Any Psychic will tell you (and there are lots of us): Anyone with the will to do it can better develop their own psychic abilities. It’s as natural as the human brain, and just as mysterious and powerful. Very few of us put the time and energy into doing it, and some of us could stand to develop a little more. Nothing drives that point home like running into people with natural ability.
Again, we run into those people all the time too. Here are the ten most important signs that you might be someone naturally gifted with psychic abilities. Remember, even these naturally occurring symptoms can (and arguably should) be developed through patience and concentration.
1) You have vivid dreams and remember them clearly. All dreams can be weird or unsettling, but you take yours seriously and so they give you more and more. You can possibly already predict occurrences or you’re particularly adept at interpreting and drawing significance from your own dreams and the dreams of others.
2) Prior knowledge or a feeling of anxiety prior to major events or when a friend, family member or animal is in trouble. This can feel like dread or just a simple feeling that something is coming.
3) Prior knowledge about simpler things. For example, you’re aware that the phone is going to ring though it’s a far less anxious kind of feeling. But unexpected phone calls or contacts that you knew were coming beforehand can seem downright weird.
4) Déjà vu can’t usually be practiced, or improved or trained into us. It comes about really when we least expect it, but some of us feel it a lot more than others. There are some who will tell you that it’s really the future, and that you can predict the future based on your feeling that you have witnessed something before. In most of us though, Déjà vu is more like a waking dream and so it’s simply something telling us that we need to pay attention (the basic message of most dreams).
5) Your friends and acquaintances (and others?) claim they feel better just when you show up. This can be because you have a naturally occurring level of awareness, in addition to your reputation as someone who is open and honest. All of these things combine in psychics to give them their special ability to know what will happen and how to act and prepare for it.
6) Your perception of energy or vibrations is especially fine tuned. If you recognize how the world is energy taking various forms and you’ve learned to perceive it, and to perceive changes in the energy around you and even at some distance from you, then you are well prepared to study further. Many different traditions will give you some background and understanding of how it works, but again, some of us are just naturally tuned to pick up from it and to learn from it.
7) Similarly, the objects around us are made of this same energy. Are you particularly good at sensing the types of energy that have gone into personal items that belonged to someone special? Or to rooms or building where some event took place?
8) Some will argue that psychic ability is simply “advanced empathy.” The emotional energy of a given person will influence the energy of his or her possessions and surroundings. Can you tell already? Some of us can pick up these feelings quite naturally and easily. Often such feelings are quite prescient even from early childhood. And the psychics are those among us who haven’t quite forgotten how to do it.
9) But let’s continue with the idea of “advanced empathy.” What if it’s not just individual people influencing the things around them, but the things around them influencing the people in return? Now you see a little more of how “energy” works and how we are all constantly in a state of flux and vibration, of flow and return. If you can relate to this idea then, take it further.
10) Heightened sensitivity. That may seem like a state of delicacy and fragility, and it can feel that way. If you’re a psychic, you’ve got to find a balance between this continual onslaught of information, some of it quite troubling, and an emotional response to it. Bad psychics will become hardened. Good psychics can understand why. Good psychics are accustomed to experiencing the emotions of others, having identical responses and not breaking down completely, in spite of everything. This is also why many people will stop the stronger perceptions that they remember from childhood and not pick them up again after adolescence. It’s simply too much, and adolescence is already a lot to deal with.
Many people among us will live out the remainder of our lives in an emotional state developed in adolescence. It’s a way of closing down childhood and struggling toward adulthood. But the adults among us, and the psychics, will be those who master all of the skills and insights of early childhood, while successfully navigating the painful – and meaningful – experience of discovery. Interpreting the significance of all of this takes a very special person indeed.
This article was written by James T for The Sane Psychic.
The planet we live on is extremely fragile and we don’t do it any favors by the way we use and abuse it. So many of us are extremely wasteful and have zero regard for the damage we are causing and the potential long term damage also. I totally understand that it is a very hard thing to quantify but we need to start trying a lot harder otherwise we are in danger of letting things slip too far and potentially go past the point of no return.
There are so many cool ways that we can help to protect our planet from further damage, all people need is a little incentive and education. I believe this has to come from the top (government), these are the people who are listened to and if the education is filtered down through the government to local councils then I believe more people will take it on board.
We live in a world that is filled with waste and the methods of saving are just so simple, people need to take a step back and appreciate just how good we have it. This article will highlight the best ways out there for us to help our planet.
One of the simplest and most effective ways of saving money is in the home. How many of you leave the tap running when you brush your teeth? And leave the lights on during the day? These are just two of the simplest ways to save cash in the home while also helping to protect the environment. We live in a world that is filled with waste and so many people just don’t care about it.
It is the view of so many that the energy we have is expendable and doesn’t cost anything. People aren’t malicious, they are just very lazy and aren’t educated about the damage we are causing due to our outright laziness.
There are so many ways to save money and protect the environment at the same time and as soon as people hear about them they really will start to adapt.
Investing a little cash can do a lot, I don’t mean you personally I mean big business and governments. Renewable energy is a brilliant thing and there are so many companies out there such as Vector Foiltec that offer effective and aesthetically pleasing forms of renewable energy that can dramatically reduce a company’s carbon footprint. We just don’t know about these businesses and that is why education is key.
We need to be educated about the options out there. It is down to governments and local councils to provide us with all the information we need to start helping protect our wonderful planet. People aren’t going to go out and find it, they need to be told about it and that is down to the people who run the country.
If you are interested there are hundreds of websites that can provide you with all the neat tips for protecting the planet.
Andrew is an author with a love for the environment. He has over 10 years industry experience and enjoys writing about ways to prevent further damage to our planet
I apologize for the long delay in posting – life has just been incredibly full and busy!
OK, following on from my last post, I’m still on the subject of communication and anger. Although it’s true that someone who is very afraid will never be able to communicate clearly, and that some people have no desire to communicate clearly, I’ve seen more mis-communication occur because of anger than for any other reason. Sometimes it’s just about different styles: person A stating something categorically may be read by person B as angry, when in fact A is just being emphatic. But it’s also true that some people walk around all the time with a very consistent level of anger. Once either partner is reacting to what s/he thinks is going on, rather than speaking from his/her center and listening to the other person without assumptions and judgments, then real communication can’t happen. (And anger is a powerful emotion which can quickly overwhelm the person who feels it being aimed their way, even if they are only imagining it!) So the first thing is to work out whether A really is angry or whether B is assuming s/he is angry and reacting to that. If it’s the latter, then B needs some reassurance to make her/him see differently. If A really is angry, then s/he needs to acknowledge that and get to the root of what’s causing it. That can be a huge and life-changing journey, because the anger is often about past experiences, and it requires the willingness to let go of those, forgiving one-self and others. In the end a person who wants to get over being chronically angry has to make a very serious commitment to addressing it; and his/her partner may not be able to help very much. It can be a lonely journey—but as someone who has done it, I can assure you that it’s well worth it.
Here is an extract from an article I wrote about anger:
“The art in dealing with feelings of anger is go to fully into them, to make friends with them, to go to the very roots of them, and hear what they are telling us. Those feelings are always truthful and it is never useful to ignore them for long (we may have to ignore them for short periods in order to behave in a socially acceptable manner). They usually only turn into roaring fury because we have been trying to ignore them. Once we really learn to honor our feelings, and pay attention to them, we become very familiar with them and we can act on their messages before they become roaring fury.
“Some people are stuck in situations which make them feel angry, and they need the anger to motivate them to change. Once you have escaped the initial situation that was making you angry, it’s sometimes just a matter of updating your reality. In other words, you may find that the anger is no longer relevant, and the sensation of anger is just an old habit. How do you go about updating your reality so that the chronic anger is released? Setting intention is always the most powerful tool of change, and then it is necessary to be brave enough to be truthful. A lot of people are in denial about their anger. Acknowledge the truth of what you are feeling, allow yourself to weep with the desperate frustration of not having what you need, allow your body to feel the fullness of it, to be filled up with it; and then let it go. If it doesn’t pass, look deeper. What aspects of your life do you need to change in order to stop feeling angry?
“Because it is life-force energy, trying to control anger will depress your life force, so in the long term, it cannot be controlled without some negative effects. When anger has been buried, it leaks out as irritation, bitchiness, a disapproving attitude, a constant need to belittle others (for instance). As a result of growing up in cultures that insisted on denial of anger, most of us have years of repressed anger to deal with, so we have first to deal with those old layers before we can get to the root of what anger is telling us about the here and now. Peeling away those old layers often involves expressing the outdated repressed feelings. That can happen very quickly and easily once you decide that you are willing to do it. It’s necessary to do it without blame or judgment, and without dumping on others. Be sure that when you find yourself justifying your anger at someone else’s expense, then you are on the wrong track. So just stop right there, and allow the feelings to come up; dive into them instead of trying to avoid them. There is never any need to blame others, even when it is someone else’s actions that appear to initiate the anger that we feel. We all have to do whatever we have to do, and everyone is doing their best, even when it seems extraordinary or unpleasant. You may express anger towards someone because you perceive them as being abusive and you want to stop them, and you may see that expression of anger as entirely appropriate. Others might agree or might not, but if you are being completely honest with yourself, you will know whether you are looking for a convenient outlet for your anger rather than going deeply into the truth, or whether you are simply stopping someone from treating you in a way you find disrespectful, which I would normally consider ethical behavior. We must learn to take responsibility for ourselves, which requires being honest and clear with ourselves. Never waste time justifying what you feel. What you feel is what you feel. If you deliberately hurt someone because you are angry, it may certainly be appropriate to apologize; but if you are acting upon the information the anger is offering you and taking care of yourself with due consideration for others, then there is no need to apologize.”
Mikaya Heart (mikayaheart.org) is an award-winning author and a life-coach, using shamanic methods to teach people how to operate from a place of trust instead of fear. Her last book was The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women; her next book is Life, Lies, and Sex: A User’s Guide to Being in a Body.
Taking a break in India
Where I live, it is almost expected that young adults travel to some far-flung place after serving in the compulsory military service. After three years or so of the rigid military framework, where they are told when to get up, what to wear, how to act, young adults feel the need to “let go” and many of them do so by travelling to exotic places and hiking their hearts out.
One of the favorite destinations for several years already is India. The stunning scenery, the feeling of absolute foreignness, a different culture and language are all aspects that draw the young adults. Many of them find peace in the teachings of the Indians and come back enriched by their time spent there.
What on earth is she speaking about?!
A good friend who also travelled to India came back speaking about Chakras, their colors and their influences. I had no idea what she was speaking about and decided to educate myself through the wonderful gold mine of information that is the internet…
Chakras as centers of life force
Chakras, according to Hindu metaphysical tradition, are centers of life force. There are seven Chakras and each corresponds to a different point in the physical body. The word Chakra is actually from the Sanskrit word for “wheel” or “turning” but is better translated in yogic context as “vortex” or “whirlpool.”
The Chakras are the energy centers of the body- if energy gets “blocked” in our Chakras it is believed that people can become ill. Adherents to this tradition believed that keeping the energy flowing through the Chakras if therefore vital.
Chakras and Judaism?!
At this point, I must admit that I was slightly discouraged- I am a religious Jewish woman and find much fulfillment in my own religion. I am interested in learning about other religions but have no reason to go “digging” into other traditions because I feel that my own rich tradition provides me with enough to be getting on with. For the sake of enriching my knowledge and admittedly because I found an array of articles on the subject of how the Chakras and Hebrew mysticism (Kabbalah) are related I decided to forge forward…
The Chakras in a Nutshell
Representative of foundations and feeling grounded
Located at the base of the spine/ tailbone area
Related to survival issues such as financial independence, food and money
Representative of our connection to others and experiences, as well as our ability to accept them
Located in the lower abdomen
Related to a sense of well-being, pleasure, abundance and sexuality
Solar Plexus Chakra
Located in the upper abdomen
Related to issues such as self-worth, self-confidence and self-esteem
Located in the center of the chest
Connected to our ability to love
Related to issues such as love, inner peace and joy
Located in the throat
Connected to our ability to communicate
Related to issues such as expression of feelings and truth and communication
Third Eye Chakra
Located between the eyes
Connected to our ability to see the bigger picture and focus
Related to issues such as the ability to make decisions, to think, to be intuitive, imaginative and wise.
Located at the top of the head
Represents the ability to connect spiritually
Related to issues such as inner beauty, outer beauty, bliss, spirituality
I noticed after carrying out my very superficial introduction to Chakras that they feature in pieces of jewelry that I’ve seen sold here. I think that the idea of combining these fascinatingly deep, mystical ideas with jewelry is interesting- it certainly adds another level to our adornments! I recommend reading more of the material on Chakras that is out there- it’s a wonderful subject and who knows- you may even want to treat yourself to a piece of Chakra jewelry in order to balance those life forces out!
Udi Fili is one of the partners at Canaan-online.com. Canaan-online holds a wide category with Chakaras related items such as the one at: canaan-online.com/Bracelet_by_Amaro_Sacral_Chakra_Collection_p/b678grg.htm .
It’s alright for women isn’t it?! If they want to relax they have plenty of options – from pampering spa days to a girlie night with their friends. For men it can be a little harder to get that much-needed time out, but you deserve it, so it’s time to prioritize some ‘you time’. Life’s stresses and strains can get on top of you and you may feel like you are constantly racing from one thing to another, but unless you make time for yourself, you are at risk from all sorts of stress-related health hazards. Here are some great ideas for how to wind down:
Fishing is the kind of sport that doesn’t need much physical energy. All you need is some basic kit such as a rod, line, bait and a tackle box and you’re good to go. Some of your friends may be into fishing too, and they may like to come along with you. Night fishing must be the most relaxing of all – sitting calmly with your rod underneath the stars while everybody sleeps is so calming. Crack open a beer, put your feet up and wait for the bites! If you really mean business, then set up a tent so that you have a place to snooze when you’re done. You and your mates could even make a weekend of it. Fishing is a lovely thing to do on your own, or with friends, and it is great for silencing your mind, gathering your thoughts and letting you wind down. The catching of the fish is secondary!
If you are wound up and you need to release some stress then there’s no better way than zooming around a karting track! A little bit of speed and adrenaline is all most men need to feel better – anything that puts you out of your comfort zone is bound to be a boost. There will be plenty of tracks near to you so call some mates, get a team together and go karting – and make sure you follow it up with a few pints afterwards to wind down.
Reading is a simple pleasure but it’s one of those things that most of us don’t have enough time in our day for. If you can make the time, you will feel loads better for an hour’s reading a day. Choose books that interest you, ones that you have always wanted to read and ones that will challenge your mind in some way. If you have an eBook reader then that’s even better – you can read on the train, in bed…wherever you like. If books aren’t your thing then even sitting down with the newspaper can be enough to help you chill out.
It’s really important for everybody to make time in their day to unwind, de-stress and take the load off. There will always be a million and one things that need doing, but they can wait for a while surely? Give yourself a break and do something relaxing and you’ll go back to your jobs with renewed vigor.
Today’s feature writer, Jenny Wadlow, is a freelance blogger who has written a number of interesting fishing articles for premiumfishing.com.au. She suggests that fishing is the best and most peaceful way to spend a weekend. You can follow her on Twitter @JennyWadlow.
If you’ve been suffering increasingly from headaches and stress, it might be the technology we all surround ourselves with. We have rooms filled with phones, computers, tablets, and televisions. These electromagnetic fields cause something called electromagnetic hypersensitivity, or EHS.
EHS is the effects of the electromagnetic fields on the body. Although international radiation standards prevent any permanent damage, they don’t stop people from suffering minor symptoms. But there are steps you can take to reduce the severity of the symptoms, and even prevent them completely.
EHS causes a wide range of symptoms. The symptoms largely depend on the person and their sensitivity. The most common are headaches and sleep disturbances. Stress is also a factor, which many claim links to problems with sleep.
Some sufferers have also described physical symptoms. These physical symptoms include rashes, a prickling sensation, burning, and muscle aches. As of this writing, there’s no dedicated range of symptoms recorded.
There’s no medical treatment for EHS because scientists understand very little about it. The only logical step forward is to remove the cause of EHS. Remove the electromagnetic fields and the body reacts in a less violent way. Here are just some of the ways you can reduce your exposure to these damaging fields.
When you’re done using your electrical device, turn it off and avoid leaving it on stand-by. Leaving it on stand-by doesn’t shut down the electromagnetic field. It’s rare to leave all of our devices on throughout the night, but we often leave them on stand-by. One device might emit very little. Multiple devices emit a lot, and that’s enough to influence the body.
If you’re the sort of person to charge your phone through the night, move it to another room. The active charge causes a big electromagnetic field to radiate outwards. Moving it to another room can provide an ideal sleeping zone. Ideally, you want to make sure it’s moved as far away as possible because magnetic waves can travel through solid walls.
Having Wi-Fi on any of your devices automatically sets off an electromagnetic field. It’s easy to accidentally leave them switched on during the night. It allows the waves to travel even in places where you’ve turned everything off. What makes it such a problematic source of energy is the fact it’s easy to forget about.
It’s not just when we’re asleep it starts influencing us. It happens during the day too. Surfing the Internet when we don’t need to, leaving our phones on despite the fact you have no intention of answering it, and putting every technological device in the room on. Use only what you need and you won’t experience as much exposure to electromagnetic waves.
To master this, plan your day in advance. Make a schedule for yourself and stick to it. This will stop you from veering off in another direction. Never underestimate the temptation to open up the computer or switch on your phone.
Geoff McCabe enjoys the benefits of healthy living and plenty of technology free time at his Costa Rica Eco Lodge and Yoga Retreat.
With the housing market still on uneven ground many homeowners are choosing to stay put and instead of spending money on a bigger home they are putting that money into making home improvements. This is boosting the value of the home, providing a nicer house for the family to live in and when housing prices pick up you have the perfect, green home to flaunt on the market!
But when it comes to home improvements it’s no longer just a case of expanding and redecorating – with energy bills crippling every home owner each year the need for a more energy efficient home is essential! Check out these top tips on boosting the environmental value of your home:
Stop paying to heat the sky! If you don’t have proper insulation in your home this is exactly what you’ll be doing. Without effective insulation in place, over half of your home’s heat can escape through the roof. Therefore it’s essential you ensure your home is properly insulated using loft and cavity insulation. Not only will this keep the heat in your home during the winter, lowering your energy bills it will also help to keep your home cooler in the summer.
If your heating system is almost ancient the chances are it’s not very energy efficient. Modern boilers work a lot more effectively than old style boilers and they’re also significantly cheaper to run. A new boiler will improve the energy efficiency of your home therefore making it a much more appealing option. Another thing you could consider is under floor heating – it’s a highly efficient systems compared to your radiators due to the fact that they heat from the floor up. Under floor heating is also a great space saver and is sure to increase the value of your home.
Single glazed windows are not a common sight now and there’s a very good reason for this – they’re simply not energy efficient enough. Single glazed panels let too much cold air in and let all that precious heat escape. Double glazed windows are a must – planning permission to have these incorporated into listed building is now much easier to achieve.
Insulated doors are also key to keeping that expensive heat in! If you’re looking to upgrade the external doors of your home then make sure they have double glazed glass panels and are fully insulated. You’d be surprised how much heat can be lost through draughts in doors and windows.
Solar panels placed on the roofs of houses are an increasingly common site and this is due to the major benefits that they can provide. Solar panels will significantly lower your energy bills and due to the number of Government schemes that are now available, having them installed in your property is a fairly easy and affordable option. They also require little to no maintenance making them an attractive option for prospective buyers.
Ground source heat pumps work by extracting heat from underground and converting it into usable heat which we can then use to heat our homes – these systems are highly efficient and are an excellent way of boosting the value of your home. Another option is the air source heat pump – this works in a similar way, however it captures warm energy from the air instead of the ground. These are often cheaper to install as they don’t take up as much space however they’re not quite as energy efficient as the ground source heat pump.
When you’re looking to add environmental value to your home it’s important that you don’t just look at the initial cost but also the payback times of these improvements – not forgetting how much money it could bring you in terms of your home’s value.
The more energy efficient the home – the more attractive it will be to potential buyers
This post was written by Meredith Watts on behalf of SolarTech, professional installers of solar panels – helping you reduce your carbon footprint whilst boosting the value of your home.
Many people encounter a mid-day slump during their day, and this is especially true when they have office jobs. Usually after lunchtime is when the eyes get heavy and the brain feels fuzzy. Instead of downing coffee or other energy drinks, why not try some natural energy boosters? They can make a big difference in productivity and mood.
Take a walk. If it is a nice day outside, there is nothing more invigorating than a brisk walk around the building. It increases the heart rate and creates a great energy boost. Or, sprint up and down a few flights of stairs if the weather is inclement.
Eat some chocolate. A small serving of dark chocolate can boost mood and energy. Plus, dark chocolate contains powerful antioxidants and can be enjoyed in moderation.
Grab a healthy midday snack. Try to stay away from sugar and coffee. Instead, reach for a snack that is high in protein and fiber. Good midday meals include an apple and peanut butter; a smoothie, some cheese or yogurt; fresh berries; or some trail mix.
Use water to revitalize. Eight glasses is a minimum, for one can never drink too much water. Sipping ice cold water also raises the metabolism. Splashing cold water on the face in the middle of the day is a great way to wake up and feel energized during the afternoon slump.
Avoid big lunches. A heavy, carbohydrate-packed lunch will only instigate a nap during the afternoon. In order to be productive after the noon hour, be sure to eat smaller meals throughout the day. Be sure to include adequate amounts of protein and grains in order to maintain healthy blood sugar levels.
Do some stretching. Some simple stretches at the desk can energize and create alertness. Stretching also relieves muscle tension in the neck and back, as well as improves circulation and posture. Just five minutes of gentle stretching can wake up the entire body and revitalize the brain to tackle the rest of the day.
Get in a quick workout. If the office has a gym in the building, work out for fifteen minutes or so during lunch. This will give an immediate natural energy rush. Or, try exercising at the desk. There are many simple routines that can be done in a matter of minutes that really make a difference. Try keeping a set of five-pound weights at the desk to do some reps in the afternoon.
Jennifer I. wrote this article for people who are looking for a natural energy boost.
By possessing a better understanding of chakra, people can develop a better understanding of who they are and ways in which they can lead a healthier life. When most people think of healthier living, immediately thoughts of weight loss, dieting, and organic homegrown food come to mind.
While these are all desirable, they in some way eclipse the bigger picture – better decision making through empowerment; not only empowering one’s self-esteem, but more importantly – empowering one’s chakra channels through meditation, guided visualizations, breathing exercises, herbal treatments, and physical activity. By being in tune to the desires of one’s soul and having one’s chakra channels in sync, a person can achieve peace of mind, and the clarity needed to manage the stresses of everyday life.
Ayurvedic (“life knowledge”) medicine and yoga healing practices incorporate this philosophy in cleansing the body of negative energies and facilitating the upward flow of positive energies to harmonize the body and mind. With a harmonized body and mind, ideas begin to resonate with crystal clarity. As a result, we undergo a spiritual awakening of sorts that frees us from our material attachments and brings us closer to recognizing the workings of a higher power.
Check out the infographics below to learn more.
This info graphics was contributed by Chakra Healing. Check their site to read good articles about chakras.
With fuel costs at an all-time high and the financial crisis forcing us to curb our spending, there are a few simple ways to cut down on how much fuel your car consumes, saving you money as well as reducing your carbon footprint.
Alternatives to Driving
Firstly, if you are only traveling a short distance, consider walking or taking your bike. This won’t cost you anything and will give you the chance to exercise and stay fit. For the school run in the morning, consider car-pooling with other parents to save everyone time and money. For longer journeys, public transport often ends up costing you less than what you would spend on the fuel, especially these days, and you don’t have to worry about finding and paying for parking when you get to your destination. Alternatively, there are car-pooling websites online now where you can pay a minimal fuel charge to get from A to B with someone else who’s making the same journey.
Look After Your Car
If you keep your car well-maintained, it will consume fuel at a slower rate. Ensure, for example, that tires are inflated to the correct level as under-inflated tires increases resistance resulting in higher fuel consumption and more expense. Don’t use your car for storage and remove unneeded content regularly, as the heavier the car, the more fuel it will consume. If your car has roof rack, remove it when it’s not in use as it weighs down the vehicle needlessly, causing increased fuel consumption. Additionally, try to use the air conditioning in your car as little as possible as it eats up fuel – open a window instead to cool yourself down for free!
When driving, sharp increases or decreases in speed waste fuel, so accelerate gradually, drive smoothly and slow down gently, all the while using the correct gears. Doing so will stop your car from wolfing down fuel and will save you money. If you drive attentively, there should be no need to brake suddenly, let alone accelerate rapidly.
Choose Wisely When Buying a Car
Of course choosing a fuel-efficient car from the get-go is one of the surest ways of reducing how much money you spend on fuel. By choosing wisely when buying, you can save hundreds annually depending on what car you go for. It seems inevitable that we will have to switch from petrol and diesel to alternative energies, especially if fuel prices continue to increase at the current rate, but until then, you can cut down on how much of a hole fuel burns in your wallet by putting the above tips into practice.
This article was written by mechanic Howard Conlon on behalf of a lead provider of pressure sensors.
What is sex? I’ve never heard an answer that made sense so I have made up my own. I seems reasonable to define sex as concentrated energy which, when it flows through us, gives rise to very pleasant sensations – that might by some people be called ecstasy or bliss. You’d think from this description, that we would all want to be having sex all the time. Yet many people, women especially, have placed a lot of restrictions (conscious and unconscious) on allowing sexual energy to move freely. Is it simply socially imposed conditioning, or does it go deeper? Do we have the same ambivalence about allowing other kinds of energy to flow? I would say we do, and that is a problem we need to address, because if we want to shape energy into forms of our own choice (that’s what manifestation is) then we first need to allow it to flow. Perhaps allowing a flow of energy is not as simple as it sounds – and perhaps there is something very profound to look at there.
Physics has taught us that everything is energy before (and after) it coalesces into a physical form, so the art of being in physical form is about allowing energy to flow through us and manifest in the ways we choose – coalesce into the kind of form we want, that is, whether a physical thing or an event or a particular state of mind (such as happiness). In other words, when we are really accomplished at allowing energy to flow, we choose something, and it happens. Most humans have become very adept at blocking energy flows, because it can be a very alarming sensation, so intense that we are afraid of being overwhelmed and out of control. An intense orgasm, especially when we are not used to it, can be quite shocking, taking over our bodies, and shaking us from the inside out, bringing up feelings that we would prefer to ignore. All powerful flows of energy, whether sexual or not, can have this effect, and so most of us become very accustomed to blocking them. Even when the attempt to block the flow is producing very uncomfortable pains and illnesses that western medicine struggles to diagnose, we still do it because it is familiar. We don’t know how to do otherwise. Ever remember being told, “Now, don’t get carried away!” by your parents or friends? Yet that is exactly what a powerful energy flow does. Like sexual desire, it carries us away out of our staid, limited, rational personas, into a reality which – once we’re used to it and have stopped trying to resist it — is blissful, delightful, and very much removed from the average daily life.
This is what sex can teach us. In circumstances that aren’t sexual at all, allowing a flow of energy can produce sensations very similar to orgasm. When we transpose that letting go, based on a foundation of trust, into our daily lives, we can learn to let energy flow through us freely and manifest in whatever ways we choose, rather than letting it take form by default. It is our fear of the flow, not the flow itself, which causes discomfort. Sex is a metaphor for life. Learning to be an adept in the art of being human is about allowing a flow of energy, learning to remain relaxed, trusting that the outcome will be beneficial. This kind of allowing cannot be forced. It cannot be artificially induced in any way. It cannot exist in an atmosphere of lies. It is absolutely real, and we must be willing to be absolutely authentic to allow it to happen. That means, being exactly who we are, nothing less and nothing more.
Mikaya Heart is an award-winning author and a life coach. Her latest book is The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women. www.mikayaheart.org
Failing to deal well with emotions is probably the single biggest cause of problems in relationships, especially as sex tends to bring up feelings. Yet they are rarely understood in this society. Here is quick primer:
1. Feelings are not facts but they often affect us much more than facts.
2. Feelings may carry tremendous energy which makes them very powerful.
3. Trying to rationalize someone out of a feeling (“There’s no reason to be so angry about it!”) is not likely to make someone feel better, although it may enable him or her to see that the original basis for the feeling goes beyond the present situation.
4. Feelings always want to be felt and they will usually pass quite quickly if you allow yourself to express them fully.
5. Feelings that we do not allow ourselves to feel in the moment when they arise hang around, sometimes for many years, waiting for an opportunity to be expressed. Old stuck feelings sap our energy and effectively prevent us from being clear channels of energy.
6. If you do clear out old feelings, you will find that new feelings that come up are always related to the present situation and they are hugely informative. Every feeling has something to tell you.
You can see that it is a very good idea to pay attention to feelings. If they are triggered in a way that seems out of proportion to the present moment, then you have been storing them from the past. Addressing the past and letting them move on is well worth the effort. Repressing feelings is a major source of stress and tension in modern society.
It is often better not to take action when you are in the middle of experiencing an intense feeling. Strong feelings around a particular person may indicate some action is necessary in order for you to take care of yourself or of someone else, but we are not always able to see clearly when we are seeing red. Allow the intensity of the feeling to recede, then consider appropriate action when you are more able to be rational.
More about how to deal with feelings next time . . .
Mikaya Heart is an award-winning author and life-coach. Her latest book is The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women. www.mikayaheart.org
Negative energy primarily stems from destructive thought patterns and bad feelings that weigh you down. When you have strong feelings of guilt, lack, pessimism, greed, dissatisfaction, and other negative feelings, your mind perpetuates the negative energy and allows it to drag you down even further. Sometimes negative energy comes from other people – people who criticize and belittle others, and people who seem to suck all the joy from a place spread negative energy. Negative energy can also be caused through things, such as television and movies that spread negative messages, books and magazines that spread hateful messages, and even places where people who tend to be negative congregate can cause negative energy to spread.
Negative energy can make you feel dull and tired, lackadaisical and full of doubt or even dread. It can make you feel lazy and hold you back from doing the things you need to do. Different sources of negative energy can impact you in different ways.
Self-perpetuating negative energy – This is the kind of negative energy that backs up when your mindset is less than healthy. Negativity within yourself can cause feelings of failure, which in turn, lead to failure itself. If you think you can’t succeed at something, you are probably right! This kind of negative energy often surfaces when you really want to make a change but you are afraid to do it or you think you can’t for some reason. If you catch yourself holding negative thoughts like this, replace them with better, more positive thoughts: “I can do that, I know I can.”
Expecting Catastrophes – Many people who live in a constant state of worry and fear tend to fantasize about the worst-case-scenario coming to life. They worry about it so much, that they work to block the worst from happening – but since they’re only focusing on the worst, they block the optimum outcome from happening, too. If you constantly expect catastrophes, ask yourself why. Work to replace your catastrophic mindset with one that consistently expects favorable outcomes, and you’ll find that life is happier and more abundant.
Other People – When you surround yourself with people who are negative thinkers, they have an impact on your energy level. Any positive feelings you have will be sucked dry, and replaced with feelings of negativity that match those of the people around you. Most people do not intentionally attempt to create negative energy – it just happens to spread like wildfire. Keep in mind, positive energy spreads just as well as negative energy does. When you surround yourself with people who tend to think positive thoughts, you set yourself up for success in the luck and happiness department!
The first step toward blocking negative energy is to locate the source of the negative energy. There may be only one source, but in most cases, there are several sources. Just as people who are happy normally have several sources of joy within their lives, so negativity spreads as well.
Once you have determined the source or sources of the negative energy, you are ready to get to work. Don’t be afraid! Allowing positive energy to take over is much easier than you may imagine.
Attitude – The attitude you approach erasing negative energy with has a lot to do with how successful you will be. Rather than taking a negative, doubtful approach, give it all you’ve got. Listen to music that uplifts you, read books that inspire you, and stay away from things that drag you down. If you can make small changes every day, you’ll find that your attitude changes for the better and you’ll feel much more positive as time passes by.
Expectations – Your expectations have a direct impact on the amount of positive energy that enters your life! When you expect good things to happen, they will. The more intention and emotional feelings of joy and love you can put forth with your expectations, the more good will come your way. There is no limit to the amount of joy and abundance in the universe – these things are limitless! They are simply waiting to arrive for you – so expect them, and they will show up in your life sooner than you might think.
People and Situations – Perhaps you have plenty of positive places to go and a number of wonderful people in your life who can be a good influence on your energy level. If not, it’s time to be creative.
First, take stock of your daily life. Who do you spend time with, and how do they affect you? Do they make you happy, or do they bring the worst in you out into the open? Can you limit the amount of time you spend with people who fill you with negative energy, or stop seeing them altogether?
Second, where do you spend the majority of your time? Is your work space cluttered and unappealing, or is it tastefully decorated in a way that helps motivate you toward greater creativity in your daily work? Is your home clean and inviting, or is it a place you would rather not be? Even the most humble office cubicle or the smallest, most basic apartment can be transformed into a place that is full of positive energy. Decorate with the things that make you happy, and clear out anything that doesn’t quite do the trick.
Finally, how do you spend your time? Do you spend all your free time in front of the TV or surfing the internet looking at things that really have no meaning in your life? Do you pay attention to the people you are with, and look for the value in each experience? By making the most of each and every day, you can transform negative energy into something more fresh and positive – and live a life that is much happier, and more rewarding.
Since it’s Thanksgiving, it seems appropriate to suggest that we all give thanks to our bodies. That’s actually something I recommend on a daily basis. Most of us take our bodies for granted, frequently forcing them to do all kinds of things that they really don’t want to do, running around all day long instead of taking time to sit and relax. We need to develop a good relationship with our bodies; we need to learn to listen to them. We are partners for life with the body we were born into, so make the best of it. Our bodies want to please us but like everything else, they need love and attention. One of the best ways to give them that is to make love. There is nothing like a good orgasm to make the body happy.
Sex always involves the body, and good sex requires that you are absolutely present in your body. We are energetic beings as well as physical beings, and some of us are not in the habit of having both in the same place. While the physical body is on one side of the room, your energetic body may be on the other side. (Really, that happens.) One of the wonderful things about sex is that when you start feeling sexual desire, you become absolutely present and integrated, and nothing else matters. You are all in one place with one focus. It’s good to have that experience of being absolutely right there, being fully in your body. We need to learn to do that more in our lives. We often think that sex is the only way to get that feeling of “right there-ness” but in reality, it can occur whenever we are totally concentrated. All great artists know that feeling—it’s about allowing the energy of creation to move through us, only it doesn’t have to be about making babies.
Another timely topic is childhood sexual abuse. I bring that up now because it’s classic for people who have had unpleasant sexual encounters to leave their bodies as soon as they start having sex. I know, I was one of them. Because of that, I have a deeper understanding of sexual abuse than many people, so let me correct a couple of misunderstandings: sexual abuse is not more common than it used to be, it’s just that until recently everyone covered it up. The shame and secrecy were more powerful than the desire to tell the truth. Although people still cover it up a lot, it’s beginning to leak out around the edges. That’s a good thing, a very good thing. Sexual abuse can’t keep occurring if the victims don’t keep quiet about it. But it does require courage to talk about it, because it’s such an intense assault on the psyche that it creates a deep sense of shame.
The other misunderstanding is that it happens as much or more to boys as it does to girls. It’s just that we hear about it more from boys, they are more likely to talk about it. Because of the way that sex has been used to threaten women since the beginning of time, women grow up with a deep subconscious awareness that sex can be used against them and that many men see them as prey. Until the last hundred years, our culture hasn’t considered that a problem at all, and women who complained got no support from the status quo. It takes a lot of generations to change those old cultural ways of thinking, and most girls still won’t talk about it.
The good news is that it’s possible to heal—once again, I know, I did it. An understanding and loving partner is huge plus, because you have speak about it openly, and you have to give a voice to those feelings. We can’t have good sex without our feelings coming up, anyway—at least it might be possible for men, but not very many women can cut themselves off from their feelings and still have great sex. Sadly, some women are never able to be very present for sex, often because of past sexual trauma. We need to educate all our children so that they understand they have the right to dictate what happens to their bodies, making sure they know that if any kind of abuse ever occurs we will be there standing behind them one hundred percent. And that goes for sexual abuse that happens when we are adults as well.
Let’s all start talking about sex in a real and open way. If we talked about sex as much as I think we should, this would be a different world, and sexual abuse would barely exist, because it couldn’t be hidden and we wouldn’t tolerate it. And, by the way, we would have at least twenty different words for different types of orgasm.