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Top Story: The 12 Absurdities of Christmas

Christmas 2014 will be the worst on record for me. I won’t be able to buy my daughter anything until the end of the month, my car won’t start (again) and I can’t afford to have it towed to find out what’s wrong with. And, I’m also days or hours away from having my energy shut off! There is one bright spot: I was able to get this website back up and running after it was deactivated for 24 hours. Merry Christmas, indeed.

hatexmasBy John Prytz

Christmas, and the seemingly near endless commercial lead-up to Christmas, is one of the most – actually the most – absurd institutions society has inflicted on the vast majority of the civilized world. When you consider all the sorts of stressful hoops you are required to jump through in the months, but especially weeks before the Big Day, required that is if you are spineless enough to cave in to what society (mainly but not exclusively retail traders) requires, it’s a wonder the civilized world isn’t collectively a society of babbling idiots the day after. Still, most gleefully and willingly jump through the same stressful hoops the following year, paying through the nose for the privilege.

1) RELIGIOUS ABSURDITIES

A) Christmas has bugger-all to do with Christ. The odds that J.C. was born on the 25th of December are roughly 365.25 to 1. That’s because nobody has the foggiest idea what the actual date was. You won’t find it in the Bible, that’s for sure. The concept of a relationship between Christmas and J.C. was a hijack by the Christian Church of the ancient ‘pagan’ tradition of celebrating the Winter Solstice. Rather than fight City Hall, the church just adopted that already established tradition for their own purposes. Any similarity to really real reality is purely a matter of coincidence. That you swallow hook, line and sinker without any questioning, critical thinking or actual study that there is an actual relationship between the virgin birth (yeah, that’s credible and not all that an original idea either) of an alleged deity (whose historical bona fides can be questioned) who hasn’t been seen in over 2000 years, is absurd.

B) That shopping malls and stores like supermarkets and department stories play not only Xmas music but religiously themed (i.e. – Christian) Xmas music is absurd. Nativity scenes are often featured as well. That means these commercial enterprises are in fact promoting one specific brand of religion exclusively over all others. While that might be appropriate for a church, it’s not the proper place in any multicultural society for commercial for-profit stores to endorse any brand of religion. That they do so is another absurdity.

2) FOOD ABSURDITIES

A) On average, half the food you buy for the Xmas festivities will be thrown away. Now is that absurd or is that absurd.

B) How many of you had ham or turkey for Xmas dinner? Why? Probably because your society and your culture virtually demands you eat traditional fare, which means one of these two options, plus the obligatory egg nog and plum pudding and mince pies, etc. So what’s wrong with pizza, meatloaf, sirloin steak, Irish stew, macaroni & cheese, etc.? Why are you such a slave to someone else’s traditions? That’s absurd. I’ve established my tradition – even number years it’s pizza for Xmas breakfast; spaghetti for Xmas dinner. On odd number years I reverse the two.

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3) DECORATION ABSURDITIES

Think of the massive amounts of time and energy putting up, up and up and eventually pulling down, down and down all those gaudy Xmas decorations. What’s the point? And some people go so over-the-top, so overboard, you’d think they are trying to get into the Guinness Book of Records. Maybe they are! And haven’t we all heard or read those stories of those Xmas tree lights that were so overloaded they shorted, set fire to the tree, and burned the house down.

4) BRATS (Sorry, the Little Darlings) ABSURDITIES

Its absurd being ethically required to lie to your children (and anyone else’s children) about the reality of Santa.

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5) SANTA ABSURDITIES

The economic purpose of Santa is to install in brats (sorry, your little darlings) the concept of greed and a free lunch. The brats’ mantra – I want, I want, I want; gimmie, gimmie, gimmie; now, now, now. Why do you think shopping malls and large department stores employ a Santa? Hint – it has nothing to do with jingle bells but the jingling of coins transferred from your pockets to their cash registers, lots and lots of jingling coins (plus the rustling of paper currency too). Of course as an added insult you have to pay to get a photo of your brat(s) – sorry, your little darling(s) – taken sitting on Santa’s knee.

6) XMAS MUSIC ABSURDITIES

What you listen to in the privacy of your own home is your business, but in the many, many, many weeks in the lead-up to Xmas Day, you (and especially if you are a staff member in any supermarket or department store, etc.) are endlessly bombarded with piped in shopping mall Xmas music, not to mention out-of-tune brats (sorry, those darling little kiddies) on street corners who also see fit to serenade you with even more Xmas music. You can only endure so many renditions of Jingle Bells, Deck the Halls, White Christmas and The Little Drummer Boy (to mention just four songs of a seemingly endless number of the Xmas repertory of musical drivel and pap).

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7) FINANCIAL ABSURDITIES

You spend massive amounts of money and energy preparing for a once a year happening that more likely as not you wish society would just totally forget about.

8) TIME & ENERGY ABSURDITIES

You spend more time preparing for a once a year happening than that happening itself takes up.

9) FAMILY, FRIENDS & OTHER RELATIONS ABSURDITIES

You spend ‘quality’ time with family relations that you wish were halfway around the world and thus unable to infringe on your personal space and time and wallet.

You spend lots of money you’d rather not spend on gifts for people you don’t give a damn about.

You send Xmas cards to lots of people you could care less about; you receive Xmas cards from people you could care less about.

You receive lots of gifts that are unwanted, useless, and have value only for what $$$ you might get for them on eBay (and related).

10) INSINCERITY ABSURDITIES

99.9% of people, mostly strangers and salespeople, wishing you a “Merry Christmas” are just going through the motions and don’t personally give a damn if you drop dead on Xmas Day. That goes triple for the zillions of “Merry Xmas” messages in ads that you see in the lead up to Xmas.

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11) HEALTH ABSURDITIES

Would your blood pressure, stress levels, and overall mental health be in a better and overall healthier condition if you could put your feet up, ignore Xmas and just watch the passing parade? Would your health be better if you hadn’t indulged in The Xmas Spirit as well as the spirits?

12) BENEFICIARIES ABSURDITIES

Who benefits from Xmas? Well clearly there are stories of various acts of kindness and self-sacrifice that come to the fore every Xmas. Now follow the money trail. Okay, on the plus side, charities obviously receive additional donations around Xmas time. So much for the plus side! Well the Post Office and manufacturers of Xmas cards benefit, especially since each year is a fresh year where everybody has to buy and post anew (unlike say with Xmas decorations that get reused year after year). Speaking of decorations, unless you use an artificial Xmas tree, the growers and sellers of real natural Xmas trees look forward to the Xmas season. Most of all, beneficiaries include all the manufacturers and retailers of all those to be given Xmas presents. Face it, Xmas is all about the economy and keeping people employed. Without Xmas (and to a lesser extent other overly hyped holidays like Mother’s and Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Halloween, etc.) there would be an economic collapse that would make 1929 pale in comparison. In fact, appearance-wise, a goodly percentage of news stories in the lead up to Xmas deal with how much people are spending; how well (or poorly) are retail traders are doing. They certainly outnumber by a substantial ratio stories that focus on the religious or warmer and fuzzier sides to Xmas.

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CONCLUSION

Absurdity is the foundation of comedy, so in a manner of speaking I enjoy sitting back and relaxing and enjoying the human comedy that unfolds in front of me each Xmas season as the entire good little sheep act out the standard Xmas routines (including paying off the bills in January). It’s a comedy watching all those members of society who take Xmas seriously and who jump as high as they can when society snaps its fingers as Xmas approaches for yet another reason of absurd madness.

Science librarian; retired.

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Sex – For the Pure Health of It

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Lack of sex, especially good sex, is a huge part of my problem. I already knew that. This article confirms it.

By Craig Weiner

Given the degree of negative attention sex can provoke in the media, I thought why not offer a synopsis for my readers on the current science of Why Sex is Important for Your Physical and Mental Health! I am pretty darn sure that this is the first time I have written on the subject here. Yep, definitely sure. Outlined below are just a fraction of how sex can be beneficial to your physical health and well-being. I do however need to share that you should consider the following: Act responsibly, be kind, all good things in moderation (but who defines moderation?), check with your doctor (really?) and do not partake in sex while driving.

Sex and Happiness:

A 2004 study of 16,000 U.S. adults found as a primary finding “That sexual activity enters strongly positively in an equation where reported happiness is the dependent variable. They found simply that sex made a huge difference in reported happiness measurements. While I will not in this synopsis report on the standard query of how much sex are people having (you will have to look up the study for those factoids), I will tell you one significant finding; that the number of sexual partners that resulted in the greatest amount of happiness reported, was… drum-roll please… One partner.

The Brain on Sex:

Ongoing brain research continues to show the impact of sexual activity resulting in countering the deleterious effects of stress in important areas of the brain that have to do with memory and anxiety reduction. A Princeton study for example in rats show that regular sex in rats resulted in reduced stress hormone levels and the stimulation of neurogenesis (new nerve cell growth) and neuroplastic features (an enhanced ability for neurons in the brain to adapt, grow and change with new learning). Other similar studies have shown increased nerve cell growth in the brain’s hippocampus (yes again in rats) and with regular sexual activity, increased recognition memory. So while this has not yet been demonstrated in humans, these studies show an encouraging trend!

Sex and Longevity:

A comprehensive study published in the respected British Medical Journal, involved 918 men in Caerphilly South Wales. Extensive medical interviews in this cohort study and performed with a ten year follow up studying mortality (death) with related lifestyle factors and health conditions taken into account for. The conclusion was a 50% decrease in male mortality who had more frequent orgasms! The authors of this study humorously point out that perhaps improved methods “intervention programs could also be considered, perhaps based on the exciting “At least five a day” campaign aimed at increasing fruit and vegetable consumption-although the numerical imperative may have to be adjusted.” Wink wink. the Duke Study on Aging also found that the frequency of sex was directly inversely related to mortality in men (while the Enjoyment of sex was the significant factor in the decreased mortality for women! Dr Oz reported that he found a study that showed that 200 orgasms per year reduced physiological again by six years.

Sex and Physical Health:

Research has shown that in men, regular male climaxes (depending on measures of frequency) can decrease the risk of prostate cancer by between 14-34%. Sex can act as natural pain reliever with increased release of oxytocin and endorphins (though of course warnings and exceptions need to be in place in the case of physical injury). Sex increases estrogen which in women can relieve menopausal symptoms. Cardiovascular health and weight loss can be improved, with reports showing that 20 minutes a week of vigorous participation can result in the burning of over 7500 calories per year. Antidepressant effects has been found to result for women in unprotected heterosexual activity. Immunoglobin A, a measure of immune function, was shown in one study to improve by 30% with sexual activity 1-2 times per week.

So you have my blessing to share this information with your partner or loved ones and if you must, ask your doctor for a prescription to improve your health in an enjoyable fashion.

Craig Weiner, DC has been in the health care field for 25 years, as a doctor of chiropractic, massage therapist, EFT trainer and practitioner, health coach, workshop leader, and creator of the Transformational Dialogues. Together with his wife Alina Frank, they train and mentor individuals and health care professionals internationally. More information about their work is available at EFTtappingtraining.com and chirozone.net

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10 Health Benefits of Sex You Need to Know

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1. Having sex relieves headaches. Every time you make love , it releases the tension in the veins of the brain.

2. A lot of sex can clear the stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine . It helps to fight against asthma and spring allergies.

3. Making love is a spectacular beauty treatment. Scientists have discovered that when a woman has sex , it produces a large amount of estrogen that gives shine and softness to hair.

4. Sex is one of the safest sports. Make love often strengthens the muscles of male and female body. It’s more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps in the pool and there is not need special shoes!

5. Make love slowly , smoothly and in a relaxed way reduces the chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and acne . The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.

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It’s Time To Embrace Your Cellulite!

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Curves are something to celebrate. And having cellulite (as 85% of women do) doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t feel good about yourself and the way you look. Try some bottom pampering today.

The word cellulite was first coined back in the seventies, but it’s no modern affliction. Just think of those Rubensesque beauties going about their everyday lives. They’d never make the cover of today’s Vogue, yet in their era they were considered the epitome of voluptuous sexiness.

Fashion has changed since then, and back in the days of yore, fatness (for that’s essentially what cellulite is – body fat) would have been synonymous with wealth. Nowadays the smaller your thighs, the bigger your wallet. Women dread surplus pounds, aspiring instead to a neat peachy behind and racehorse legs. And cellulite, which becomes worse as you get older, is viewed as a sort of degenerative disease.

Face it! You know the horror you feel when you cross your legs and the orange peel bulges out. It’s like viewing your first wrinkle or stretch mark. Somehow it’s the beginning of the end.
The truth is cellulite is just part of being a woman – nearly nine out of ten of us fall prey to it, including supermodels and Hollywood’s A listers.

There’s nothing disease-like about it, either – it’s not the result of modern toxins, say experts; rather it’s surplus fat held together by skin cells that have lost their elasticity. And it lurks about the areas of a woman’s body that are designed to lay down fat – backs of thighs, bottoms, tummies, even your upper arms. The result? Fat cells squishing upwards against your skin and causing a cottage cheese effect – like stuffing bursting out of an old cushion.

That’s not to say you have to embrace cellulite as part of your female-ness (that’s why we’ve written this book, after all). But before you get stressed, depressed and obsessed about the cellulite bits, take a moment here to get a perspective, and to celebrate your curves.

A friend’s husband once took a mold of her behind, which was, refreshingly, generously proportioned. He gave it to her as an anniversary present – a wonderful pumpkin of a bottom cast in bronze.

So first lesson is ‘remember, men love curves’. In fact men particularly love fleshy bottoms when they’re paired with a small waist; studies show a waist hip ratio of 0.7 is the magic formula most likely to get a man’s pulse racing.

Don’t forget too, that your curves are there for a reason; making babies, having babies, feeding babies, filling out bikinis/ridiculously expensive lingerie, that sort of thing.

They also give you pleasure – legs, bottoms, thighs, tummies – they’re all part of your healthy, functioning, living, breathing body. So think of a slightly dimply bottom as a sign of a rich, happy and fulfilling life.

Oh, and a spongy bottom is also handy at weddings and on bikes; pews and saddles can be so uncomfortable.

So let’s start by nipping that self-criticism in the bud. Time, instead, to celebrate that ass. Try some of these today:

Savor the good things about your bum and thighs – the excitement of slipping into new silky pants, that satisfying pain/exhilaration when you cycle up a hill, the sensation of rubbing lovely cream into your legs, someone else fondling your behind…. You get the idea.

Every day, promise yourself you’ll something that makes you feel good about your body – have something really delicious to eat, treat yourself a day spa, go for a swim, book a fantastic holiday. Doing something pleasurable can make you feel happy.

Stop buying clothes that don’t fit which you’re aiming to ‘diet into’. They make you feel worse about your body. Instead, buy yourself something big but gorgeous that you can wear now.

Make a mental list of your best bits – hair, feet, long, beautifully shaped fingernails, trim calves, firm boobs – stop focusing on your short-comings and acknowledge your glories.

Splash out on body treats: indulging really does boost your self-confidence – book a facial/manicure, buy new perfume, wallow in a luxurious, gorgeous smelling bath. Take pleasure in looking your best.

Start taking some exercise. It can boost your mood, improve your complexion, help you focus and give you confidence in your body.

Olivia Winters is an accomplished author and self proclaimed food addict. She loves writing about womens hairstyles and other beauty topics whenever she has the spare time.

 

A Guide to Improving the Smell and Taste of Your Vagina

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Odds are, every woman out there has at one time said to herself, “What’s going on with the smells down there?” When it come to the vagina, there are several things that can have an effect on the odor and taste.

First and foremost, it’s important to remember that it is normal for the vagina to have a smell and taste. It is a body part! And this particular one has nearby sweat glands, changes with hormonal differences, and – let’s be honest – there’s a lot going on down there!

Second, it’s good to keep a good relationship with your lady parts. Know the smells and even ask your partner about the taste. This is the only way you will understand what’s normal for you, and if anything you try brings improvement (or causes decline) to taste and smell. If you or your partner notice a particularly strong odor or taste, this could be a sign of a vaginal infection and you want to have this checked out.

But for now, here are some ideas and information on optimizing the fragrance and flavor of your flower:

Female Hygiene is First

Your vagina is most affected by how clean it is, and how it is cleaned.

Keep the area clean through your normal cleaning regimen, but you might also consider using a different soap on the vaginal exterior (washing inside the vagina can mess with your Ph balance and cause infection and irritation) than you use on the rest of the body. Use mild soaps with no perfumes or dyes.

Rinse, rinse, rinse! Rinsing with extra water helps clear the area of extra build-up and discharge, and can leave the vagina smelling fresh.

Consider shaving. Pubic hair is a trap for sweat and dirt, and can hold odors. You don’t have to completely shave the hair off to see improvement; just consider grooming.

Top Story: Nurse Reveals The Top 5 Regrets People Make on Their Deathbed

Author: Bronnie Ware

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

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When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Source: This article originated from blog of author Bronnie Ware at inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html.

Based on this article, Bronnie has released a full-length book. It is a memoir of her own life and how it was transformed based on the regrets of the dying people she cared for. The book is available from her website http://www.bronnieware.com and major online bookstores and is called ‘The Top Five Regrets of the Dying – A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing’.

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You Should Probably Shut Up At These 10 Critical Times

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1. When you don’t know who is around you.

No matter who or what you’re talking about, always be careful of who else is around. You may want to complain about a recent project, or simply talk about a family issue, but if you don’t know who is listening, you could say something offensive or inconsiderate.

2. When you’re surrounded by gossip.

Gossipers love to pull other people into their webs. Don’t let this happen to you. If you gossip with a gossiper, whatever you say can and will be held against you—plus, you’ll probably be the next person gossiped about.

3. When someone asks about your love life.

It’s best to keep details of your love life private, especially if you are spreading negative information about your significant other. It will only harm your relationship, and if he or she finds out you’ve been talking about them, it could end the relationship forever.

4. When someone is telling only you useful information.

You rarely get the opportunity to get ahead, so next time someone starts sharing useful information with you—and only you—stop talking! Listen to what they have to say, and start thinking how you can use the information to improve your job performance.

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5. When the door is open.

It looks bad to talk behind closed doors, but talking out in the open can also lead to problems. Anytime a door is open, always picture the people standing in the hallway—just out of your sight but still in earshot. If you are comfortable talking with the door open, you better be comfortable with all your co-workers knowing what you’re talking about.

6. When someone is telling you a secret.

This is a crucial moment for you to stop talking. A secret means someone wants to confide in you, so if you jump in and start talking, the other person will think you don’t value the relationship. Instead, just be quiet and appreciate their confidence in making you their confidante.

7. When you are about to say something negative.

No one wants to hear your negativity. So, it’s time to shut up unless you have a valid concern about someone’s safety. If you’re just spewing problems and negativity, no one will take you seriously anyway. Everyone will just dismiss you and think you are too lazy to help.

8. When you’re about to lie.

Lying never really works. When you get caught you will ruin the trust you’ve built. Next time you’re tempted to lie, just don’t say anything.

9. When you’re about to make an excuse.

People who make excuses all the time are annoying. Next time someone asks you to help with a project, just focus on what you need from them to get started. This way, you will be proactive, and you will enlist them to help you get started.

10. When you want to “one-up” someone.

“One uppers” are people who always have to beat what the other person is saying. For example, if someone tells you they ran two miles, a one upper would say, “Really? I ran five.” If you’re really passionate about an activity, it’s natural to want to “one-up” someone, but hold back. It only makes you look desperate.

Next time you want to speak up, make sure what you’re saying will be a positive influence on the conversation and the person you’re speaking to. Learning when to speak and when to shut up is one of the fastest ways you can develop trust within your organization.

via You Should Probably Shut Up At These Critical Times.

Are You a Real Friend?

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By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

“A real friend is one who helps us to think our noblest thoughts, put forth our best efforts, and be our best selves.” ~Anonymous

What kind of friend are you? Below are some of the things good friends do.

Do you:

  • Listen with caring and attention?
  • Support what brings your friend joy?
  • Have the courage to speak your truth when you see your friend harming herself or himself?
  • Reach out frequently?
  • Return calls, texts and emails in a timely manner?
  • Feel joy for your friend’s joy and pain for their pain?
  • Help when you are asked for help?
  • Share your own struggles and ask for help or support?

Or, do you:

  • Try to fix your friend, thinking you know better?
  • Lecture, criticize and judge?
  • Feel envious of your friend?
  • Try to keep your friend from being all he or she can be?
  • Talk on and on and don’t listen?
  • Brag and try to make your friend feel one down, envious or jealous?
  • Make everything about you?
  • Take a long time to return a call, text or email?
  • Wait for your friend to reach out?
  • Refuse to be open and vulnerable with your friend?

If you find yourself more on the second list than on the first list, you might want to explore why you are not able or willing to be a good friend. What are you afraid will happen if you are open, caring and supportive?

The ego wounded self generally comes from a fear of lack and scarcity. This fear may translate into believing that if you support your friend in being all he or she can be, somehow you will lose out – that there isn’t enough for both of you in the universe. If you have this false belief, where did you get it? How is it serving you to believe it? How do you feel when you try to keep your friend limited so that you won’t lose out? Do you believe that the only way you will feel good about yourself is if someone else feels bad about themselves? If you believe this, where did you get this false belief?

Since all of our feelings are informational, if you are envious or jealous of your friend, there is a good reason for it. The good reason likely has to do with old fears and beliefs that you acquired in childhood and that are now making it hard for you to be a good friend. You might want to take the time to explore what false beliefs lie under your jealousy or envy. What beliefs about yourself do you have that are limiting you and keeping you from having whatever you are jealous and envious about? What fears are keeping you from manifesting what you want in your life?

Until you become a real friend with yourself, you might have problems being a real friend with others. Being a real friend with yourself means seeing, valuing and supporting your own gifts and talents – your own real Self. When you can cherish who you are in your essence – your true Self – then it becomes easy to see, value and support your friends. When you learn to treat yourself with love, you will naturally treat your friends with love, too.

Connected, caring friendship is vitally important to our well being. People tend to mirror how we treat ourselves, so the more connected and caring you are with yourself, the more you will attract connected, caring friends into your life.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?” and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.

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Evaluate the Good, Bad and Useless in Your Life

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By Katie O’Brien

If you’ve heard the saying ‘clean house’ you know it doesn’t necessarily imply using any harsh cleaning supplies. Cleaning house can also be referred to your ‘internal house.’ Just as we would go through our rooms in our homes, dust, polish, declutter and rid of old useless items… we find it helpful to do this within ourselves, too.

It’s best to start by taking inventory. You’ll want to note the good, bad and useless that live within. These can be habits, traits, feelings, actions, relationships, careers… anything that comes to mind about your internal housekeeping. Take note on what you love and what you hate, what is useful to you and maybe not so useful. Awareness is key. Once an inventory is created it will be much easier to choose what to polish and shine… or not.

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So take out a piece of paper and on the front jot down all the good. And then on the back, write everything you’re not too fond about. Where you’re stressed, frazzled, where you could use some improvement.

Now once your list is created. Take the items, habits, feelings, traits, relationships, careers from the back, the ones you don’t find helpful, useful or healthy and begin to make note of how you can eliminate these from your life. What can you do to transform these not so good areas into something great? Think how life would be different once this area was transformed into something that serves you vs. works against you.

Okay next. The items on your list you love and want to have stick around. These are the items that make you feel good, that you’re proud of, that make you smile at the thought of them. Take time to reflect on how each of them make you feel. What good do they bring to your life? And now consider, how can you attract more of the same in to your life?

Your inventory can be as long or as short as you wish. Think of each area in your life as a different room. One may be relationships, one may be work, one may be family, one may be financial. When you enter each ‘room’ give some thought on how you can clean up that area to better serve you. Taking this time and going through this process gives you the opportunity to attract and remove whatever you’d like in your life.

You have to choice on what sticks around in your life. Why not make a conscious decision and start creating better experiences for yourself?

Life Coach for Moms, Katie O’Brien, helps women create a healthier, happier balance in life with their new baby. No matter how old their babies are, through coaching she help moms thrive and shine all throughout their mommy-hood journey. Download her Free Top Tips for Bliss at kaocoaching.com!

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The Working Woman – Overcoming Stress To Achieve Success

As a working woman, your ability and drive to accomplish things allows you to handle complex challenges, run business and manage your family successfully. However, this can also put you at risk to chronic negative stress. This is because your aim for excellence is to focuses, independent and even aggressive, that you fail to care for your own needs, become too serious and inflexible and also over commit. Sadly, you hardly slow down that you do not realize that you are already running near to empty.

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Under What Type Of Stress Are You?

Understanding the type of stress you might be experiencing is crucial in determining the proper solution.

  • The Dash And Crash Stress

This type of stress helps you stay focused and motivated to become successful, however once the stress levels decrease, you tend to crash severely.

The Solution

If you keep on pushing, you will collapse eventually as your nervous system crashes from being in high gear. Unfortunately, this crash will leave you drained and spent.

Go on vacation, explore, rejuvenate and rediscover, in order to help you recover from your crash. When you engage in exercise, keep it to a minimum. As your high cortisol levels affect your immune system, give yourself vitamin C boosts.

  • The Life Observer Stress

This type of extreme stress can make you feel as if you are in a bubble just watching life pass you by.

The Solution

This extreme state of stress is often caused by severe imbalance making it hard for you to apply life changes. Sadly, the more stressed out you get, the more withdrawn and severely overwhelmed you become.

To handle this type of stress, you need to start exercising for short periods of time at an easy pace and maintain a daily journal to track and connect how you feel emotionally and physically. You should also increase your positive vibes and self esteem by noting good things that occurred each day, accompanied with a reflection on why they are important.

  • The Constant Overdrive Stress

Your motivation is always on high drive preventing you from actually relaxing or even staying still, prompting you to constantly clench your teeth and tap your feet or hands.

The Solution

You have problems relaxing and falling asleep. You are also emotional, explosive, anxious and very straightforward with how you communicate. Your aggressiveness often fires up when under pressure and it does not simmer down quickly as your entire system is in overdrive.

Considering that you have so much nervous energy to burn off, you need to exercise at an intense pace and stay away from caffeine. When you stick to a regular exercise routine, your mood will improve and gradually protect you from any stress induced brain damages. Consider engaging in yoga or pilates and create a journal to write down whatever bothers you. Sleep is also crucial to eliminate stress, so if you are having trouble sleeping, consider the comfort your mattress offers. According to Parklane Mattresses, “plush models contain individually wrapped Marshall Coils, a spring system where every coil moves independently to conform to your body as you move during the night. The thin gauge wire used in our plush mattresses is piano wire strong but soft and supple enough to provide pillow like comfort.”

  • The Zero To Sixty Stress

Though you are generally calm, stress can put you in complete disarray when it hits you as you are extremely sensitive to stress.

The Solution

Evidently, a small amount of cortisol, which is a stress hormone, is being produced by your body. How you sleep and the state of your energy levels is based on the amount of produced cortisol. Small amount of cortisol can lead to an overactive immune response attacking body tissues leading to pain and inflammation. Sadly, the feeling with discourage you from exercising.

You can deal with this type of stress by exercising at a slow pace, then progressing to moderate intensity to provide relief. Do not forget to do some daily stretching for flexible muscles, and massage body areas that need soothing.

Valerie Collins is a freelance writer specializing in health and well being issues, and offers information about the latest apps and devices used to encourage quality sleep

How You Can Lose Fat Without Giving Up Your Favorite Foods

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That title sounds like the beginning of a long marketing pitch about a new wonder drug that burns fat without you having to do anything. It’s not. Let’s get one thing straight. You can’t binge on junk food all day without putting on fat. This simply isn’t possible. Nature doesn’t allow this sort of thing.

At the same time, we have to get rid of this ‘all or nothing’ approach. Just because you want to get healthy and fit doesn’t mean you have to give up pizzas, burgers, and coca cola. Let’s explore how you can do this.

Start with the Basics

Firstly, you can’t spot reduce fat. A man who wants abs can’t do 100 sit-ups or crunches each day and find himself looking like an Australian surfer. To lose fat in one place you have to lose fat everywhere. It all starts with the ‘calories in calories out’ principle.

Calories, on an extremely basic level, are the energy particles of your body. If you need to eat 2,000 calories per day to function, you’ll lose weight if you eat less and gain weight if you eat more. Your body has fat reserves that it can delve into if you have a calorie deficit.

In short, stop eating as much. Someone who has a slice of pizza every day will still lose weight with a calorie deficit.

Start measuring your calories by looking at the labels on the back of each food item. It doesn’t have to be accurate. A rough idea is all you need.

Eat More Gain Less

Every food has a different calorie density. Fruit and veg have an extremely low amount of calories. Junk food has a high amount of calories, which is why people classify it as junk food in the first place.

If your favorite foods have a low calorie density, eat as much as you want of them. You could eat a few kilos of fruit each day and still lose weight, without becoming unhealthy.

Always stick to the ‘calories in calories out’ principle.

Burn it Down

Now, the previous arguments have been used with the assumption nobody is exercising. Exercise burns through calories. Bodybuilders wanting to reduce the amount of fat on their bodies will operate at a calorie deficit by intense exercise whilst reducing the fat content in their meals and eating more carbs.

Carbs are converted into glucose, which enable you to feel energetic. They’ll stick to foods with little fat and operate at a calorie deficit. This is the ultimate way of reducing fat. You’re adding a minimal amount of fat and forcing your body to burn the fat already inside you.

How long will it take to burn all this fat, though?

It depends how seriously you take it. Some people prefer to reduce their calories significantly and exercise at a high level of intensity. On the other hand, other people will reduce their intake by a few hundred calories and decrease their body fat percentage over a greater period of time.

Jessica Sanders, a world-renowned fitness guru, contributed this article. She shares health and fitness related tips through her articles.

4 Simple Truths a Woman Should Know About Her Man

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By Makoo L.

It’s well known and a joke among many that men and women seem to be from different planets. They think different and have a different way of seeing things. An example would be the difference in their emotional actions and reasoning.

What sometimes happens is you might get upset over something your guy said. You may have taken what he said wrong only because of the way it came across when he really meant no harm. This could leave you giving him the silent treatment and your guy wondering what the heck happened.

When a relationship get this way there is a lot of tension and the arguments and fighting start. Fortunately it does not have to be like that. When you figure out some simple truths about men then you will be able to better figure them out and that can make your relationship a lot less stressful. Below are some tips to get you started.

1. It may not make sense but your guy loves you just the way you are. But, he would really like you to never change from the person you were when he first met you. As we get older and become comfortable in our relationships we can start to take each other for granted and lose some of who we once were.

2. Have you ever asked him what he was thinking about and he says nothing? You may believe there is no way he is thinking about nothing but the truth is it can be true. He is not hiding anything from you or not sharing his thoughts. He is just in his own world not worrying about things at that moment.

3. Men have a different way of displaying their love to their girlfriends, wives and family. They may have a deep love for them but you won’t see it out in the open as you would with women. They are more internal with their feeling so it can be deceiving at times. Don’t expect him to tell you how much he loves you every day but you can be sure the love is there.

4. Even though he would like to see you the same as when you first met, he also does not want to change himself. He would be happy to sit in his favorite chair each night, resist exercising or fight the temptation to improve his diet. So if you start to push him to make changes you may see him putting up some resistance.

Once you have a grasp of these simple things about men you may be able to navigate your relationship a bit better. Let’s hope you will gain a renewed appreciation and your relationship grows stronger.

Are you having a low point in your relationship or have recent experienced a break up?

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How A Thong Can Cause A Vaginal Infection

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This article seeks to help you understand how and why a Thong (also called G-String, Tanga) can cause an Urinary Tract Infection (UTI) and other types of Vaginal Infections.

This information is especially valuable to women with recurrent vaginal infections & those who are emotionally unstable.

The Thong-Debate – Can A Thong Really Cause A Vaginal Infection

As with everything in life there are always two sides and two possible explanations.

Looking at the latest researches I cannot provide you with scientific studies that connects the wearing of thongs to UTI’s or other vaginal infection.

However, many gynecologists report that an increasing number of women wearing a thong suffer from urinary tract infection and other vaginal infections. One gynecologist stated:

“I would like to tell all women”, she said, “that wearing a thong has long-lasting health effects. It’s bad for the entire genital and perineal area.”

Read full article via 2 Unthought Reasons How A Thong Can Cause A Vaginal Infection & UTI | My Tiny Secrets.

The 9 Weirdest Facts About Boobs

breastsBoobs…we can never quite seem to get enough of them or stop talking about their appearance. Indeed, there are countless studies dedicated to unearthing the mystery of their enchanting allure, with some research providing particularly comical insight into our perception of breasts and personal preferences. While the legitimacy of many of these so-called “scientific findings” is questionable, here is a list of the weirdest boob studies out there worthy of mention:

1. Poor men like big breasts while financially secure men prefer smaller breasts.

Busty women beware: your cleavage may be attracting gold diggers. According to Psychology Today, the amount of money a man earns has a lot to do with the size of breasts he prefers. The study, conducted by two psychologists, set out to explore the link between financial security and men’s breast size preferences. Men from different socio-economic backgrounds – 266 to be exact – were asked which breast size they found more sexually attractive based on a series of animated female figures with various breast sizes.

The study determined that poorer men or men experiencing “resource insecurity” preferred larger breasts while those who were financially well off preferred smaller boobs. Moreover, it suggests that one view on women’s breast size is that it acts as a “signal of fat reserves, which in turn advertises access to resources”.

Read full article via The 9 Weirdest Facts About Boobs | Alternet.

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