Multi-ethnic group of young women: African, Asian, Indian and Caucasian.

Men don’t smile all day. Why should we?


I’m only smiling for the camera. Happy I am not.


After an SMH and eye roll worthy real-life experience I took to Facebook and asked:

Men: Does it usually “work” when the first words you say to a woman are – “Why you look so mean? Smile!” ? feeling curious.

It doesn’t matter if you want to “get with” a woman or not, though I’m sure had I given him the time of day he would of tried to get with me and let’s be real, men only say this to women they find attractive or want to get to know better.

Approaching a woman, especially one you don’t know, this way is rude. It comes off as controlling. Just because a women is not smiling doesn’t mean she’s got issues in that moment. Then again, maybe she doesn’t have anything to smile about at that moment either.

Men don’t walk around with a smile on their face all day. Why should we? None of us lives in a world worthy of smiles all day every day.

A smile or lack of one is really not the issue here. It’s like Brian said in an earlier Facebook comment: social skills.

Just say hello or ask how I am instead of putting an emotion on me before you know anything about me. If you think I look unhappy, try to cheer me up. That’s the least you can do. Say something nice. Starting a conversation with a negative is a turn off. Like they say: keep it simple, stupid.

I’m just telling you how I feel about it, but based on many of the responses, I’m not the only women who does not like it and it’s one of those lines that has been passed on from generation to generation.

I can remember my mom complaining about this ages ago when I was a child. It must die. Stop saying it to women. We don’t like or appreciate it.

Good Men Are Not Like Busses

good men

Piggybacking off the above image; when those three or four come along they aren’t worth the ride. I haven’t been in a serious relationship in over ten years and I have yet to meet a man that would make me want to be in a relationship in those ten years.

When I have met a man that I thought was worth my time he made lying and game playing a priority. At this stage of my life I don’t feel that I need a man to be validated or happy, however I would like to have a male companion that I can spend some quality time with as well as have great sex; something else that I have not had in ages. I really hope this changes in 2013.

Update: Nothing changed in 2013 :/

5 Men You Think Are Hot, But I Say Not!

All of the men below are attractive and have taken a hot pic or two over the years, but uh, I don’t get why most women (and men) think these guys are gorgeous, especially Bradley, or that they are what is considered “The Sexiest Men Alive”.

What do you think?


Bradley Cooper


Denzel Washington


Channing Tatum


David Beckham


George Clooney



Michael Joe Jackson 1958-2009

One of my senior highschool photos from 1993

One of my senior photos from 1993

Michael was more to me than a great entertainer. He was the love of my life. I truly loved him as a person. I understood him. Those that know me and know me well know where I am coming from, but let me explain a little for those that don’t.

Besides my grandfather, Michael was the only constant male figure in my life growing up. I thought he was beautiful and I loved to watch him move. My mother took me to see The Wiz at age 2, took me to his concerts as early as age 4, bought his music for me, and I fell in love with him over the years.

Michael taught me to love everyone no matter what race, creed, color, or religion. He taught me to care for our planet and to have compassion for those that were ill. He also kept me from getting involved with boys at an early age because I was so devoted to him.

Michael was a beautiful person in every way to me; so sweet, kind, and giving. Even in the end he wanted to give more of himself to us by performing when, in my opinion, he should of been enjoying his life without performing and raising his children. I do understand that Michael wanted to come back one last time to prove that he is the best and leave a greater legacy that would overshadow his plastic surgery, debt, or molestation allegations, but he never needed to prove anything to me.

Did I ever question the allegations and wonder if Mike was capable of such a thing? Of course I did! I didn’t see Michael as a God or a perfect entity. I saw him as a human being with flaws like the rest of us. Loving Michael does not make a person go insane, become dumb, or unable to see the truth. I saw through the BS of the allegations and fortunately so did a jury of his peers.

Over the years as I have become an adult my “obsession” for him has toned down, but I always loved and supported him. I never believed the hype when it came to him being weird, bizarre, or a child molester. As a survivor of child sexual abuse I do not support anyone that I believe has been involved in that type of behavior.

I am in disbelief, confused, numb, heartbroken, sad…words cannot express what I really feel. Michael was my family. He was and will always be a major part of who I am. I suppose he can rest now and perform forever in heaven or where ever we go when we leave this earth.

I give my love and support to his family and fans all around the world.

Friday, May 29th on “Ask Dangerous Lee Live”


Dangerous and HP close out the show with music, surprises, and you! Come celebrate with us! The Dangerous Item of the Week is book The Years of Talking Dangerously.

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Friday, October 24th on “Ask Dangerous Lee Live”

Dangerous and HP talk to exotic entertainer Damn! about his pre-Halloween celebration, actor and writer V.J. Mochel discusses his life inside Club Med in his book Sex, Surf, and Sunburn, and DJ Swift introduces a new weekly music segment called Dangerous or Harmless as well as premieres a sneak peek from his upcoming project The Speakers Mix Tape. The Dangerous Item of the Week is Box of Danger: The Complete Nick Danger Casebook.



I Like to Watch Men Having Sex

Question I asked myself: Why do I like to watch two men having sex?


I have discovered something new and interesting about myself and at 33 I am pleased that I am continuing to change and grow as a mature adult. No, this is not deep or life changing, but I have discovered that I like to watch men having sex.

I always thought that two men having sex was disgusting which is a stupid judgement to make if you have not seen it for yourself. So, I suppose I just assumed it would be gross to see two men make love or maybe I was just under the impression that watching two men have sex was pointless for a woman who considers
herself straight. Also, with all the down-low hysteria these days why would I want to see two men in bed?

Any who, I was at one of my favorite online porn sites where you can see tons of porn videos for free. I stumbled onto a video of a man giving another man head and I was intrigued and turned on all at once!

I also discovered that I perform like a man! I think that’s what really tripped me out. Some of you may be thinking that the men perform like women, but no that’s not the case. It’s not like men have sex like “bitches” or anything. Some of the men on men porn is very passionate and loving. It’s not all that different from straight sex.

I also believe that my new position at Wellness AIDS Services here in Flint is opening my mind to things that I once never had an interest in. Don’t misunderstand me, I am not homophobic and never have been, but I have always thought two men having sex was a very non sexy act. Now, I’d like to watch live and in person if given the opportunity. Hell, I may even consider dating a bisexual man. Do I smell a kinky threesome? I probably have already dated a bisexual or down-low man and didn’t know it!

My point is, you can never say what you won’t do or won’t like. I have and it has bitten me in the ass more than once. So, fellas if we meet and take a liking to each other and I ask if you like men please tell the truth if you do. I won’t judge 😉

Friday, June 27th on “Ask Dangerous Lee Live”

Friday, June 27th at 8pm EST Dangerous and HP will celebrate one year of “Ask Dangerous Lee Live” on Blog Talk Radio with your calls, we are also scheduled to spend some quality time with comedian Mellodee, and hip hop artist Mic Mountain. Find out if your guesses for “Who Won’t Show Up Next Week”, were on point. The Dangerous item of the Week is DVD, Dangerous Beauty.

Friday, June 20th on “Ask Dangerous Lee Live”

Friday, June 20th at 8pm EST Dangerous and HP are scheduled to talk to hip hop artists Pinc Gator, Nobody Famous, and new girl group Derby Girl. The Dangerous item of the Week is film, Dangerous Crossing.