Multi-ethnic group of young women: African, Asian, Indian and Caucasian.

Men don’t smile all day. Why should we?


I’m only smiling for the camera. Happy I am not.


After an SMH and eye roll worthy real-life experience I took to Facebook and asked:

Men: Does it usually “work” when the first words you say to a woman are – “Why you look so mean? Smile!” ? feeling curious.

It doesn’t matter if you want to “get with” a woman or not, though I’m sure had I given him the time of day he would of tried to get with me and let’s be real, men only say this to women they find attractive or want to get to know better.

Approaching a woman, especially one you don’t know, this way is rude. It comes off as controlling. Just because a women is not smiling doesn’t mean she’s got issues in that moment. Then again, maybe she doesn’t have anything to smile about at that moment either.

Men don’t walk around with a smile on their face all day. Why should we? None of us lives in a world worthy of smiles all day every day.

A smile or lack of one is really not the issue here. It’s like Brian said in an earlier Facebook comment: social skills.

Just say hello or ask how I am instead of putting an emotion on me before you know anything about me. If you think I look unhappy, try to cheer me up. That’s the least you can do. Say something nice. Starting a conversation with a negative is a turn off. Like they say: keep it simple, stupid.

I’m just telling you how I feel about it, but based on many of the responses, I’m not the only women who does not like it and it’s one of those lines that has been passed on from generation to generation.

I can remember my mom complaining about this ages ago when I was a child. It must die. Stop saying it to women. We don’t like or appreciate it.


Dangerous Lee’s Top 10 Picks of September 2013


  1. God Fearing Men Want Sex Too!

  2. Why I’ve Slept With White Men And Will Do It Again

  3. Dangerous Lee Interview: Comedian – Kris Shaw

  4. Book Spotlight: Dana Ellington Myles – Diva

  5. #KeepitDangerous! Moment: Princess Diana

  6. #KeepitDangerous! Moment: Wonder Woman

  7. Why Are Celebrities Still Afraid Of Coming Out?

  8. 9 Vitamins That Help Your Body Fight Diseases

  9. 7 Things You Really Need To Stop Doing

  10. 5 People Who Have Changed The Course Of 2013

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Good Men Are Not Like Busses


Piggybacking off the above image; when those three or four come along they aren’t worth the ride. I haven’t been in a serious relationship in over ten years and I have yet to meet a man that would make me want to be in a relationship in those ten years. When I have met a man that I thought was worth my time he made lying and game playing a priority. At this stage of my life I don’t feel that I need a man to be validated or happy, however I would like to have a male companion that I can spend some quality time with as well as have great sex; something else that I have not had in ages. I really hope this changes in 2013.

Update: Nothing changed in 2013 :/

Bradley Cooper

5 Men You Think Are Hot, But I Say Not!

All of the men below are attractive and have taken a hot pic or two over the years, but uh, I don’t get why most women (and men) think these men are gorgeous, especially Bradley, or that they are what is considered “The Sexiest Men Alive”.

What do you think?

Bradley Cooper

Denzel Washington

Channing Tatum

David Beckham

George Clooney


– Men: Get it up with libido max!

Every Man Sees You Naked

Most women already know this, but…

David M. Matthews, an Emmy-winning Hollywood writer, tells it like it is: men see women naked – whether they’re wearing a slinky, silky mini-dress or a thick baggy sweatshirt and sweats.

In his new book, Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider’s Guide to How Men Think, Matthews exposes the bare bones of men’s thinking. His tell-all to women:

“If we find you even the tiniest bit attractive, at some point we’ve had a Technicolor centerfold of you stapled to our synapses. And while you’re trying to wrap your minds around that, here’s dirty secret two: once we imagine you naked, it’s often only nanoseconds before we’re mentally having hot, sweaty sex with you.”

“NO WAY!!!,” say women. “WAY!!!” say men.

Matthews’ wife, hoping to help friends unravel the mystery of men’s thinking, prodded her husband to a write Every Man Sees You Naked . Filled with much humor, as well as insight into men’s and women’s minds, it addresses such topics as:

• The truth about why guys ask women out

• How to know when a guy is lying

• How to understand “Man-Speak”

• What men like in bed

• The 4 biggest myths about men

• Men’s top 3 “dirty little secrets”

• The 5 words that reduce any guy to Jello

• Why almost everything women believe to be true about men….isn’t

I gotta get this book! Men, is Dave breaking a man law by exposing all your secrets in this book?

Do You Love BAD GIRLS?

Dr. Carole Lieberman’s latest book, Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets has just been released to wide acclaim. She is also the author of the bestselling book, Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them and When to Leave Them. At a time when men and women are more confused, hurt, lonely and desperate for love than ever, yet hooked on heartbreak, Dr. Carole unlocks the door to healthier relationships. She reveals how women can turn their frogs into princes, and how men can crawl out of the dating swamp to find love.

I asked Dr. Lieberman the following question and she answered:

Dangerous – I don’t consider myself a good girl or a bad girl, but I have been single for 10 years. Can your book help me? How?

Dr. Lieberman – I wrote Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets to help men and women find the love they deserve in this increasingly wild dating jungle.

The first chapter includes ‘The Bad Girl Test’ for women, and ‘The Sitting Duck Test’ for men. ‘The Bad Girl Test’ helps a woman discover whether she is a good girl or a man-eater or somewhere in between. Good girls find themselves sitting on the shelf while bad girls get all the guys. This book evens the playing field by giving good girls the secrets that bad girls use to attract and keep men.

I don’t try to turn good girls into any of the ‘Dozen Dangerous Damsels’, the 12 types of bad girls. I just give women the secrets that I distilled from over 100 interviews of men who were hooked by bad girls.

Michael Joe Jackson 1958-2009

One of my senior highschool photos from 1993

One of my senior photos from 1993

Michael was more to me than a great entertainer. He was the love of my life. I truly loved him as a person. I understood him. Those that know me and know me well know where I am coming from, but let me explain a little for those that don’t.

Besides my grandfather, Michael was the only constant male figure in my life growing up. I thought he was beautiful and I loved to watch him move. My mother took me to see The Wiz at age 2, took me to his concerts as early as age 4, bought his music for me, and I fell in love with him over the years.

Michael taught me to love everyone no matter what race, creed, color, or religion. He taught me to care for our planet and to have compassion for those that were ill. He also kept me from getting involved with boys at an early age because I was so devoted to him.

Michael was a beautiful person in every way to me; so sweet, kind, and giving. Even in the end he wanted to give more of himself to us by performing when, in my opinion, he should of been enjoying his life without performing and raising his children. I do understand that Michael wanted to come back one last time to prove that he is the best and leave a greater legacy that would overshadow his plastic surgery, debt, or molestation allegations, but he never needed to prove anything to me.

Did I ever question the allegations and wonder if Mike was capable of such a thing? Of course I did! I didn’t see Michael as a God or a perfect entity. I saw him as a human being with flaws like the rest of us. Loving Michael does not make a person go insane, become dumb, or unable to see the truth. I saw through the BS of the allegations and fortunately so did a jury of his peers.

Over the years as I have become an adult my “obsession” for him has toned down, but I always loved and supported him. I never believed the hype when it came to him being weird, bizarre, or a child molester. As a survivor of child sexual abuse I do not support anyone that I believe has been involved in that type of behavior.

I am in disbelief, confused, numb, heartbroken, sad…words cannot express what I really feel. Michael was my family. He was and will always be a major part of who I am. I suppose he can rest now and perform forever in heaven or where ever we go when we leave this earth.

I give my love and support to his family and fans all around the world.

Friday, May 29th on “Ask Dangerous Lee Live”


Dangerous and HP close out the show with music, surprises, and you! Come celebrate with us! The Dangerous Item of the Week is book The Years of Talking Dangerously.

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Friday, October 24th on “Ask Dangerous Lee Live”

Dangerous and HP talk to exotic entertainer Damn! about his pre-Halloween celebration, actor and writer V.J. Mochel discusses his life inside Club Med in his book Sex, Surf, and Sunburn, and DJ Swift introduces a new weekly music segment called Dangerous or Harmless as well as premieres a sneak peek from his upcoming project The Speakers Mix Tape. The Dangerous Item of the Week is Box of Danger: The Complete Nick Danger Casebook.



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