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FreeBlogging: The Internet Is A Breeding Ground For Assholes, Including Me!

I wrote this weeks ago as I was going off on a tangent. I’ve debated publishing it because I don’t think it’s written very well. Then I said, fuck it, I’m a free writing asshole!

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The internet is a breeding ground for assholes! They’re more commonly called trolls and I also call them internet gangstas. Everyone has an opinion (including me) about everything under the sun and I think we have a right to express it without being dogged unless we’re clearly asking for it. If I don’t agree with what you’re saying I take a moment to decide whether or not I want to get involved in the discussion or the drama that may occur. When I do express my opinion I try my best to do it respectively and without pissing anyone off…on purpose. But, there is bound to be one person that feels the need to put me in my place by responding with a superior tone.

I also make it a point to try to see things from perspectives that are different from mine and I try to share my perspective to induce understanding. The major issue with online and oftentimes offline communication is that many of us aren’t open to understanding other people’s perspective or ways of life. We need to be more tolerant and acceptable of how other people see the world and chose to live in it. It doesn’t mean we have to like it or agree with it, but we need to come away with a better understanding of why people are the way they are and respect them for it. For example, if the way they live their live doesn’t negatively or directly affect you, live and let live.

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It doesn’t mean there is something deeply wrong with me if I think it’s OK to smoke weed and you don’t, or I think abortion is a woman’s rightful choice and you don’t, if I think homosexuality is normal and you don’t, if I’m Agnostic and you are Christian. We’re all conditioned from babies to act and think one way or another and we are all raised different culturally from household to household, so what makes us so sure that our way is the only way or the right way? What works for you may not work for me and vice versa. There’s more than one road to any destination.

I often forget that when people see me they only see a woman, and not only that, a Black woman who lives in the Flint, Michigan area AKA The Murder Capital, so I already have these boxes that people think I should fit in and some people are hell-bent on keeping me boxed. Plus, my pen-name is Dangerous Lee…and because of that some people initially think I’m a man! Or that I will cause harm. Do I have an identity crisis or what?!

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My mother raised me to be a free-spirited, strong, independent person but I was also raised under certain religious beliefs. As I grew up and experienced and learned certain realities of life some of the things I was taught to believe in didn’t vibe with my spirit.  I realized that the way I felt and thought about things was okay and actually very normal and not a sin or something to be ridiculed. Many people I love are religious, and although I am not, I have been positively  affected by certain religious beliefs because of how I was raised. I don’t subscribe to religion because I am a free-thinker. I also have the mentality that allows me not to care if you don’t like or agree with my beliefs or how I live my life. It’s my life. Not yours. Worry about your own  salvation. As Jill Scott says; I know what I know.

I speak from a place of learning. I’ve always considered myself non judgmental, and for the most part I am, but I have a few areas I need to work on. I sometimes judge people negatively that think differently than I do on certain topics, but to my credit I also base my judgments on their overall word combined with their actions. We’re human, we judge, but I don’t have hatred for anyone who can’t understand my perspective. I do have hope that people’s minds will open further to understand where I am coming from, but I won’t hold my breath.

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Not generally speaking, but White people get on my damn nerves. A White male friend of mine contacted me recently and stated that he agrees with Charles Barkley’s thoughts on the George Zimmerman case. I think Charles’s ignorant ass statements only help to hurt race relations and give certain White people something to latch on to validate their misguided opinions on race. I simply told my friend that based on our different life experiences and perspectives I understood why he thinks that way. White people will NEVER understand issues related to race or racism, so I don’t even know why they think their opinion is valid or needed on the topic. The saying, “It’s a Black thing you wouldn’t understand”, applies here. It would be great for White people to get a better understanding of racism, but it’s natural that they don’t fully get it. Having said that, White people need to stop thinking they are the authority on racism and that they can dictate how we feel or how we should feel, but White privilege is a bitch. That’s it! White People Homework: Research White Privilege.

As a Black woman I understand the injustice in the not guilty verdict because of this country’s issue with racism and classism. Zimmerman had no right to approach Trayvon in the first place. Had he not done so, Trayvon would be alive. However, I’d like to think that if I were a White woman, like Alexandra Allred, I would also understand the injustice based on the public facts.

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I am beyond sick of discussions concerning Zimmerman and Paula Deen. Both conversations suffer from people not being fully informed on the facts of each case, but people have very strong opinions towards anyone who dares not support these two people. I had a White woman (who claimed she knew all the facts) actually tell me that I have hate in my heart and that I need God along with a few other choice words on Pinterest because of this article I wrote about Paula Deen. I told her to fuck off and that she needed God more than I did along with some common sense. Granted telling her to fuck off was harsh, but her comments, which she has since deleted, were also harsh. I’ll never understand the phenomena of speaking your mind and deleting the comments once you have been challenged. I believe in giving as good as I get. If you can’t handle the backlash keep your damn opinions to yourself. If you decide to share you opinions try not to be an asshole about it because then the Asshole Calvary is open for business!

Sometimes I know if I leave a comment expressing my opinion on someone’s personal post that it will only agitate the situation, but I don’t get off on conflict, so I avoid leaving my thoughts most times. There’s nothing wrong with a good debate, but arguments piss me off so I often skip the opportunity to discuss certain topics unless I feel like the statement being made attacks me or my personal beliefs. There are lots of controversial things I’d like to discuss, but I don’t because I don’t feel like dealing with the people who don’t get it, don’t want to get it, and just want to be…assholes. Internet assholes are only interested in their feelings, opinions and beliefs. Social media has also made sharing our opinions a way of life. Everyone’s opinion counts online, but it’s all in the delivery. Research: Nicety.

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I am who I am and you are who you are because of all that we have seen and experienced in life. This includes things that have happened to us unwillingly and choices that we have made. I’ve met all kinds of people along the way in my 38 years who have similar experiences to mine and those who’ve lived lives vastly different from mine and the one thing we all have in common is that we are all flawed.

The next time you want to leave a smart-ass comment at this website or elsewhere on the web, understand that not everyone sees the world as you do, has lived the life you have, or has been conditioned to think the way you do. Choose your words wisely because you’re not the only asshole with an opinion.

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365 Days of Dangermas: Day 99 – The Fortune Cookie

DANGERMASLOGODay 99 – April 9, 2013:

Highlights of The Day

  • Chinese for dinner and my fortune was, “Nothing can keep you from reaching your goals. Do it!” I needed that. It gets harder and harder to be a one woman production, but if I don’t do it it won’t get done. Having said that I have to get working on content for tomorrow and the rest of the week. *SIGH*
  • Also, I tried a pearl manicure. Hated it!

The fortune is in the Dangermas tree!

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365 Days of Dangermas: Day 98 – Crossing The Great Lakes

DANGERMASLOGODay 98 – April 8, 2013:

Highlights of The Day

  • Senia and I go to the chiropractor together now. Both of our necks are a mess, but I am in much worse shape. It sounds like popcorn popping when the doctor is working on me. I love it!
  • I decided to make today special by taking a trip to Great Lakes Crossing in Auburn Hills. Not only did we hang out, but we did some shopping and had dinner at Johnny Rockets.

Nothing for the Dangermas tree.

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365 Days of Dangermas: Day 95 – Home Alone

DANGERMASLOGODay 95 – April 5, 2013:

Another Friday night and I am all alone. I like it. I’m working, but I am also relaxin’ and enjoying my favorite jams. It’s been a good week. Cya next week! And, as always Keep it Dangerous!

Nothing for the Dangermas tree.

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365 Days of Dangermas: Day 94 – Nurses Rule At DangerousLee.Biz!

DANGERMASLOGODay 94 – April 4, 2013:

Highlights of The Day

  • Today was a day full of work, so there’s really no highlights worth mentioning except the fact that the article 5 Reasons Marrying A Nurse Is Like Winning The Lottery has received close to 150,000 views today and the love hate conversation on nurses continues. I’m amazed! Who knew an article about nurses would cause such a stir!
  • I got a B- in my Bio Chemistry Neuro Psychology class. Yay me! I’m glad to be done with that!
  • I had several epiphanies last night before bed and I am very excited about my next book project. I can’t wait to share the details with you when it’s ready to rock!
  • Earth Day is April 22 and Senia has created  – Senia’s Earth Day Challenge. Please participate by submitting images of green living or images/drawings of your favorite places on earth.

Nothing for the Dangermas tree.

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365 Days of Dangermas: Day 93 – I'm PMSing!

DANGERMASLOGODay 93 – April 3, 2013:

Highlights of The Day

  • Ladies you know what I’m talking about; your breasts swell, you can feel your uterus moving, you cry at the drop of a hat, and you feel like crap! Yep! That’s me, and my back hurts! All this and I haven’t even officially started my period yet. Ughhhh! Periods are one thing I HATE about being a woman. I will rejoice when I hit menopause.
  • Other than hitting the chiropractor this morning, we took a lil’ trip to Baskin Robbins for ice cream – chocolate chip and mint chocolate chip in a cup please!
  • The article 5 Reasons Marrying A Nurse Is Like Winning The Lottery has officially gone viral! It has received more than 100,000 views today alone. Wow! I’m shocked, but loving it. Thanks everyone! I’m not sure what’s so captivating about the article but like I said, I’m loving the love 🙂

Nothing for the Dangermas tree today, but the huge snake added yesterday makes up for the many missed days; don’t ya think?

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365 Days of Dangermas: Day 92 – Snakes, Lizards & Frogs, Oh My!

DANGERMASLOGODay 92 – April 2, 2013:

Highlights of the Day

  • Went to the Rescue and Conservation Center at The Great Lakes Zoological Society in Ann Arbor. I especially loved the dyeing poison frogs, the spiny tailed agamids, and the crocodile  monitor. I even got a huge stuffed python to remember the trip by and guess where it is? That’s right! The Dangermas tree! I put it in upside down  (as you can see below) but it looks good that way. However, I have put it in the tree right side up since taking this photo. Senia got a huge, super cute, stuffed purple poison dart frog. She named it “Spots” and it’s her new sidekick :). Day two of Spring Break was a success!

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If you’d like to donate items to the Dangermas tree, please view our wishlist for ideas, or you can send ornaments or other light weight items to:

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365 Days of Dangermas: Day 91 – I'm So Tired!

DANGERMASLOGODay 91 – April 1, 2013:

Highlights of the Day:

  • First day of Spring Break for Senia, and I kept her busy by taking her to an orientation at my chiropractor (who knew they had orientations?). The orientation was helpful, because it helps you to understand why chiropractic is needed and how it works. Of course the orientation was also about getting more clients. Senia will go with me later this week to have free xrays and a consultation. You’re never too young to get your nervous system in order. Apparently one of the doctors adjusted his child one hour after they were born!
  • We also went to the mall and got things we wanted instead of things we needed. That’s always fun!
  • The best news of the day is that SimplySenia.com is back up and running after being deactivated because of an error that was made by WordPress bots. If you have children, you’ll love the content over there. Check it out!
  • Like the header says, I’m tired! Goodnite!

Nothing for the Dangermas tree. Poor thing!

If you’d like to donate items to the Dangermas tree, please view our wishlist for ideas, or you can send ornaments or other light weight items to:

Dangerous Lee

PO Box 7317

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365 Days of Dangermas: Day 88 – Who The Hell Has Been Walking On My Car?

DANGERMASLOGODay 88 – March 29, 2012:

Highlights of the Day

  • It appears that someone or more than one person has taken it upon themselves to walk on the hood and top of my damn car! When did this become the next big thing? I taped a note on my windshield saying, “Stay Off Car!!!” with an image of a foot on it. We’ll see if I have more shoe prints on my car tomorrow.
  • I started cooking in the slow cooker again. I threw some ribs in there today with a special sauce. I wasn’t very impressed. I cooked some beef stew a couple of days ago that was also blah. Apparently, I can’t cook!
  • I’m home alone on a Friday, but that’s typical. However, I like being alone. I am getting lots of things done! I could go out to a movie or something, but I don’t feel like it. Maybe tomorrow…
  • I learned about another type of sexuality called demisexual and I think it fits under the asexual umbrella. I fit the bill of demisexual almost to the tee, except I do experience primary sexual attraction (attracted to a person’s looks, clothes, or personality), and demisexuals are said to not be sexually attracted to anyone of any gender which I can totally relate to as well, but when I am sexually attracted to someone they are male. You know, it’s weird that we feel the need to always label ourselves and put ourselves in boxes. I have always identified as heterosexual, but after learning what I learned today I don’t think I can identify as such anymore. For a while now I’ve felt odd because I rarely meet men that I am attracted to and that I am only able to really enjoy sex when I am in a meaningful relationship with someone that I am also very physically attracted to. That’s why I love to learn. Knowledge really is power and let’s you know that you’re not all that unique!

Nothing for the Dangermas tree. I think Dangermas has officially become a platform for me to write and much less about decorating the tree. I feel bad. Hopefully something for the tree cathes my eye over the weekend. Have a Dangerous Easter Holiday weekend 😉

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If you’d like to donate items to the Dangermas tree, please view our wishlist for ideas, or you can send ornaments or other light weight items to:

Dangerous Lee

PO Box 7317

Flint, MI 48507

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