The moral police strike my Facebook page again! This Ecard and conversation is in response to Romney’s following statement during the latest Presidential debate: “Get married first before having children”, in response to a question about automatic weapons and gun control.
Whenever anyone implies that single mothers are to blame for anything negative in the world I take offense. I am a single mother and I was raised by a single mother. My mother never married, but she would like to have been married. She didn’t have more children because she didn’t want to have more children out of wedlock. Being a single parent is hard work and a hard decision to make. I became pregnant at the age of 26 while using birth control, so I did not plan to become a mother, but I made the choice to have my child. Will I have another child? No! Do I want to be married? No! In my opinion, marriage is a sham and I don’t need or want a POTUS that thinks anyone having children while they’re unmarried is responsible for raising violent citizens.
Those of you who think that I or my mother should have gotten married before we had our children can quite frankly kiss our asses. Don’t worry, we both have enough ass to go around. Marriage is not some form of magic heal the world and the child solution that stops children from becoming assholes, criminals, and deviants. When statements are made that single parent households are somehow responsible for kids growing up and becoming criminals that is an insult to all single mothers and their children. It’s a blanket statement that’s also a lie. During the above conversation it was stated that statistics show most men in jail are products of a single parent household (which actually has nothing to do with the initial statement made by Romney because he was talking about people who use automatic weapons to commit mass murderers, but people with statistical info have just gotta share it. Too bad there are no real stats on the background of mass murderers who use automatic weapons)
Any ‘ol way, check out one of the first articles I found when asking the question: Are most men in jail from single parent homes? The article is from 2002, but I’m sure the numbers are still relevant. There are also other factors that come into play regarding these men being in jail who are from single parent homes. It’s not a black and white issue. For a realistic look at what a typical single parent is like, visit here.
I didn’t plan to become a single mother. It’s not something that I put on my planner ten years ago. I’m not happy about it, but guess what, I am doing the best I can on my own, just as my mother did before me. Wanna know who’s not doing his best? The father of my child. He chooses not to be involved in his daughters life and that’s also his loss because our daughter is smart, creative, beautiful and wishes he was around. Most single mothers, for better or worse, stick around and raise their children. Where the hell are the non custodial fathers that chose not to be involved? If you insist on placing blame, sprinkle a lil’ bit on the absent fathers and then sit your judgmental ass down.
In fact, lets stop the blaming, judging, and insulting all together because it benefits no one; least of all the children. I deleted Rajen (someone I once respected), the faceless wonder you see commenting in the first image above because he became blatantly disrespectful and hurtful with his comments towards me. There were more than 30 comments made on this topic and things got very hot, but ended on a chill note. Enjoy the conversation and feel free to join in. Note: You will have to scroll down a bit to find each post, but I highlighted them for you 🙂
- Debate debate on single mothers and crime (familyinequality.wordpress.com)
- Can Marriage Save Single Mothers From Poverty? (psychologicalscience.org)
- Is Marriage the Poverty Cure? (clutchmagonline.com)
- Did Mitt Romney Blame Gun Violence On Single Parents? (crooksandliars.com)
- Romney suggests two-parent households reduce likelihood of violence, actress Elizabeth Banks flips out (twitchy.com)