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Why It Makes Perfect Sense To Want A Man With Money

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I’m broke. Poor to be exact. I make less than $10,000 a year. A lot less actually. And, I have bad credit. Why would I want a man that is doing just as bad as I am or slightly better with no current plans or hopes of things looking up?

Money is not the most important quality in a man. In fact it’s not even a quality (is it?), but you know what I mean.

For instance, there is a man, an old and good friend of mine, who was interested in seriously dating me but he does not have his own home or apartment, has a mediocre job, he pays child support for one child and he cannot afford to save a damn dime.

And, that’s just what I know to be true about his financial status. I’m sure it’s worse.

Let’s forget that I am not into him at all romantically for a sec, but what if I was? As a woman in her late 30’s with a child of my own to take care of I cannot and will not entertain seriously dating a man that is struggling financially.

It does not make sense, especially in this day and age. Sex, I would entertain if I was sexually attracted to him, but anything other than that is off the table, permanently. However, sexual relationships get old quickly. At least for me.

I’m sure 100% of women, if asked, would say that they want a man with money and rightfully so. Not just any man with money. Of course he has to have things like integrity, drive, personality, good looks and even a nice ass, but financial security is a must when looking for a serious long term relationship.

Why? Because things cost. It costs to live and enjoy life. Bills have to be paid. A legacy has to be built and that cannot be done when one or both persons is poor. Besides, according to traditional values (which I don’t usually give a shit about), the man is supposed to be the head of the household, the breadwinner.

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For the record, not all woman who want a man with money are gold diggers. Smart people know the difference.

Now, you may be saying – “A man doesn’t want a broke woman either.” You may be right. That’s fair. Though I’m sure that most well to do men are more than okay with their woman making less than them. It’s an ego thing. A man thing. I’m OK with that.

Don’t get me wrong, if the woman is poor, lazy, has no drive and no plans on how to become financially stable, there is a problem. However, if it’s a woman like me or a woman who is also financially stable I’m sure a man can work with that.

I have a college education, ambition, goals, plans and I own a business, but it is not a successful business, in my eyes. Success for me would be generating a stable income for myself and my child where I would never have to skip paying my Consumers bill (or any bill for that matter) and I would not be driving around in a raggedy ass ’97 Escort for going on two years now without car insurance and tags. It’s a damn shame.

If I met a man I really liked who just happened to be a well off business man or a well off garbage man, take your pick, we could build a legacy together. Meaning he could invest in my business or perhaps we could build an entirely new business together. We could pool our talents and help each other.

As I type this I am thinking that it would be great to have an angel investor, male or female, but those are harder to come by than a viable significant other these days.

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Alan Roger Currie says – Let Women Know What Your Sexual Desires REALLY Are

Being ‘Mode One’: Let the Women Know What Your Sexual Desires & Interests REALLY Are

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Author and Professional Dating Coach, Alan Roger Currie, will be releasing the audiobook version of his popular self-help book for men, ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking’.

Men and women can listen to the audiobook for FREE if they sign up for a no-obligation 30-Day Trial Membership with Audible.com, the audiobook division of Amazon.com

Dangerous Lee: What is ‘Mode One’ behavior?

Author Alan Roger Currie: ‘Mode One’ represents a certain style of verbal interpersonal communication. In my book, ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking,’ I discuss what I refer to as the ‘Four Modes of Verbal Communication’ that all single heterosexual men use when conversing with a woman of interest.

Dangerous Lee: Using four or five adjectives, can you briefly describe all four modes?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Mode One – Confident, Upfront, Specific, Honest, Straight-to-the-point; Mode Two – Cautious, Polite, Flattering, Vague, Ambiguous; Mode Three – Dishonest, Disingenuous, Manipulative, Misleading, Timid; Mode Four – Angry, Bitter, Hateful, Misogynistic, Resentful

Dangerous Lee: It seems pretty obvious why a man would choose the ‘Mode One’ communication style over both the ‘Mode Three’ and ‘Mode Four’ communication styles, but what makes ‘Mode One’ style of communication significantly better than a ‘Mode Two’ style? Some people might consider ‘Mode One’ to be too blunt or too forward. Right?

Author Alan Roger Currie: So. Is it ‘too forward’ to tell a waiter or waitress, “I do not want any salt on my potatoes”? What about going up to a gas station attendant and saying, “I want twenty dollars on Pump #7.”? Damn, that is really, really blunt and forward.

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Dangerous Lee: Okay, I get your point (laughs). I have heard you mention on your talk radio show that because of your Mode One communication style, you have had sex with women only a few minutes after meeting them. True?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Yes.

Dangerous Lee: What’s the quickest you have had sex with a woman after first making her acquaintance?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Approximately ten-to-fifteen minutes after we first met.

Dangerous Lee: Really? What is so special about your Mode One style of verbal communication that gets women aroused so quickly?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Being rebellious. This is why many women adore ‘Bad Boy’ types as opposed to ‘Nice Guy’ types. A ‘bad boy’ is one whose behavior represents the attitude of, “I refuse to act the way your mommy and daddy probably told you that ‘polite gentlemen’ should act.

I am going to say what I really want to say in the exact manner that I want to say it.” On the other hand, ‘Nice Guy’ types go out of their way to try to say all of the typical flattering and polite things that they think women want to hear.

The thing is, deep down, both the ‘Bad Boy’ and the ‘Nice Guy’ have the same exact desire to date women and have sex with them. It’s just that Bad Boys are more upfront and straightforward about their desires and interests. Nice Guys feel more compelled to ‘beat-around-the-bush’ because they are too afraid of being labeled a ‘jerk’ or an ‘a**hole.’ Bad Boys don’t care about subjective labels and petty criticisms.

Dangerous Lee: So being Mode One is all about behaving like a ‘Bad Boy?’

Author Alan Roger Currie: Yes . . . and no. I never encourage men to specifically exhibit the behavior of a “jerk” or an “a**hole” with women, but I do tell men to do at least three things that will naturally cause women to perceive them as more of an intriguing ‘Bad Boy’ type than a boring, predictable ‘Nice Guy’ type.

Dangerous Lee: What are those three things?

Author Alan Roger Currie: You’ll have to listen to the audiobook.

Dangerous Lee: So Elliot Rodger, the young guy who killed those people in Santa Barbra, California earlier this year was in a Mode Four state of mind? Correct?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Exactly. Also George Sodini in 2009. My mission is to prevent as many single heterosexual men from transitioning into Mode Three Behavior and Mode Four Behavior. Nothing good comes out of either form of Behavior. Even Mode Two has a lot of negative effects on a man’s psyche in the long run. If nothing else, he becomes too consumed with trying to be the man he believes other people want him to be instead of just being himself.

Dangerous Lee: So I can listen to the audiobook version of ‘Mode One’ for free? How?

Author Alan Roger Currie: Anyone who signs up for a 30-Day Trial Membership with Audible.com can download and listen to the ‘Mode One’ audiobook for free, with no obligation, as long as ‘Mode One’ is the very first book they download from Audible.com. If the person already has a membership with Audible.com, then the offer to download it for free does not apply.

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Why I’ve Slept With White Men And Will Do It Again

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Photo by Davio Curo – No, I didn’t sleep with this White guy, but I have thought about it.

I bet you think I’m about to get deep, but you’re wrong. Why does anyone decide to have sex with a person? They’re attracted to them. It’s as simple as that. I don’t discriminate. I like men. Their color, race, or heritage is not important. Does that surprise you?

It has nothing to do with self hatred, but I will admit that it was a curiosity. I’ve learned that men are men Black, White or otherwise. I used to believe that Black people who dated outside their race were indeed self haters, but that’s a blanket statement that is simply not true.

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Ask Dangerous Lee: I really like this boy but he’s 16 and I’m only 12

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Name: Kaylean
Question: I really like this boy and he’s 16 and I’m only 12 and a half. I have known this boy for 5 years and I never really seen him as a boyfriend until now. I asked him if he liked me and he said yes, but he wants to wait until we’re older, but I really don’t want to wait. What do I do?!
Location: Mars

What’s the rush?

Wait! It’s best.

You’re 12, a child. Enjoy his company, learn more about yourself and grow up. The fact that he as a 16 year old is telling you that he wants to wait is a blessing and it also means he’s respecting you and himself. You have all your life to “be with” a boy/man. Also, talk to your mom about this, sweetie. She really is the person that you should go to for help and advice on things like this. If not your mom some other adult female you trust.

Good Men Are Not Like Busses

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Piggybacking off the above image; when those three or four come along they aren’t worth the ride. I haven’t been in a serious relationship in over ten years and I have yet to meet a man that would make me want to be in a relationship in those ten years.

When I have met a man that I thought was worth my time he made lying and game playing a priority. At this stage of my life I don’t feel that I need a man to be validated or happy, however I would like to have a male companion that I can spend some quality time with as well as have great sex; something else that I have not had in ages. I really hope this changes in 2013.

Update: Nothing changed in 2013 :/

Ask Dangerous Lee: Should Christians (sanctified people) date?

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Q: Should Christians (sanctified people) date?

Tamara, Chicago

A: I don’t know what in the world would make you ask ME this question, but of course Christians should date and then of course later marry! How else are you going to create other little Christians? Eve was the only immaculate conception that I can ever recall hearing about.

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Q: What are the 8 mistakes not to make on your online dating profile?

Chad Stone, New Mexico

A: There are approximately 8 mistakes? You asked a question that implies you already know the answer, so I won’t waste my talents answering. However, answer me this; what is the #1 mistake you’ll regret making with Dangerous Lee?

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Is White Right?

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Laura Govan, Basketball Wives L.A. cast member, often makes the statement that “White is right” in regards to dating men.

The first time she made the statement was when cast mate, Jackie Christie, mentioned that she was once married to a white man. Laura is the mother of four children (I think) and has only dated men of color without long term success, so now she feels that dating white men is the answer.

Is it?

I for one think that Black women and other women of color should keep their options open in regards to dating men and women of other ethnicities, but White is not right just because it’s White!

I cringe when I hear men or women make statements such as “I don’t date Black women (men).”

To me, that’s self hate in its rawest form.

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Look, we’ve all been hurt and we all tend to generalize Black men and Black women as being a certain way in relationships and in everyday life, but take it from someone that has a child by a White man; all White men don’t stick around to raise their kids and all White men are not good mates.

His or her lack of melanin and different culture do not mean that he or she is the perfect mate for you.

As people of color, we have got to stop believing and perpetuating all the negative stereotypes that have been placed upon us. Until you have dated a few White women or White men you will not know if they are right for you.

And, don’t give up on Black men or women or other people of color because you have had one or a few bad experiences. Most importantly, work on yourself as you may be the reason your relationships are not working.

Truth is, we’re all a lil’ fucked up!

Date and love whoever loves you back unconditionally.

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Friday, April 24th on “Ask Dangerous Lee Live”

BODY BOOM FOR FOOD

Dangerous and Keosha talk to Jan Pagonis of SHI Symbol Dating Service, author of “The Food Temptress” Rekaya Gibson, The Healthy Boomer Body Expert Kathi Casey, and the dynamic Vas Littlecrow calls in with updates on her career. The Dangerous Item of the Week is video game Cabela’s Dangerous Hunts ’09.

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Friday, November 7th on “Ask Dangerous Lee Live”

Dangerous and HP talk to Blog Talk Radio host Michael B. Jackson, Shay Williams author of the Single Mom Dating Guide, playa Pretty Tony, and artist Brian Fort. The Dangerous Item of the Week is book Mortal Danger.

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