Good Men Are Not Like Busses

good men

Piggybacking off the above image; when those three or four come along they aren’t worth the ride. I haven’t been in a serious relationship in over ten years and I have yet to meet a man that would make me want to be in a relationship in those ten years.

When I have met a man that I thought was worth my time he made lying and game playing a priority. At this stage of my life I don’t feel that I need a man to be validated or happy, however I would like to have a male companion that I can spend some quality time with as well as have great sex; something else that I have not had in ages. I really hope this changes in 2013.

Update: Nothing changed in 2013 :/

Ask Dangerous Lee: Should Christians (sanctified people) date?

Christians

Q: Should Christians (sanctified people) date?

Tamara, Chicago

A: I don’t know what in the world would make you ask ME this question, but of course Christians should date and then of course later marry! How else are you going to create other little Christians? Eve was the only immaculate conception that I can ever recall hearing about.

Got a question for Dangerous Lee?

 

Save

askdangerousleelogo

Ask Dangerous Lee: What are the 8 mistakes not to make on your online dating profile?

Q: What are the 8 mistakes not to make on your online dating profile?

Chad Stone, New Mexico

A: There are approximately 8 mistakes? You asked a question that implies you already know the answer, so I won’t waste my talents answering. However, answer me this; what is the #1 mistake you’ll regret making with Dangerous Lee?

Got a question for Dangerous Lee?

 

kato

Karolyn Kato Huddleston Loves "Keep Your Panties Up and Your Skirt Down"

Great job! There should be a warning that says, “Don’t read this book unless you got someone near to sex to death” 🙂 I loved it! The first story (The Safe Sex Kit) was my personal favorite because I know the situation personally.

I was shocked at the content. The book is small but large in impact and the stories were so hot and freaky, but the points were educational. Wow!

 

Ask Dangerous Lee – How do you tell someone you have an STD?

STD

Q: How do you tell someone that you have an STD?

Three Girls and a Mic

A: First, if you have an STD please seek medical help. Some STDs are curable and others are treatable. If you’re walking around with a curable STD, something is definitely wrong with you and you don’t deserve to have sex.

Telling a partner that you have an sexually transmitted disease is not an easy thing to do, but before you participate in any type of sexual act you MUST tell the person or people you plan to be intimate with. If you don’t inform your partner(s) and you infect them you could spend some time in jail. The law on this varies from place to place. However, regardless of possible jail time it is your responsibility as a decent human being to inform your possible sex partners about your STD status.

How to do it is to pick the right place and time. Don’t blurt it out during a first date unless the topic of sex comes up in conversation. I think it would be better to discuss any topics about sex in private face to face conversation. You stand a large chance of not becoming intimate with the person because of your STD status, but at least you are honest and your karma is in place.

It’s also a good idea to educate yourself on the STD that you’re infected with because your partner may have questions, such as, “If we have protected sex is there a high risk that I will be infected?”.  Don’t you want to know the answer?

Finally, while you’re being honest, be sure to ask your partner if they have or have ever had a sexually transmitted disease. Asking first and getting their reaction may also be a great way to break the ice about your own STD status.

Got a question for Dangerous Lee?

Save

Save

askdangerousleelogo

Ask Dangerous Lee – Would you have sex on a first date?

Q: Would you have sex on a first date?

Charles E.

Flint, MI

A: I never have, but that’s not to say that I never would. I think sex on the first date is okay as long as the people having sex are mature, honest, and have discussed what type of relationship they want to have after the initial sexcapade is over. So if I do have sex with someone on a first date that doesn’t mean that I would have sex on a first date with every man. Some people click sexually right off the bat, others do not. I also hope that before the first date that they have taken the time to get to know each other by having intimate conversations and spending time with each other casually.

In my opinion, the most important thing is that people are having safe sex. We are sexual beings and having sex is normal, contrary to some beliefs. However, there are many bad things that can come from good sex, such as, unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases like syphilis, gonorrhea, and HIV.

Got questions?

 

 

askdangerousleelogo

Ask Dangerous Lee – During Christmas I feel alone and depressed. What is my problem?

Q: I’m not normally an unhappy person, but each year during Christmas I feel really alone and depressed. What is my problem?

Tasha

Flint, MI

A: You may be suffering from the “Winter Blues”. If so, I feel for you because I also get a lil’ depressed and very unmotivated during the cold seasons. “They” say there is special lighting for folks like us to use that will give us the feeling of sunlight, but I’m no dummy. If it’s not real sunlight I don’t want it. Besides, I know that it’s cold, wet, and grey outside. I guess our problem is that we live in Michigan and not Florida. We both should consult a physician on this one.

On the other hand, the media at large puts a lot of pressure on us to be joyous and uplifting during this time of year by selling us the perfect family holiday scene in  almost every Christmas film that has ever been made. Don’t let this lie fool you; no one has a family like that and if they do it’s not always peachy. I’m not sure what you believe in spiritually or otherwise, but rely on your own brand of faith to get through it. And remember, we only have a few more months of Winter to go!

Got a question for Dangerous Lee?

 

askdangerousleelogo

Ask Dangerous Lee: Which is sexier – sexting, cybering, or phone sex?

Q: Which is sexier – sexting, cybering, or phone sex? Why?

Pam S.

Chicago, IL

A: I personally prefer sexting. Maybe it’s because I am a writer and I enjoy playing with words, but I find that sexting  allows your imagination to run wild and create sexy and erotic visuals in the mind. Also, if a man (or woman) can use words creatively to turn you on there is hope that he (or she) can please you in the flesh. Remember, sex takes place in the mind first! To be honest, I participate in sexting with men that I have not had sex with and perhaps never will. I guess I am a sexting tease!

Got questions?

 

Author Terrance Dean on “Elderly and Edible” from ‘Keep Your Panties Up and Your Skirt Down”

ThumbsDown

Why am  posting a negative review of my short story “Elderly and Edible”? You have to be able to take the good with the bad.  Terrance gave his honest opinion of the story and that’s what I wanted and needed to hear. I respect that. It forces me to take a closer look at my work before it is revealed to the public. I like that!

Sure, not everyone digs short stories, even Oprah stated that she usually does not  recommend books of short stories because it seems like something is always missing and you’re left hanging at the end. Recently Oprah found a book of short stories that did not leave her hanging and she made it her book club choice.

I purposely wanted to leave people hanging with this particular story so that you’re forced to think. However, when it comes to character and story development I want you to know what they’re about.

Thanks for the tough love, Terrance. It will help in the end.

Terrance_Dean.160182841_std
Hey Ms. Dangerous Lee,

I have read your short and honestly I don’t feel I can give a positive review for it. I feel it’s a powerful tale and one that needs to be told, but it fell short for me.

The eight pages were extremely short, and the story for me was not developed. I think a lot more back story needs to be told, as well as the developing of their relationship, along with his relationship with the young girl. I didn’t connect with the characters, thus I couldn’t feel anything about their situation or issue.

Perhaps you should get someone else to read and review it for you. Sorry about this.

Thanks for thinking of me.

Terrance

COMING SOON: The sneak peek of “An Honest Ho” that was given exclusively to my followers on Twitter will be available at DangerousLee.biz!

Bookmark and Share

askdangerousleelogo

Ask Dangerous Lee – When the snow melts, where does all the white go?

adl1

Q: When the snow melts, where does all the white go?
– Don Truesdell, Flint

A: This question is begging for a snarky answer and I will not disappoint. When snow melts the white goes water skiing, hiking, tanning and then white turns black and has cookouts, house parties, and shoots a lil’ hoop. It’s the colorful circle of life, my friend!

 

Got Questions?

 

1 2 3