Are you Spiritual or Religious?
By VL on the DL
I’ve always considered myself to be a spiritual person, not necessarily religious, but definitely spiritual. I’m the kind of person that’s always investigating religions, trying to figure out what attracts its members, what makes it different from other religions, just getting the basic scoop about others’ beliefs. I love reading about Jehovah’s Witnesses, Scientologists…you name it. I even began studying with the Mormon’s back in 1999, and was eventually baptized in the faith. I don’t attend church often, but still consider this my religion and on the few Sundays a year that I do attend church, it is the LDS Mormon church.
One thing I used to dislike about going to church when I was younger was the accusations by the preacher. “Some of y’all were at the club last night doing this and that”….or “some of y’all living with your boyfriends and girlfriends right now, unmarried, sinning”. I never understood the purpose of that. The way I see things – it shouldn’t matter where I was or what I was doing before this moment – I’m here now, trying to connect with God, trying to learn, trying to better myself or receive a message. I didn’t feel like I was personally being called out or put on the spot, but I always put myself in the shoes of others and thought, “What if I were the person who was doing these things?? Why would I want to come back to your church? Just accept me as I am and let me work on my faults.”
The constant corruption in religion doesn’t help: Pastors sleeping with their lonely female members, sexual abuse allegations against children, preachers stealing money or living in ridiculous sized houses with a ridiculous amount of cars while all of its members are barely surviving. It all gets to be a bit much and makes it hard to be devoted.
My belief in God is based solely on my relationship with him. The blessings I’ve received in my life are no doubt, a gift from God. It is not based on how much money I put in the offering basket, or if I attend all three services on Sunday. It’s based on how I treat others, my acts of kindness, and my day to day example of living as God would want – peacefully and with love. If you look for it, you will find an issue with each and every religion. My religion believes that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (the Mormon Church) is God’s one true church on earth. Because I’m a member, I understand this thinking; however, I’m not prepared to state that every other church on the planet is “wrong”. I wouldn’t dare.
That’s why I prefer a spiritual existence. I’m aware that there is a higher being than myself. I understand that I’m expected to conduct myself in a respectful way and treat others with love, kindness, and humility. I understand that it’s better to give, than receive. I understand that God will judge me not just based on what I do, but also the intentions of my heart – things that I wish I could do for people, but I don’t have the resources. God knows all this. This is why homosexuality has always been such a sensitive subject to me. I can’t imagine a God who can look at a person who is kind, giving, thoughtful, hardworking, unselfish, honest, and loving and see them as a sinner with no hope. And that same God can look at the reverend that is sleeping with every lady in the pulpit and gambling away the offering money, and that person is okay in his eyes. How can this be? To me, the gay community is no different than the straight community – we have our good seeds and our bad ones, our chaste and our promiscuous, our honest and our liars. Yet, every religion turns its back on them. I’m not trying to turn this into a “gay is great debate”, just making a point about some of the ongoing issues I personally have with religion.
I think many more people, especially within our younger generations, can identify with spirituality much more than religion. With spirituality I think people look at the bigger picture of their life as a whole as opposed to feeling judged by one action at a time. I think spirituality relieves some of the guilt that often goes along with religion. I’m not saying that I choose spirituality so I can be wild and free and live a guilt free life, it’s just that spirituality allows me more freedom to accept people for who they are, to be less judgmental, and more open minded, and that’s something I appreciate.
Have you found yourself struggling with religion vs. spirituality? What are some of your thoughts? What are some of your reasons for picking one over the other…or do you combine the two? Looking forward to your feedback.
The moral police strike my Facebook page again! This Ecard and conversation is in response to Romney’s following statement during the latest Presidential debate: “Get married first before having children”, in response to a question about automatic weapons and gun control.
Whenever anyone implies that single mothers are to blame for anything negative in the world I take offense. I am a single mother and I was raised by a single mother. My mother never married, but she would like to have been married. She didn’t have more children because she didn’t want to have more children out of wedlock. Being a single parent is hard work and a hard decision to make. I became pregnant at the age of 26 while using birth control, so I did not plan to become a mother, but I made the choice to have my child. Will I have another child? No! Do I want to be married? No! In my opinion, marriage is a sham and I don’t need or want a POTUS that thinks anyone having children while they’re unmarried is responsible for raising violent citizens.
Those of you who think that I or my mother should have gotten married before we had our children can quite frankly kiss our asses. Don’t worry, we both have enough ass to go around. Marriage is not some form of magic heal the world and the child solution that stops children from becoming assholes, criminals, and deviants. When statements are made that single parent households are somehow responsible for kids growing up and becoming criminals that is an insult to all single mothers and their children. It’s a blanket statement that’s also a lie. During the above conversation it was stated that statistics show most men in jail are products of a single parent household (which actually has nothing to do with the initial statement made by Romney because he was talking about people who use automatic weapons to commit mass murderers, but people with statistical info have just gotta share it. Too bad there are no real stats on the background of mass murderers who use automatic weapons)
Any ‘ol way, check out one of the first articles I found when asking the question: Are most men in jail from single parent homes? The article is from 2002, but I’m sure the numbers are still relevant. There are also other factors that come into play regarding these men being in jail who are from single parent homes. It’s not a black and white issue. For a realistic look at what a typical single parent is like, visit here.
I didn’t plan to become a single mother. It’s not something that I put on my planner ten years ago. I’m not happy about it, but guess what, I am doing the best I can on my own, just as my mother did before me. Wanna know who’s not doing his best? The father of my child. He chooses not to be involved in his daughters life and that’s also his loss because our daughter is smart, creative, beautiful and wishes he was around. Most single mothers, for better or worse, stick around and raise their children. Where the hell are the non custodial fathers that chose not to be involved? If you insist on placing blame, sprinkle a lil’ bit on the absent fathers and then sit your judgmental ass down.
In fact, lets stop the blaming, judging, and insulting all together because it benefits no one; least of all the children. I deleted Rajen (someone I once respected), the faceless wonder you see commenting in the first image above because he became blatantly disrespectful and hurtful with his comments towards me. There were more than 30 comments made on this topic and things got very hot, but ended on a chill note. Enjoy the conversation and feel free to join in. Note: You will have to scroll down a bit to find each post, but I highlighted them for you :)
For years, church congregations, politicians and the people who love them have argued over abortion. It is one of the most discussed social issues out there, and one’s opinion on abortion is often used as a moral compass for which people measure how good or evil one’s mind is.
First, I think it’s fair to say that some people think about their affiliation and loyalty to political parties or groups over what’s right for their situation. Labels dominate the world, and history tells us that humans tend to need to belong to something.
While die-hard Pro-Choice supporters have legitimate reasons to feel the way that they do, die-hard Pro-Life supporters also have an equal argument. Today, we revisit an age-old debate between the two.
5. Since life begins at conception, abortion is akin to murder as it is the act of taking human life. Abortion is in direct defiance of the commonly accepted idea of the sanctity of human life.
4. Adoption is a viable alternative to abortion and accomplishes the same result. And with 1.5 million American families wanting to adopt a child, there is no such thing as an unwanted child.
3. An abortion can result in medical complications later in life; the risk of ectopic pregnancies doubles, and the chance of a miscarriage and pelvic inflammatory disease also increases.
2. In the instance of rape and incest, proper medical care can ensure that a woman will not get pregnant. Abortion punishes the unborn child who committed no crime; instead, it is the perpetrator who should be punished.
1. For women who demand complete control of their body, control should include preventing the risk of unwanted pregnancy through the responsible use of contraception or, if that is not possible, through abstinence.
5. Nearly all abortions take place in the first trimester, when a fetus cannot exist independent of the mother. As it is attached by the placenta and umbilical cord, its health is dependent on her health, and cannot be regarded as a separate entity as it cannot exist outside her womb.
4. The concept of personhood is different from the concept of human life. Human life occurs at conception, but fertilized eggs used for in vitro fertilization are also human lives and those not implanted are routinely thrown away. Is this murder, and if not, then how is abortion murder?
3. Adoption is not an alternative to abortion, because it remains the woman’s choice whether or not to give her child up for adoption. Statistics show that very few women who give birth choose to give up their babies – less than 3% of white unmarried women and less than 2% of black unmarried women.
2. Abortion is a safe medical procedure. The vast majority of women - 88% – who have an abortion do so in their first trimester. Medical abortions have less than 0.5% risk of serious complications and do not affect a woman’s health or future ability to become pregnant or give birth.
1. The ability of a woman to have control of her body is critical to civil rights. Take away her reproductive choice and you step onto a slippery slope. If the government can force a woman to continue a pregnancy, what about forcing a woman to use contraception or undergo sterilization?
As Lydia walked to her car in the darkened parking lot she had a vague uneasiness. She should have waited for the security guard escort, but if she had she undoubtedly would have been late for her meeting at the Garden Club. Hastily she unlocked the door, yanked the car door open, jumped in and was trying to shove the key in the ignition when a hand from the back seat covered her mouth and jerked her head viciously into the head rest. “One sound out of you, and you are dead,” he said. The next ten minutes would be seared into her brain forever. With a knife at her throat, he sexually assaulted her in the back seat of the car, beat her savagely, and left her for dead. When she finally came to her senses she drove herself to the nearest Emergency Room. Over the next few weeks the physical wounds would heal. The emotional healing would take much longer. The nightmare continued. Four weeks after the assault, the clinic confirmed her worst fears. She was pregnant.
Would a person who declares allegiance to Team Pro-Life make an exception in this case?
Gary and Karen were ecstatic. After four years of marriage, Karen was pregnant. Gary would finish law school in six months. The timing could not have been better. Karen had always wanted a big family, but they had delayed till Gary would have a regular paying job. But after her third prenatal visit Dr. Abrams called her at home. Could she and Gary come to the office tomorrow at three to review her recent test results? He would explain everything then. Over the next few weeks ultrasound tests confirmed what the blood tests had suggested. Their baby, if allowed to come to term, would have severe neural tube defects. In other words, the child would have an open spinal cord, hydrocephalus, mental retardation and probably never walk in a normal manner. The burden that this child would experience, and the pain the family would suffer would be unbearable. The best thing would be to have an abortion. Dr. Abrams gave them the names of two competent gynecologists. It would be best for everyone.
Based on the information given, what would you do? Are you Team Pro-Life or Team Pro-Choice? Does your declaration for either side allow room for judgement calls? Is someone’s opinion on the matter a relationship deal-breaker?
These wealthy aristocrats we call elected public servants are so far removed from real life in America. They can’t even begin to understand and the trials and tribulations that most Americans face everyday.
How can the Republican party keep on serving up these elite wealthy candidates who obviously don’t even believe believe in our own American system, unless they themselves are raping, pillaging, and profiting from it?
Mitt Romney: “American Corporations are people too”. They are OUR “friends”? Who’s “friends” is he talking about? The “1%”? These guys just want to keep the “playground” in their own backyards.
He made a whopping 21.7 million in 2010 and paid a measly 13.9% of it in income taxes. That rate is lower than most Americans who are technically considered “poor”, and far far below the average Americans tax rate.
Jack Blum, a Washington lawyer who is an authority on tax enforcement and offshore banking stated ” His personal finances are a poster child for what’s wrong with the American tax system”.
How can this man be running for President of the United States of America when he doesn’t even have enough faith in his own country to “park” his own millions here? How can we have any faith in him when he circumvents our own system himself, a problematic system he is supposed to be capable of repairing? How can he “fix” whats wrong with this country when he doesn’t even understand it, or even live within the confines he dictates for the rest of us? Richie Rich the hypocrite.
Believe me, he’s not the only one. In the book I wrote about our elected officials, DBA the Rich and Famous. A large percentage of our Congress and Senate are millionaires or multi-millionaires as well. Remember Charles Rangel? This was a man who was Chairman of the tax writing Ways and Means Committee, who was found GUILTY on 11 charges of not reporting hundreds if thousand of dollars in additional income and assets on his financial disclosure statements. Even more appalling is he went on to win his 21st term in Congress regardless.
Sounds like a “Country Club” to me. And the membership is being paid by the American Middle Class taxpayer. Enough is enough. They need to GO!
How can we have faith in our own system when the people we have running it are a big part of the problem?
Is this some unified agenda here with our elected officials and government, from BOTH parties? Another movie scene, another well orchestrated act in this never ending drama called American Politics?
How can this be happening right under our noses?
When we the “American” people, sit idly by and let our elected officials get away with it. If you think things are bad now, just keep ignoring the never ending warning signs and wait and see where that leaves you, your children, and the rest of us poor working slob “Americans”. Conspiracy theory? YOU BET! Come on now, does any of this make any sense?
Cows being let to the trough for slaughter. That is where the American Working/Middle Class is headed, to death and extinction. So where will you, your family, and their families end up? Are you going to just roll the dice and hope for the best?
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