I Was Born With A Broken Heart

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I often wonder what my life would be like or what type of person I would of become had I grown up with my father in my life.

I didn’t learn who my dad was until a few years ago thanks to a DNA test.

For that I am thankful, but growing up I was told that another man, who was also not present, was my father.

I also wonder what I would be like mentally had I not been sexually molested, more than once,  as a child.

Other pieces of my broken heart:

  • The death of my maternal grandfather. He was my father growing up.
  • The death of my maternal grandmother.
  • The death of my best friend, Chris Douglas.
  • Losing the “love of my life”.
  • Being a single mother.
  • The death of Michael Jackson.

The scary part is knowing with full certainty that my heart will continue to be broken as long as I live and as long as I feel.

Life really is a Bitch.

Were YOU Born With A Broken Heart?

Popular Inspirational Sayings That Are Dead Wrong

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– Dreams don’t have an expiration date.

They don’t? I’d say they definitely do get rotten, tho. If you don’t work towards your dream, it dies, and so does a little part of you!

– Good things come to those who wait.

Really? I don’t thinks so. No one ever had good things come to them by just sitting on their ass and waiting. If that were true, a bunch of lazy ass people would be experiencing good things right now.

– It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Is it? As if finding love again after you’ve lost it is an easy task. What’s so good about having found love, then losing it? I’ll wait. No, I won’t…losing love leaves a huge hole in your heart and you go on trying to fill that void, but never find anyone or anything to fill it. I’d rather never have been in love. You can’t miss what you’ve never had!

– You can’t have good without evil.

This one really pisses me off. I think we are more than capable of having most of our days filled with good without  evil ever coming into the equation. What are we, stupid? Of course there can be good without evil. It’s silly ass sayings like this one that has most of us brainwashed that we have to accept the bad things in our life on a daily basis because one of these days good is gonna sneak in on us. How long have you been waiting?

– It’s always darkest before dawn.

Well…duh! Yes, I know this one really means that you have to go through hell to get to the good hings in life; much like the saying before this one, it’s also FOS (full of shit). It’s another saying that wants to make us feel comfy in our own personal hell and encourage us to come out of it. Whatever, spare me! Too bad there are no inspirational says about when dawn arrives.

Though I have just ripped these inspirational sayings apart, I do understand their purpose and in one way or another I have agreed with them at some point in my life to help me put a positive spin on negativity in my life. Can you think of any other inspirational sayings that are dead wrong?

Deborah L. Parker

Black History Month Spotlight: Deborah L. Parker

Name and Title: Deborah L. Parker, Author, Speaker and Principal Consultant, The DPJ Training Group

What do you do and why? I conduct seminars on leadership, diversity and communications for organizations to enhance their employee’s knowledge and performance. This work allows me to share my gifts of teaching with insight from everyday situations at work and community. I also write articles on the same topics and blend in my love of history and observances of people. In both, I rely on my mistakes as ways to help others achieve and be inspired!

What mark have you left on Black history? Personally in my family and hometown I’ve had some firsts (graduated college, became an army officer, wrote a book) I’ve shared black history with colleagues in former positions where I coordinated programs that showcased local and national heroes and sheroes. As an aunt I’ve taken my nephews and nieces to historical sites and bought them books or other items to help them know and treasure our culture.

Why is celebrating Black History important to you? There are many proverbs, scriptures and other writings that point to the value of knowing your history on many levels. And I’ve discovered how true that is for your personal, family, cultural and religious foundations. This knowledge has been a source of pride and inspiration for me as I deal with life’s adventures and adversities. Many have faithfully gone before as they persevered and laid the stepping stones for me to have a better life.

Who or what do you honor most in Black History? First I honor God’s providence in all things. I give much appreciation to my late mother who blazed her own trails as a determined single parent of four children, went back to graduate from high school after giving birth to me as a teenager, became a homeowner while working at a factory and taught me in sometimes tough ways to move forward in spite of. To my deceased grandparents I honor their wisdom. For the “greats and famous” I honor their work despite many obstacles to press for freedom and all that is right and guaranteed for humanity.

Website and social media links:

  • Ask Dangerous Lee: Why is it that no African-American knows who Roscoe Robinson, Jr. is? (dangerouslee.biz)
  • Black History Month Spotlight: Swiyyah Nadirah Muhammad (dangerouslee.biz)

Everybody Hurts…Sometimes

I used to hate this song when I was younger because I thought it was depressing and sad. It may very well have an air of sadness, but I definitely understand the lyrics now that I’m older and have more life experiences. Everybody Hurts is an anti-suicide song, but I have heard that people have actually committed suicide while listening to it. I’m sure this is another reason why I initially didn’t like the song.

What made me think of this song, you ask? I was watching So You Think You Can Dance and there was a beautiful dance routine to the Tina Arena version of this song. I like her version better but I gotta give respect to the original.

www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org