a priority. These two ideas go hand in hand as they greatly affect each other. If you take care of your body with exercise and proper diet, your skin and hair will radiate and receive the best results of your healthful lifestyle. It’s imperative to consider what you eat and how you move when attempting to reach goals related to how you look.
When you feel good, you look good, and vice versa. And when these two behaviors align, it’s fun to add accessories, sexy dresses, and other ornamental wardrobe components to make you feel more attractive and desirable. Play dress up for yourself and see how you feel in your existing wardrobe and make some changes. Go for a shopping spree with friends and share your secrets to being sexy as you add some colorful pieces to your personal clothing line and maybe some flirty jewelry too.
And finally, to be sexy means to be naturally appealing so never lose your sense of humor and ability to laugh at yourself. The way you conduct yourself in silly and even stressful situations radiates a certain sense of class and sexiness that cannot be taught or faked. True and genuine character is very entwined with what people find desirable and sexy.
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What is the ethnic background of your parents?
My father is Black and Sicilian, my mom is Cherokee and Spanish
What type of colorism have you had to face and how did you deal with it?
Since I was very young I remember being called Oreo, mutt, half-breed, etc. Many times I would face opposition from both sides of the fence, Blacks would call me White, while Whites would call me Black. It became difficult for me to know where I fit in, so I would usually retreat into myself with reading and painting. As I got older, it became less of an issue with friends, but more of an issue with men who considered me ‘exotic’ or became stuck on light skin and long hair. Having moved to the south recently has brought up color issues in my life again, I’ve learned to move past all of that and be comfortable with myself. What others think of my nationality is no longer my concern.
What do you think of the terms mixed, biracial, or mulatto?
I think that those terms can be used by some to make themselves feel better about who they are as people. When someone needs to claim Spanish, White or Indian in their lineage because they don’t think being Black is good enough, it’s more of a crutch or status symbol. I think those terms can be used factually, but more often are used to make biracial people feel better or worse about themselves, depending on who’s using them.
What do you have to say to people that think if you look White that you are not Black?
Know yourself and know that you are far more than the color of your skin. Allowing other people to dictate who you are racially or as a human being is detrimental to your spiritual health. YOU make the decision about who you are and what you represent. It’s your life, your heritage and your decision to be true to who you are, all of your life. To be the best you, regardless of what color you represent or how others see you.
Where can we find you online?
FB – www.facebook.com/theycallmechase
Twitter – @darlingchase
Instagram – darlingchase
There should actually be no reason why you have to tell someone you do not like them – except sometimes people forget that not everyone wants to receive a text from them, be their friend on Facebook, or be uploaded to their social media pages at a party you both attended.
It is best to avoid anyone you really do not like – human instincts are there for a reason and until you know someone really well (and by this time it can be too late) you never know why it is you may not like them.
However, if it reaches the stage where you have decided you do not like someone – but they persist in contacting you or uploading you to their Facebook wall, it is time to broach the subject.
Instead of going straight into divorce, why not speak to a solicitor for legal separation advice. This means you do not have to rush into divorce.
Lyric Da Queen was mentored by successful music executive Simon Cowell during her time on “The X Factor,” but soon, she may be working with an artist who has been successful in her musical genre.
Last weekend, the Flint native connected on Twitter with award-winning, multiplatinum-selling rapper Missy Elliott.
Read more at - MLive.com.
There is a new trend these days with upcycling and crafting not just as a hobby anymore but as a means for just about anybody to make a little extra money. Sites like Etsy and Indie Handmade offer the crafter the ultimate platform and an opportunity to set up shop and reach consumers on the internet world wide. These sites are saturated with clothing and jewelry, cards and cool décor for the home, pretty much anything that you can imagine, you can now find and purchase online.
The coolest thing about these new trendy web markets is that you get to help support artists all over the world, and when you buy from them, you are helping to make it possible for them to continue doing what they love. A great deal of time and effort and money for supplies goes into creating each piece you find, so the question lies, do people actually make a worthwhile amount of money on these sites? Is it really worth the effort?
Every bit of feedback and discussion I can find on the subject suggests that yes, you can make a great deal of money selling your items on these sites, IF you know what you are doing and you are smart about it. I read a post from a man that said he was able to pay his rent each month with the money he made by selling on Etsy. There were plenty of others who posted saying that they made “a lot of money” or enough to be considered a part time job at a regular wage. When you consider the fact that you are able to stay home and create, possibly be with your family all day, if you have one, it seems worth it to me.
There was one common thread among these successful artist, and that was that they said when selling on sites like these, you have to be smart and work wisely in order to turn and keep a profit. Etsy for example, is free to set up a shop, and then it costs a dollar to post your first 10 items. If you start by only posting those first 10, then the cost of starting up your business is a dollar. Then you leave yourself some time to adapt your prices to what is selling from your shop and where you think you need to set them in order to not only sell but to turn a profit as well.
There is a epidemic on these sites of artists undervaluing their work and taking prices way below where they would normally be if the items were sold in a boutique simply to gain customers. One artist argues that while lowering the price of an item may help you to gain the sale this time, by doing so, you cause other artists to have to lower their prices as well in order to stay competitive. It is a vicious cycle and the result of it all will be that these sites will become simply a place to gain exposure by getting your pieces out there, and no one will be able to make any profit from selling anymore.
Do your research on the average price that items like yours are going for and choose a similar price point to start with. If you feel like your items are worth a certain amount, price them there and give it time.
Many of the artists advise commenting on the available forums within the site and using other forms of social media like Reddit and Facebook to generate knowledge of your products and traffic to your shop. Creating a buzz is always a good thing when you have a product to sell. No one can buy what you have if they don’t know it exists. Post daily pictures of your products on Facebook so they show up in the news feed and encourage your friends to share them.
When you are running a business, it is very important to keep a tight handle on the finances, this is the case for these shops especially. It may be easy at first to take the little bit that you are making in the beginning and turn around and spend it all up on more supplies. This is a trap that the successful sellers say you have to avoid. Create a separate account for your shop money and make sure you are not spending more than you make. This should be rule number 1, unless of course you are doing it simply just for fun.
Author Byline: Jennifer Ricci works for Cedar Education Lending consulting for student loan consolidation help. She is also a contributor to a handful of financial blogs and publications.
For the record, I absolutely refuse to ever put my relationship status on Facebook. I think its ridiculous, juvenile, and far too exploitable. Having said that, most people do not share my highly evolved position on the separation of intimacy and the internet. For whatever reason, millions of people feel the need voluntarily turn their lives into a public soap opera by broadcasting their relationship status on Facebook and creating a lot of self imposed problems.
We all have that one friend who enjoys chaos. Her life is a seemingly endless string of intense, tumultuous, and very short lived relationships. Admit it, part of you likes being a voyeur to drama and takes just a little pleasure in seeing the constant evolution of a dying relationship play itself out on a global stage. On Friday, you see that she has gone from “single” to “in a relationship”. Then a night out on the town inevitably brings on a fight, and Saturday ushers in a new age of decline when your grieving friend goes from “in a relationship” to “its complicated”. Now, keep in mind that the only reason someone publicly announces that their relationship is in trouble is because they want what I call, “the sympathy symphony”.
Everyone immediately comes to her rescue and surrounds her with validation and compliments. This infuses her with a temporary sense of self respect. Then, since nobody likes being single on a Saturday night, the crazy couple reunites, and you see the status switch again from “its complicated” back to “in a relationship”. This illicites cheers from the stands of her Facebook friends who have been following the drama. But as the weekend winds down, something else comes up, (of course) and the brief life of this couple comes to an end. By Monday morning, she has gone from “in a relationship” back to “single”.
End scene. Crowd disperses till next weekend.
The Impact of Social Media on Committed Relationships
According to an article by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, a staggering 81% of the nation’s top divorce attorneys say Facebook has been the primary source of online evidence in their cases, and the number is only rising. If Facebook can separate two people who took vows to be together forever, one can only guess how many boyfriend/girlfriend couples this site has severed.
Temptation to Reach Out
In a recent article, The Wall Street journal states, “Facebook is different from most social networks or dating sites in that it both reconnects old flames and allows people to ‘friend’ someone they may only met once in passing. It puts temptation in the path of people who would never in a million years risk having an affair.” Apparently for some married folks being able to contact their barista crushes is just too much to handle. Ever heard of a little thing called ‘self-control’ people? Apparently not.
Reuniting With Old Flames
Finding an old crush, hook-up, or boyfriend/girlfriend on Facebook is really easy. Unless it was a particularly nasty breakup, you probably never even unfriended them. Reaching out to a past love interest and reminiscing about the “good ‘ol times” recalls the feelings for one or both of the people. The longer the jaunt down memory lane, the better the chances that an emotional or physical affair will occur. At the very least, you can guarantee that your current partner will be seriously peeved if he or she catches you chatting it up with an ex.
Getting A Little Too Honest With Status Updates
The “What’s on your mind” question in the status update box is, not a command. Relationships have lots of ups and downs. Using Facebook to announce marriage problems, debate issues in your relationship, or just rant on a spouse is only going to make a conflicted relationship more “complicated”. Show some restraint and stay off Facebook if you’re upset with your boo.
The people I know who have never had an issue arise in their relationships because of Facebook all have one thing in common: They understand that Facebook isn’t real, and don’t become overly invested in it. Sites like Facebook are great for distracting superficial communication, posting quirky status updates, and sharing funny pics, but don’t confuse it with authentic human connection. If you feel the need to validate your relationship, go out for a romantic dinner. If you need to share an intimate problem, call a good friend. Seeing Facebook for what it is, allows you to step back and regain control. Remember people, it’s just a frickin website.
Author Byline: Kristen Bright is the social media consultant for Instant Checkmate. Instant Checkmate is a personal criminal background check provider, and does not perform employment screening of any kind.
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Sean Hampton & Matt Getic – Creators of ‘The S&M Experience’
Explain what makes you racy:
Sean: We write comedy material that deals with race, sexuality, and culture. Matt and I are equal opportunity offenders so no one is safe from our satire. Along with that we don’t hold back. It’s not enough to make a skit talking about a certain celebrity and his alleged sexual encounters at a massage parlor, we have to give the audience the secret hidden audio recordings too.
Why is being racy so much fun?
Matt: Because many people are too politically correct. I love that we can put out a comedy skit that gets emails from one group of people saying it’s genius and emails from another group saying it’s a sign of the apocalypse. It wouldn’t be as much fun if it wasn’t for the haters.
Any advice to prudes or sticks in the mud?
Sean: I’ll quote a line from a classic John Belushi character: “My advice to you is to start drinking heavily.”
Matt: Sex. Eat. Repeat.
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