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Women Want Intimacy Too

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By Dr. Jeff Davis

Intimacy (into-me-see) is the right way to look at how women view this topic. Many women long for people in their lives that can see what is really going on with them.

What does it mean to be intimate? It means to be close. To look at someone and see the real person. For a woman it removes the superficiality and the barriers that separate her from everyone else. Some equate being known intimately as standing before someone with nothing to hide.

Let me offer some points that outline what intimacy means to a woman;

1) It means “you can see the real me”- women who open up and let you see the best in themselves. They love being transparent because it means they can just be themselves. And they want to be surrounded by people who can look at them and see who they really are.

2) It means “we are connected”- today’s woman has so much pressure to feel connected to the idea created by the media when they are selling beer and cars; a slim beautiful woman who belongs on the cover on a magazine. Yet many women don’t fit this concept because not all women have the figure or the face to compete. This makes them feel unconnected to the concept of beautiful women portrayed in the public. When a woman knows that she has intimacy with someone else she feels connected and accepted.

3) it means “you can love me and I will love you back”- Intimacy opens the door to being loved with her whole heart being involved. I believe that loving a woman and having her love you back is one of the best feelings a person can have in this lifetime. To find a woman who will not only give you her heart but everything she has to offer is not to be compared with anything else. It is great to find women who are loved and feel loved, free to express themselves without reservation.

4) It means ‘sex is going to be awesome”- when a man connects with a woman on an intimate level that transcends just the touch and the act of sex. A woman who feels intimacy towards a man will give him her heart, her soul and her body. This is clearly the best sex any couple could ever hope to experience.

Let’s hope that all women can have sincere intimacy in their lives. The world will be a better place because of it.

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Why Some Men Let Women Walk All Over Them

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By Oliver J R Cooper

It doesn’t matter whether one is a man or woman, as they can both be walked over by the same or the opposite sex. And while this could relate to someone being physically walked over, in the majority of cases, it is not that extreme.

But that is not to say that the damage is therefore less severe. It might take a while for the damage to appear, but it can be just as bad in the long run and even in the short term, depending on what happens.

What it refers to is one having their boundaries crossed by another person. And these can cover the following areas of one’s nature: intellectual, physical, emotional and spiritual. But let’s not create the impression that one is a complete victim here and has no choice as to whether other people compromise their boundaries.

Permission

In order for this to happen, one needs to give the other person permission. Now, this could be given unconsciously and happen out of one’s conscious awareness. However, if one has this happen from time to time, it is unlikely to cause too many problems.

As human beings we are not perfect and neither are we meant to be, so there is inevitably going to be moments where one slips up and doesn’t to what they need to do. What will create difficulties is when this has become a way of life for someone.

A Way Of Life

And in this case, when a man has a pattern of letting women walk all over them, it is going to be a big problem. One could have become accustomed to it and even dismiss it, but it is not going to allow one to have healthy or functional relationships with the opposite sex.

Other people could wonder why they are putting up with this kind of behavior and yet the man may have come to the conclusion that this is how life is. They may have experienced some women who are not, but as it is so common, the ones who are not end up being filtered out.

Resistance

There is going to be resistance and a sense of frustration on some level. And although this could be covered up and hidden from time to time or as way of life, it won’t go away. If this pain is covered up or released through different kinds of escapes for example; one could end up putting up with it for the foreseeable future.

But if they embrace this pain and use it in a constructive manner, then change can occur and one can move beyond this challenge. Awareness will be the key, as will finding the right information and support.

The Experience

So for one to have a woman walk all over them is not going to be too pleasant. And while this could relate to one area of their life, it could affect them in all areas. The urge could be there to overlook what women are doing or to react to it and become violent, and yet this won’t deal with the problem.

This could be something that causes them problems in their: intimate relationships, with family members, friends or colleagues for instance. When they are around them, their whole sense of self could erode and they then end up going along with whatever the woman wants.

It then won’t matter if they agree with what is going on or if it is causing them to compromise themselves. They don’t stand up for themselves and they don’t hold their ground. Their behaviour makes them look as though they are walking doormats.

Self Respect

The women in this person’s life will be used to getting what they want regardless of if the man wants the same thing. So this may give them a sense of power and control, but they are unlikely to respect the man.

An in order for the man to put up with this kind of behavior, it is clear they don’t respect themselves. What truly matters to them is pleasing a woman, all the while displeasing themselves. This means that the man is engaging in self harm and this is a sign of inner conflict.

Conflict

At a conscious level, a man is unlikely to feel comfortable with being walked over. However, at deeper level, it is what will feel comfortable and safe. The mind is going to create a story as to why this is happening. And this could cause one to create an identity of being a victim and having no control.

But the real answers are in one’s body and not in their mind. So at one point in their life, they would have been in an environment where being walked over was normal and this then became associated as what is safe by their ego mind.

Causes

And this could have been an environment that one was in as an adult, but it generally relates to their childhood environment. So how one was treated by their mother will often define what they put up with from women in later life.

This can also include what their sister was like, if they had one and other females that were around at the time. The men that were around at the time will also play a big part. If they were walked over, then this can be taken as an example of how to behave around women.

The Mother Figure

During these years, their mother is likely to have had boundaries challenges herself. And this then caused her to be unaware of how her son was responding. The love that she gave could have been conditional and therefore they had to do what they were told to avoid being abandoned and harmed in some way. At such a young age, being abandoned feels like death.

It was not possible for them to be themselves and to be loved for who they were; it was based on certain requirements being met. So they learnt from an early age that they could only survive by pleasing others. And being walked over could have been something that they had to experience for many, many years.

Consequences

These early experiences or ones that were similar would have created certain beliefs and thoughts. But before these were formed, there would have been an emotional experience. And if ones mother was unaware of that fact that she was training her son to be walked over in life, she was probably completely oblivious to what feelings they were having.

So these would have had to have been pushed out of one’s awareness. And when it comes to a man standing up to women as an adult, these feelings will be triggered and stop them from being able to hold their ground. The feelings will cause the man to project the past onto the present and to perceive women as being in control of how they feel.

Awareness

In reality, all they are doing is making these repressed feelings come to the surface. While a man may not be a baby or a child any more, they can still feel like one and therefore behave like one. So these feelings and emotions that have been trapped in their body every since, will need to be released.

When this happens, one will start to feel that it is safe to stand their ground. This can be done with the assistance of a therapist or a healer who will allow one to face them and gradually release them.

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”

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Does The Media Destroy Women’s Self Esteem?

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By Oliver J R Cooper

When it comes to what the media focuses on, there are many things that are positive and constructive and then there are also numerous things that are negative and destructive. This is to be expected, as there are pros and cons to most things in this world.

And with that in mind, it is essential that one has the ability to question what they see and hear. Just as one would look at a menu in a restaurant and decide what they wanted and didn’t want; every item on the list would not be selected.

One would use discernment to avoid what was not healthy or the foods they did not enjoy. This filter that one uses when looking at the menu is normal for most people. It doesn’t take much effort and can take place without one needing to be too aware.

However, when it comes to the media, this discernment is not always in place and this means that one can accept and internalize everything they see or hear in the media. And this is not something that one should blame themselves for or come to the conclusion that there is something wrong with them.

Part Of Life

This is because the media is part of life and something that can’t be avoided. What one can do is develop their critical abilities and create strong intellectual boundaries. To live without these things is to be completely vulnerable to everything and anything the media comes up with.

And as a result of the media being part of life, it means that its effects are often invisible and go on unnoticed. Here, one’s self esteem and emotional state can be directly influenced by the media.

When one watches the news, it is inevitably going to have an impact on how they feel. But before long, they are likely to settle back down and return to their normal state of being. Then there can be other times when one is still being affected by the media; even after they have placed their attention elsewhere.

Identity

The above relates to how the media can shape ones emotional state in regards to the daily events in the world that they chose to focus on. This is just one consequence of the media and another thing the media has the potential to do, is to define how one perceives themselves.

And this covers a whole range of different aspects of the self. If one feels good or bad, if they feel worthy or unworthy and if they are physically attractive or not, will then be defined by the media. So it won’t be up to oneself to define these things, it will be based on the media granting them permission.

It therefore doesn’t take much reflection to see that this is a very precarious position to be in. And yet if one has lived this way for most of their life, it is not going to be changed overnight. One might not even realize that what the media says is not the truth.

Ideas And Reality

Although what the media sells can appear to be the truth, it is often far from what actually exists in reality. But just because something is an idea and has very little to do with reality itself, it doesn’t mean that this will be realized.

So the media programs peoples mind to see in a certain way. And as the mind only sees what it has been programmed to see and filters everything else out; even though what the media is saying is not always accurate, it no longer matters.

Women

The pressure women face through the media is far worse than what men have to deal with. In recent years, a new market has opened up to make money from men by getting them into products that were only used by women in the past. Such as: moisturizers and grooming products.

But when it comes to women, every part of them is constantly scrutinized and measured up to some ideal that they have invented. And these ideals are in a constant state of flux and so having inner stability is impossible.

Lose Or Lose

So if a woman has what the media has idealized, then they could feel fine. But before long this ideal will change and then they could sink right down, emotionally speaking. It is then not a win win situation or even win lose, it is simply lose or lose.

And while this is going to have a massive impact on a woman’s self esteem and self worth, it can also shape the kind of career they think they can have and the kind of relationships they deserve to experience.

This is not something they need another human being to validate; the fact the media has conditioned them to believe it is often the only thing that is required. Reality then takes second place and what take first place are the ideas that the media has created in one’s mind.

Contrast

As the media creates images and ideals that are prefect and don’t reflect human imperfection, they are impossible to live up to. In some cases they are images that have been created by a computer. So through not matching up to these false ideals, one is going to end up feeling less than.

And if perfection is the only thing that is good enough, then being a perfectly imperfect human being is never going to be enough. The contrast can keep one in a perpetual state of dissatisfaction and despair.

Inner Worth

To want to look good and to grow is healthy and far from dysfunctional. What leads to problems is when one becomes completely consumed by how they look and neglects what is taking place within them. While the media can lower peoples self esteem, they also prey on people with low self esteem.

And what the media can’t sell is what one has within them. This is not something one can buy and it is not something that can be taken from them. Inherently one is perfect as they are; with it being a case of letting go and not gaining anything.

The challenge is that it takes work for one to realize their inner worth. And as the media is so strong and life offers so many enticing distractions, it can easily be overlooked and neglected.

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”

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Dangerous Celebrity Couple: Will & Jada

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Will and Jada, what can I say? Nothing…I’ll let Jada tell you:

Open marriage?

Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not. I am addressing this issue because a very important subject has been born from discussions about my statement that may be worthy of addressing.

The statement I made in regard to, “Will can do whatever he wants,” has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.

Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should “behave”? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of “you better act right or else” keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?

Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE…for us???

Here is how I will change my statement…Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship…this means we have a GROWN one.

Siempre,

J

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How To Tell Someone You Don’t Like Them

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There should actually be no reason why you have to tell someone you do not like them – except sometimes people forget that not everyone wants to receive a text from them, be their friend on Facebook, or be uploaded to their social media pages at a party you both attended.

It is best to avoid anyone you really do not like – human instincts are there for a reason and until you know someone really well (and by this time it can be too late) you never know why it is you may not like them.

However, if it reaches the stage where you have decided you do not like someone – but they persist in contacting you or uploading you to their Facebook wall, it is time to broach the subject.

  • If you have friends in common telling someone you don’t like them may cause a problem, so find out about the relationships the person has with your close friends before you act. You can also speak to any close mutual friends and try and get an idea of what the person is like and why your other friends are happy to hang out with them.
  • If the person you don’t like actually does something which annoys you, this can be a good way to speak to them about the fact you are not keen to pursue a friendship with them. For example, politely ask them to take down any photos online which you appear in.
  • Blaming the other person is also a good way of bringing up the subject – if there is a mistrust between you, ask them what they don’t like about you, as you get he feeling there is an issue between you. Don’t be aggressive about this, but just mention they do not seem at ease around you or they don’t seem to like you. They may counter this and accuse you of not liking them, at which point suggest you both accept you don’t see eye to eye and just avoid each other in the future.
  • If you work with someone you don’t like, it is best not to be the one to cause an issue in case it affects your career. Annoying people often realize they are annoying and have a knack of deflecting their irritation factor onto others, and remain looking like Mr or Miss Popular at work, so just avoid them.
  • If a work colleague accuses you of not liking them, deny it and report it to your supervisor or line manager before they get there first. The bonus is you now have a bona fide reason for not liking them or wanting to work with them ie they are confrontational.

Instead of going straight into divorce, why not speak to a solicitor for legal separation advice. This means you do not have to rush into divorce.

Don’t Let Facebook Ruin Your Relationship!

For the record, I absolutely refuse to ever put my relationship status on Facebook. I think its ridiculous, juvenile, and far too exploitable. Having said that, most people do not share my highly evolved position on the separation of intimacy and the internet. For whatever reason, millions of people feel the need voluntarily turn their lives into a public soap opera by broadcasting their relationship status on Facebook and creating a lot of self imposed problems.

We all have that one friend who enjoys chaos. Her life is a seemingly endless string of intense, tumultuous, and very short lived relationships. Admit it, part of you likes being a voyeur to drama and takes just a little pleasure in seeing the constant evolution of a dying relationship play itself out on a global stage. On Friday, you see that she has gone from “single” to “in a relationship”. Then a night out on the town inevitably brings on a fight, and Saturday ushers in a new age of decline when your grieving friend goes from “in a relationship” to “its complicated”. Now, keep in mind that the only reason someone publicly announces that their relationship is in trouble is because they want what I call, “the sympathy symphony”.

Everyone immediately comes to her rescue and surrounds her with validation and compliments. This infuses her with a temporary sense of self respect. Then, since nobody likes being single on a Saturday night, the crazy couple reunites, and you see the status switch again from “its complicated” back to “in a relationship”. This illicites cheers from the stands of her Facebook friends who have been following the drama. But as the weekend winds down, something else comes up, (of course) and the brief life of this couple comes to an end. By Monday morning, she has gone from “in a relationship” back to “single”.

End scene. Crowd disperses till next weekend.

The Impact of Social Media on Committed Relationships
According to an article by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, a staggering 81% of the nation’s top divorce attorneys say Facebook has been the primary source of online evidence in their cases, and the number is only rising. If Facebook can separate two people who took vows to be together forever, one can only guess how many boyfriend/girlfriend couples this site has severed.

Temptation to Reach Out
In a recent article, The Wall Street journal states, “Facebook is different from most social networks or dating sites in that it both reconnects old flames and allows people to ‘friend’ someone they may only met once in passing. It puts temptation in the path of people who would never in a million years risk having an affair.” Apparently for some married folks being able to contact their barista crushes is just too much to handle. Ever heard of a little thing called ‘self-control’ people? Apparently not.

Reuniting With Old Flames
Finding an old crush, hook-up, or boyfriend/girlfriend on Facebook is really easy. Unless it was a particularly nasty breakup, you probably never even unfriended them. Reaching out to a past love interest and reminiscing about the “good ‘ol times” recalls the feelings for one or both of the people. The longer the jaunt down memory lane, the better the chances that an emotional or physical affair will occur. At the very least, you can guarantee that your current partner will be seriously peeved if he or she catches you chatting it up with an ex.

Getting A Little Too Honest With Status Updates
The “What’s on your mind” question in the status update box is, not a command. Relationships have lots of ups and downs. Using Facebook to announce marriage problems, debate issues in your relationship, or just rant on a spouse is only going to make a conflicted relationship more “complicated”. Show some restraint and stay off Facebook if you’re upset with your boo.

The people I know who have never had an issue arise in their relationships because of Facebook all have one thing in common: They understand that Facebook isn’t real, and don’t become overly invested in it. Sites like Facebook are great for distracting superficial communication, posting quirky status updates, and sharing funny pics, but don’t confuse it with authentic human connection. If you feel the need to validate your relationship, go out for a romantic dinner. If you need to share an intimate problem, call a good friend. Seeing Facebook for what it is, allows you to step back and regain control. Remember people, it’s just a frickin website.

Author Byline: Kristen Bright is the social media consultant for Instant Checkmate. Instant Checkmate is a personal criminal background check provider, and does not perform employment screening of any kind.

5 Things That Are Making You An Annoying Girlfriend

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We all like to think we’re awesome girlfriends.

We pride ourselves on never taking a peep at our partner’s phone, for allowing him to spend an evening down the pub, and for not complaining about the latest gadget he just had to have.

But no matter how hard we try, sometimes we don’t realize the very simple things we’re doing wrong.

These are the 5 things that put you at risk of being ‘The Bad Girlfriend’.

The Bad Girlfriend

1.    You metaphorically pee all over his Facebook page. You mark your territory by tagging him in about 20 photos per week, comment on all his statuses with xx and ❤. You check him in to all the places you go together (Odeon cinema, your mother’s, Pets at Home…) and you tag him in annoyingly soppy statuses that no one wants to read.

2.    You plan everything around him. You turn down an evening with your friends because you know that’s the only night he has free from football practice. This makes you dependent and also puts a lot of pressure on him. He will feel like he HAS to spend that evening with you.

3.    You fish for compliments. We all do it. The trick is to trick him into complimenting you, without it seeming to him like you’re looking for a compliment. If you’re fishing for compliments, he will be less likely to want to give them. 

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4.      You mock him a lot. This one may come as a surprise. If your relationship has a good level of banter, be warned that you can go a little too far. Mocking him incessantly will make him feel humiliated and he will start to feel like you don’t respect him.

5.      When he doesn’t text back straight away, you text again. This is a common mistake many women make. Maybe he didn’t get the text, maybe my question wasn’t clear enough, maybe… STOP!

He will text back in time, just be patient. Never send him two consecutive texts, unless the second is a crucial update to the first.

These may all seem like small annoyances, but frequently repeated they can make your relationship seem like a chore rather than a pleasure.

The Good Girlfriend

There are many ways to be a bad girlfriend, but there are also lots of ways to be a good one!

  • It’s important to give him space, and give yourself space at the same time. Make sure he knows you enjoy his company, but that it’s not all that you have.
  • Be body confident and keep things exciting. Turn up for bedtime in a sexy silk negligee and never utter the words, ‘Is she prettier than me?’
  • Remember to be sensitive. Don’t make comments about what he’s eating, or make any weight related reproach (‘a moment on the lips is a lifetime on the hips’ is an absolute no-no). If he did that to you, you’d pull both his arms out of their sockets and you know it.
  • Don’t record over Top Gear. Just don’t.

These little things make for a much more pleasant relationship, forge a better understanding, and generally make him feel like he’s lucky to have you.

Can you think of more? If so, please share!

Author Bio: Susannah Perez writes blogs about fashion, lingerie and lifestyle. She is passionate about relationships and romance, and writes for Heavenly Lingerie to feed her lingerie addiction!

Michigan Film Needs a Few Good Zombies!

Truly Disturbing and Horror Talk both report that KILL ME AGAIN (www.killmeagain.com), a Michigan-made zombie film, is set to begin production soon.

From the press release:      

“While an unsuspecting group celebrates one of the happiest days of their lives, they find themselves suddenly facing their worst nightmare. The festivities disrupted, the group must fight for their own survival, but with the Zombie Apocalypse beginning, will they make it?”  The film will be written and directed by Steven Rodriguez, and is set to shoot June 15-17 in the Detroit area. Already cast is April Washko [PENDRAGON], who is also producing the film. But the production is looking for a few more leads so if interested, contact co-writer Skip Erickson. Or if you want to be a zombie extra, email: KMAextras@hotmail.com

The film’s Facebook page will be updated with set photos, behind-the-scenes videos, interviews, and more:  http://www.facebook.com/pages/Kill-Me-Again/252616911502252

Are You Too Obsessed with Your Ex?

Breaking up is never easy.  We all know what it’s like to have a hard time getting over someone. Even when we know it’s wrong, sometimes we just can’t get thoughts of our ex out of our heads. Eventually these thoughts should subside or they may end up turning into an unhealthy obsession. How do you know if you’re too obsessed with your ex? Here are some possible signs.

Do You Compare New Guys to Him?
You might be obsessed with your ex if he’s your gold standard of men. If you go out with a new guy, you shouldn’t instantly compare him to your ex. It’s not about how he measures up to your ex; it’s about his compatibility with you. You’re letting the idea of your ex get in the way of a new relationship, and this will only hurt you. It isn’t fair to rate another guy against your ex because he is an entirely different person, and you’re hindering your ability to get to know him if you only think in terms of your ex.

Do You Check Out His Facebook Page More Than Once a Week?
If you check out what’s new on your ex’s Facebook page more than once per week, you’re probably a little too obsessed. Even once a week might be a little much if you think you’ve moved on already. Why are you even still friends with your ex on Facebook? If you don’t have contact anymore, there is no need to keep seeing him in your news feed. Keeping tabs on his life through his Facebook activity is only keeping you stuck in the past. It shouldn’t be of any consequence to you who is posting on his wall or what photos he’s been tagged in. Consider removing him from your list of friends altogether.

Do You Still Have His Stuff?
You could be too obsessed with your ex if you’re still hanging onto the things he left behind at your house. Either return them to him, or get rid of them completely. There is no reason why his things should still be invading your space. If you’re having trouble letting go of his belongings, it probably means you’re having trouble letting go of him and accepting that the relationship is over.

Do You Think About Him All the Time?
You shouldn’t be obsessively thinking about your ex. If the relationship is over and you still find your thoughts are consumed by your ex, you probably don’t have very good closure. Try to remind yourself that the ex is your past, and there is no reason to devote any of your present time to thinking about him. It’s okay to think of him sometimes, but if you can’t concentrate or think about anything else, it’s not a good position for you to be in, and it will negatively impact other areas of your life.

Do You Try to Find Reasons to Contact Him?
If you jump on any small reason to get in contact with your ex, you’re probably too obsessed. Since the relationship is over, there is really no reason to continue speaking to him. If you text or email him just to say “hello” or wish him luck on his finals, you should reevaluate things. Especially if he doesn’t seem too thrilled to hear from you, it’s probably time to move on and delete his contact information entirely.

Facebook maven Sam Carter writes about social media, relationships and whatever else she finds interesting (but not her ex!).  She relies heavily on her favorite grammar checker.

Top Story – Are You A College Student That Wants Free Stuff? How And When To Get It!

Even if its useless company swag or that bonus Tupperware container that came with your lunch meat, free stuff always has at least one redeeming quality: its free. Everyone loves free stuff. But, perhaps the demographic that most loves free stuff is the “poor, too busy to do anything else but study and stay up late with friends” college student.

As a result, people who give free stuff have identified college students as the main demographic to which free stuff should be offered, which makes perfect sense. You may be thinking, “Hey! I’m a college student and I don’t have people giving me free stuff,” to witch we say, “You just have to know where to look.”

Happy Birthday: here, have this…

Birthdays are the absolute best time for college students to get free stuff. In fact, there are so many birthday giveaways that you probably could not cash in on all of them even if you drove around all day and tried. For example, did you know that you can get a coupon for a free burger from Red Robin on your birthday? And after that, go cash in on your free five dollar credit from Dave and Busters! If you want to buy yourself a birthday card, Hallmark stores offer a %20 off coupon for birthday boys and girls.

Many sites provide lists for where to find free stuff as a college student. Check them out and start making big plans for that special day!

Free office supplies, and t-shirts…

The college demographic is one of the most sought after age ranges for advertising. Young, impressionable, and with a reason for shelling out cash that no parent can easily refuse: “I need it in order to be a successful student, Mom and Dad.”

And while college students have been found to be profitable to advertise to, companies have also realized that it is easy to get colleges students to advertise for them as well; by giving one college student something for free a company can be assured that their brand name will get out to all of their friends.What better way to expose the student than to lure them into wearing their name so all the other students have to look at it?  The best place to get apparel, office supplies, and t-shirts may be right on campus. Next time there is a career fair, check it out: you may even be inspired to get a job so you actually do not have to rely on free stuff. Though who wants to work, when you can walk out of those fairs with the equivalent of a box of pens, a free meal and next week’s wardrobe.

Facebook…

Everyone and their grandmothers have a facebook. Even if you do not have a Facebook, you can still access the wonderful Facebook group dedicated to finding free stuff. People just come along and put up links and ways to get free stuff. You could get free coffee and donuts, free movie tickets, free Honey Nut Cheerios, and free books. The Facebook group is a reliable source for free stuff because it is participated in by eyes all over the country just searching for the next cheap date idea.

But Facebook doesn’t only have one resource for finding free stuff! With the popularity of social media, companies have also begun to realize the popularity of Facebook advertising. From big brands to that mom and pop coffee shop down the street, every company these days has a Facebook page. Look out for Facebook offers from these companies, where if you like their page they will send you a free sample.

Free money on your campus…

Many universities are just waiting to give their students money. Is it entirely free? Well, no. But, all you have to do is get connected to, for example, the psychology department. Often times sciences that depend on case studies, interviews, or experimentation need live subjects. If you do not mind going across campus to the building and spending fifteen minutes answering questions about your sleep habits, then these kinds of opportunities may as well be free money, right?

Your student ID can save you…

Well technically this is not “free stuff” per se, actually, it is more of a discount, but think about the effort involved. With the other free stuff options, you have to print out a coupon or wait for three weeks for a little bag of pretzels to come in the mail. Here, you only have to flash your awkward Freshman mugshot on a valid campus ID card and see what kind of savings you can get. Movie theatres are popular places to receive such a discount, as well as many local food stops (especially the ones that wrap up big burritos in aluminum foil).

Jake Malone is a freelance writer for many sites including Article Writing Services.

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