Reasons Why I Would Hire A Male Escort


Professional Male Escort, Ash Armand, from the Showtimes series, Gigolos.

Have you ever watched Gigolos, the Showtime series about male escorts in Las Vegas? It’s very entertaining and comical. Why? Because in my opinion, none of the men are as smooth or desirable as they think they are. They also have weak stroke game in the bed although the female clients on the show swear it’s one of the best sexual experiences they’ve ever had.

Most of the women who hire male escorts do it for the same reasons as men who hire female escorts; they are busy professionals that don’t have time for relationships or haven’t had luck with relationships and need a lil’ sexual healing. However, with rates like $800 for two hours and $3,000 for an overnight rendezvous, I won’t be hiring a male escort anytime soon.

I’m a busy woman, but I do have time for a relationship and I very much would like to be in a relationship, but having been single for more than ten years and not having had sex in over a year, I am a great candidate to hire a male escort. I have sexual needs that aren’t currently being met!


My Celebrity Crush – Wentworth Miller. Yes, I know he’s gay!

The great thing about escorts is that you get exactly what you pay for. You don’t have to deal with diseases, drama or heartbreak. You can just have fun and use him any way you see fit because he has to do whatever you pay him to do; within reason of course. Gigolos is looking for women to submit sexy ideas for the new season and I was seriously considering applying to be on the show, but who am I kidding? I can only enjoy sex with someone that I have strong feelings for or someone that looks like Wentworth Miller!

Would you hire an escort? What would you do with him?

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The Half Series Interviews: Jerian DiMattei

jerian What is the ethnic background of your parents?

My mother’s ethnic background is Italian and my father’s ethnic background is black.

What type of colorism have you had to face and how did you deal with it?

Being half white and half black, my coloring and features suggest I may be several different ethnicities. Many people have assumed I am of the Hispanic decent, dominican, or more often, very tan. People approach me on a regular basis and ask me where I just came from, on vacation, or compliment my color and ask how I get so tan.

What do you think of the terms mixed, biracial, or mulatto?

I consider myself mixed or biracial being that I am a mix of two ethnicities. I do not consider them to be offensive. I have not really come across the term mulatto so I don’t have a comment on that one.

What do you have to say to people that think if you look White that you are not Black?

I think a lot of times people refer to White/Black as a cultural reference rather than actual ethnicity, which is odd to me. In the end, you are what you are, regardless of what you look like. Also, I find that a lot of people ask “what are you?” or “where are you from?” when referring to ethnic background. I could answer “I am a person” and “I am from New York”. Rarely do I hear people ask “What is your ethnicity”, which I believe is the correct wording.

Anything else you`d like to add?

This a very interesting topic, that can also be confusing. For me, I am happy with who I am and the way I look. I love my coloring and features and I am proud to be bi-racial. However, as far as culture, I grew up with my mom and her Italian side of the family. So as a culture, I feel closer to my white/Italian side, but ethnically, I am still half white and half black.

Read the series that sparked the interview: The Half Series – When Black People Look White


Black History Month Spotlight: Asha Tarry – Social Advocate & Licensed Mental Health Professional


Name and occupation?
Asha Tarry, Social Advocate & Licensed Mental Health Professional

What do you love most about being a Black woman?
I love that I have so many talents and I feel unstoppable at this time in history, especially, with them.

Who or what inspires you?
I am inspired by other self motivated creative people who don’t let limitations stop them from fulfilling their dreams. I’m also inspired by people who are confident enough to reveal their true selves

What advice do you have for other Black women or men?
For Black women, my advice is to stop living the legacy of myths of untruths that were passed down from former generations. It limits your progress. For Black men, my advice is to take more risks in your careers and love life.

Anything else you`d like to add?
I am a change maker and I knew earlier in life that I was here to make a real difference in the world, especially for young people of color. I am inspired by their free spirits.

Where can we find you online?

  • Black History Month Spotlight: Savannah Britt – Owner & Editor in Chief of Girlpez Magazine (
  • Black History Month Spotlight: Merisa Parson Davis – Author of “Bill Cosby IS Right” (

Women’s History Month Spotlight: Shobha Tummala

Name and occupation:

Shobha Tummala

Entrepreneur – Founder & CEO of Shobha

What do you love most about being a woman?

I love that I can be both strong and soft at the same time which I attribute to my female ‘super powers’ —  innate compassion for others  and the ability to multi-task.

Have you had to deal with much sexism in your industry?

I’ve been very lucky when it comes to dealing with sexism, and really haven’t had to deal with much of it. However, I am aware of certain situations in which sexism is known to rear its ugly head – like raising money and selling companies. Those are the type of situations in which people say that women run into sexism.  Occasionally, I’ve experienced sexism during our construction projects when we build out our salon spaces, but now that we have done so many, I am familiar with the industry lingo and know what I am doing, so the guys get over it pretty quickly.

Do you belong to any organizations catered to women business owners?

I don’t belong to any specific organizations that are women centric. However, I do have a bunch of informal networks of women that we get together exchange ideas, get support and discuss issues. 

Who or what inspires you most?

Both my grandfathers inspire me the most. They educated themselves, built businesses, and went against the grain of the family to achieve it all. I am so proud of them. They forged their own paths and that is so incredibly inspiring to me. 

Something about you that would surprise us:

My family and I, including my very active and inquisitive two year old son, reside in Maryland, while my other babies – my three salons and product line live in New York, along with my team.

Advice for women entrepreneurs:

1. Believe in Your Brand: In terms of creating a brand – or more specifically her brand – Shobha knew exactly what she wanted it to be. She was creating her brand based on her needs and personal pet peeves. Tummala says, “You have to believe and be passionate about it before others can believe in it.” In fact, when she first opened Shobha, Tummala was the receptionist in the salon, so she got a chance to not only get to know the clients, but bond with them. Tummala says, “It was probably one of the most enjoyable times in my life because I got to see every day what worked and what didn’t in a very direct way.”

2. Trust Your Gut: Tummala says, “For aspiring entrepreneurs, I can only speak from my own experience, and the one tip I can offer is to trust your gut.” She continues by saying, “You can do a ton of research and analysis, but when it comes to making the ultimate decision, it has to feel good, not only to me, but to my team and our clients.” Being an entrepreneur is challenging, but that’s partly why she does it – Shobha has the ability to right a wrong, change lives, and change the game of an industry!

3. It’s OK to Ask for Help: When thinking about the advice she would give to her young self, Tummala says, “I would tell myself to bring in more people to help me at the very beginning. I was in the business doing everything for almost 3 years before I really brought people in to help me. I was so afraid of failure that I never invested in the company or myself really early on. I wish I had.” It would have made those early years much more enjoyable for Tummala. She says, “Hindsight is always 20/20, but now I understand why they say experience matters. If I started a company, I would go about it very differently in some ways than I did back then.”

Website and social media links:

  • Women’s History Month Spotlight: Shobha Tummala (
  • Women’s History Month Spotlight: Peggy McHale (
  • Women’s History Month Spotlight: Sandi Webster (
  • Women’s History Month Spotlight: Cindy Clemens (
  • Womens History Month Spotlight: Vee Carson (
  • Women’s History Month Spotlight: Erika Lyremark (
  • Women’s History Month Spotlight: Katerina Y. Taylor (
Erika Lyremark

Women’s History Month Spotlight: Erika Lyremark

Name and occupation:

Erika Lyremark (“Lira-Mark”), Business coach and mastermind behind The Daily Whip, where I teach beautiful babes to be bad-ass business women.

What do you love most about being a woman?

That it affords me so much choice! (I would have answered differently if you’d asked me this, say, 300 years ago.) I have an incredible array of options as a woman.

Have you had to deal with much sexism in your industry?

One of the benefits of working exclusively with other women is that that particular hurdle just isn’t an issue. Having spent 9 years as a stripper and 9 years working in commercial real estate, I’ve seen the other end of the spectrum, and it’s impressive. I like where I am now.

Do you belong to any organizations catered to women business owners?

Currently there are more than 150 women in my online community with whom I interact regularly – that’s organization enough for me! That said, I am a host for Tory Johnson’s Spark & Hustle National Tour.

Who or what inspires you most?

My dad. My mom. Oprah. Seeing my clients go from scared and scrounging to soaring pros.

Something about you that would surprise us:

I live in Minneapolis, and not New York, L.A. or San Francisco!

Advice for women entrepreneurs:

Treat your business like a lady. Hustle, hustle, hustle, then hustle some more. Always ask for the dance.

Website and social media links:



Top Story: Video – Nude Body Painting in Times Square

New York model, Zoe West, was arrested after her naked body was turned into art in Times Square New York by artist, Andy Goulb. Charges were later dropped against Zoe, but Mr. Goulb is no stranger to creating a spectacle as he was charged with public lewdness last month with two other models. Check out a video of his work from a couple of years ago. At least the woman in the video has panties on!

Art, Attention Seeking, or Both?


Movie Review: The Smurfs 3D

Absolutely hated it! Before seeing the film, I hated that the Smurfs were even being made into a live action film. Was this really needed or necessary? Which movie exec said, “You know what we need, a Smurfs movie!”. No, we didn’t, and we especially did not need them to arrive in New York City.

I hated the way the smurfs looked, acted, and I hated their voices each time one of them failed to be cute or clever. Furthermore, watching Neal Patrick Harris play a doting husband and expectant father was a joke. The man is openly gay, and yes I know he’s an actor, but I could never get over it and he wasn’t convincing.

This movie was stupid, very stupid, and seeing it in 3D was not  a plus. There were only a few scenes where outstanding 3D imagery came into play. The kids will love this because they don’t know any better, but you will be begging for it to be over long before the credits roll.

PS: Gargamel sucks too!

Rating: 1 out of 5 stars

Plastic Surgery Is The Devil

The Devil brewing fugly face stew.

Google images of “bad plastic surgery” and what pops up will astound you and I guarantee you will also turn up your nose and say “ewww!”. These people think they look good or have made improvements. I don’t know how these surgeons stay in business and I have no idea what these people really see when they look in the mirror, but I see a disaster.

Don’t get me wrong, a tweak here and there is okay, but when you start to look like a damn fool with stiff duck lips, mountain top cheeks, and no expression it’s time to work with what God gave ya.

I have invited Abigail Ekue from Random Musings to get down and dirty on the plastic surgery debate. Enjoy and leave your thoughts!

Scalpels, Injections And Porn

by: Abigail Ekue

The rich embark on week-long surgery safaris. The not-so-rich make appointments in hotel rooms or “clinics” in someone’s kitchen.

I knew I’d find a reason to tell you that I read Beauty Junkies by Alex Kuczynski last year. Unfortunately it came at the expense of Claudia Aderotimi. She felt the only way to achieve her dream of being a video vixen was to get butt implants. It’s tragic all around that she lost her life trying to become a Hottentot. She’s not the first and unfortunately, she probably won’t be the last to risk her life for “beauty”.

The accounts I read in Beauty Junkies amazed me. What women (and now increasing numbers of men) will go through for beauty is astounding. The rich and the poor alike put themselves at risk so they can stay forever young. An underlying issue is the lack of self-esteem and self-worth, however. Media portrayals of women thinner, smoother or perkier than the women watching perpetuates the cycle.

Bridalplasty is the latest reality show feeding into the notion that cosmetic surgery will make all your problems go away. (Predecessors: The Swan, Extreme Makeover) Beautiful people don’t fret, they simply nip & tuck and are free to frolic.

Beauty norms have been distorted by porn and video vixens. I read an article in New York magazine addressing this issue as it grows in prominence (growing more than some men’s penises in response to their partners). Men are becoming desensitized because of porn; they’re “dating” porn, faking orgasms, or avoiding sex all together so they can masturbate instead. Some women who are neglected or left unsatisfied by their men feel they aren’t “porn-worthy” and that men have become more critical of their bodies because of porn. Solution? Act like a porn star in bed (I can’t tell you the number of dudes I could tell “learned” their skills from watching Lex Steele, Byron Long, Shane Diesel, Devlin Weed…) or look like a porn star by purchasing Bowling Balls, liposuction, tummy tucks or labiaplasty.

Aderotimi was only 20 years old. High school seniors are receiving botox or rhinoplasties as graduation presents. My Beautiful Mommy – explaining or encouraging cosmetic surgery?

I appreciate the men who are attracted to and are sexually aroused by natural women. I relate to the women who are still confident and comfortable with their bodies despite porn stars or video vixens. But how do we prevent another death by injection? Would more amateur porn make men fantasize about non-surgically-enhanced women? How do we improve the self-esteem of those who feel the only answer is cosmetic surgery?

Friday, August 15th on “Ask Dangerous Lee Live”

Dangerous and HP talk to singers Luthea Salom, The Barnettes, and Jes. Lamont Wright from Ankh Media Group also stops by to promote an open casting call in Flint. The Dangerous Item of the Week is movie Johnny Dangerously.