I AM African-American (and so are you)

I AM African-American

(and so are you)

YOU = Black people living in America.

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Assimilation

  • the process of adapting or adjusting to the culture of a group or nation, or the state of being so adapted: assimilation of immigrants into American life.
  • Sociology. the merging of cultural traits from previously distinct cultural groups, not involving biological amalgamation.

I turn my nose up at any Black person living in America that has a problem with being called African-American.

They say things like: I’m not African! I wasn’t born in Africa!

As if being born in America (or wherever else your Black ass was born) means that you have no ties to Africa or your heritage.


STOP AFRICA SHAMMING

Like many Black people living in America, I had absolutely no idea where my African ancestors came from or what other ethnicities I was “mixed” with.

I just knew I was Black, so a few years ago I happily made the $100 investment to get an Ancestry DNA test kit.

I learned that I am 83% African, 16% European, and 1% West Asian.

My African ancestry includes ties to Cameroon/Congo, Benin/Togo, and Ivory Coast/Ghana.

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Here’s another silly argument: Charlize Theron was born in Africa but she lives in America now, so that makes her African-American too!

I see what they’re trying to do there but it’s clear (at least to me) that it is NOT the same thing.

Charlize is not Black. According to Wikipedia, she has French, German, and Dutch ancestry. Her French ancestors settled in South Africa.


European South African-American?

Charlize currently has both South African and American citizenship, so in my mind, when she lives in Africa, it would make sense that she be considered a White-South African or Caucasian-South African and when she’s on American soil she’s just plain ol’ Caucasian. A White or European-American.

You know, after typing the above paragraph then reading it back, I may sound absolutely ridiculous but hopefully you get my point anyway.

Charlize is not of African descent. She was just born there! That, my friends, is the difference.

For example, if I obtained French citizenship or if I was born in France I would probably be considered Afro-French, which I am not a fan of BTW; that Afro shit in regards to race or ethnicity is outdated (IMO).

African-French, Black-French or even the sophisticated sounding, African-European, works just fine for me.


GOOGLE IT!

After typing “What are White people born in Africa called?” into Google, the first thing that pops up is the Ask the White Guy column on DiversityInc.

Here’s part of his breakdown on the subject:

“African-American” refers to descendants of enslaved Black people who are from the United States.

The reason we use an entire continent (Africa) instead of a country (e.g., “Italian-American”) is because slave masters purposefully obliterated tribal ancestry, language and family units in order to destroy the spirit of the people they enslaved, thereby making it impossible for their descendants to trace their history prior to being born into slavery.

This was all in an effort to prevent enslaved people from organizing and revolting their bondage (look up Nat Turner).

Ahhh…so, I guess it would make even more sense to say that Charlize Theron is Benoni-American because she was born in Benoni.

Does that mean that I should/can identify as Cameroon-American because that makes up the largest percentage of my African heritage?

I SAY YES!

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Charlize Theron


 RACIAL STIGMA!

Racial stigma in this case involves how people perceive Africa. The continent of Africa suffers from many negative stigmas including but not limited to: apartheid, poverty, conflict, Ebola, and HIV.

Because of this, some people do not want to be associated with Africa in any way, shape, or form.

As if America is so damn great AND VALUES the lives of BLACK PEOPLE…

The are also (of course) many beautiful things about Africa. ↵ READ!!!


Just remember, when you walk around boasting that you aren’t African-American (but that you are Black) that you aren’t doing yourself any favors; you sound like a self-hating fool.

Any self-respecting or prideful Black person knows that turning your back on Africa is the same as turning your back on your people and yourself.

 

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#ThrowbackThursday: Hurricane Katrina Looting in 2005

I wrote the following in September of 2005 for my Ask Dangerous Lee column.

It is eerily relevant today and sadly it will be 50 years from now.

Hurricane Katrina

I don’t feel like doing the usual Q & A in this issue. I want to talk about the racial drama surrounding Hurricane Katrina relief and some of the stupid ass comments that have spewed from people’s mouths or have ended up on paper.

We’ve all heard of the articles that state Black people are “looting” and that White people are “finding” food. This is so racist and ridiculous that I don’t even need to go into it deeply.

Everyone, Black and White was looting. In order to survive they had to steal food and water. Of course the people looting televisions were taking it a bit too far, but I was not there so I cannot speak on what must have been going through their minds.

Perhaps the easy answer is: They lost everything and they wanted to get it all back.

Enough said!

Victim Blaming

I’m also sick of hearing people say, “Why didn’t they leave when they had a chance?”

Hello! Most of these people are dirt poor. I’m sure the places that they could flee to were also affected by Katrina and many of them didn’t have cars or gas money to flee long distance.

I’m also sure that most of them were not psychic. They didn’t see this coming.

One more thing: Stop calling them refugees. That’s ugly and incorrect. I looked the word up for clarity and it just doesn’t fit. They’re survivors.

One of the stars of my favorite TV shows, Nip Tuck, Kelly Carlson (Kimber) thinks Kanye West was out of line with his “George Bush doesn’t care about Black people.” comment during a Hurricane Katrina telethon.

Kelly states, “I don’t think a lot of people this day and age dislike black people. I mean I think we’ve kind of moved on from that. So, to go on television and say that, I think it’s tacky, I think it’s very low rent.”

It never ceases to amaze me when a White person has an opinion on racism. She probably doesn’t have any close relationships with anyone of color, so how in the hell would she know what Black people or any other ethnic group has had to or is currently dealing with.

She is privileged in every sense of the word. She’s White. She’s blonde. She’s an actress in Hollywood.

Okay, yes she has one “negative” that affirmative action would rescue her from, she’s a woman, but she’s also stupid.

To be more exact she’s ignorant.

Hurricane Katrina

Seriously?

In this day and age people do dislike and in fact hate Black people. For instance, has she not heard of the KKK? It must be nice to be a sheltered princess and oblivious to what other people are going through in the world. I mean what rock are you living under? What community are you living in? When we move on from racism in America or worldwide give me a call.

Note: I won’t be sitting by the phone. I know better. When I’m dead my daughter and her children will be dealing with racism in some form. As long as racist people procreate there will be racism on planet earth!

Speaking of Kanye, who I cannot stand at all. He pissed me off for the last time when I watched him shine his pimp daddy shoes non stop during a post MTV Awards interview.

He sucks!

Anyway, he wasn’t lying about Bush but to say it on a telethon for Katrina relief was in bad taste. That I agree with. Though I’m sure Bush does care about the lost Black people that are Republicans.

Excuse me while I vomit.

Lastly, here are the baffling words of CNN reporter Wolf Blitzer: “You simply get chills every time you see these poor individuals…many of these people, almost all of them that we see are so poor and they are so black, and this is going to raise lots of questions for people who are watching this story unfold.”

So Black? Say What!

What exactly is he saying here? He definitely needs to think before he speaks. Am I too Black to understand? Is he too White to relate? This whole ordeal is just exhausting and the racial overtones take away from the fact that people need help.

Who gives a damn what color they are? Sure race is an issue, unfortunately, in just about everything in life, but it needs to be the back story here but instead it’s the main focus.

Something simple that many of these people can do is watch the movie Crash. It’s out on DVD now and I think it’s the perfect film to watch that deals with present day racism. Then again, ignorance is bliss and some people are happy to stay there. 

I’m just a poor Black woman who is also a single mother. So stereotypical. Who am I to change them?

 

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Rock The Vote or nah?

I don’t think I’m going to vote on November 4th. I’ve become one of those people that believes my vote doesn’t count in the grand scheme of things.

I know, I know! I’m a woman. I’m Black. There are so many reasons I should, but eh. I’m sick of dirty politics.

I usually vote Democrat but I am no longer pledging my allegiance to that party. If I do vote it will be Independent or whatever the hell the alternative is.

Voting Republican will never be an option.

Anyway, use the resource below to register to vote and share with others.

Register to vote…or not.

 

The Trouble With Booty Hair

Booty hair. That sounds funny doesn’t it?

Booty hair

Nope. This asshole is not gonna do it! He doesn’t see the point.

I hate being a hairy woman.

Booty hair, like pubic hair (I’m sure they’re an extension of each other) has a purpose but I grow what I consider to be an excessive amount of both. Anal hair tickles me (not literally).

Not just because of where it is, but because when I am trying to shave or trim it I have to twist and contort my body into all kinds of weird and uncomfortable positions.

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Looks silly, but this could definitely help ease my pain.

Booty hair

Really?

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Men don’t smile all day. Why should we?

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I’m only smiling for the camera. Happy I am not.

 

After an SMH and eye roll worthy real-life experience I took to Facebook and asked:

Men: Does it usually “work” when the first words you say to a woman are – “Why you look so mean? Smile!” ? feeling curious.

It doesn’t matter if you want to “get with” a woman or not, though I’m sure had I given him the time of day he would of tried to get with me and let’s be real, men only say this to women they find attractive or want to get to know better.

Approaching a woman, especially one you don’t know, this way is rude. It comes off as controlling. Just because a women is not smiling doesn’t mean she’s got issues in that moment. Then again, maybe she doesn’t have anything to smile about at that moment either.

Men don’t walk around with a smile on their face all day. Why should we? None of us lives in a world worthy of smiles all day every day.

A smile or lack of one is really not the issue here. It’s like Brian said in an earlier Facebook comment: social skills.

Just say hello or ask how I am instead of putting an emotion on me before you know anything about me. If you think I look unhappy, try to cheer me up. That’s the least you can do. Say something nice. Starting a conversation with a negative is a turn off. Like they say: keep it simple, stupid.

I’m just telling you how I feel about it, but based on many of the responses, I’m not the only women who does not like it and it’s one of those lines that has been passed on from generation to generation.

I can remember my mom complaining about this ages ago when I was a child. It must die. Stop saying it to women. We don’t like or appreciate it.

StopTellingWomenToSmile.com

I Am The 14% – Black People in America: Why We Will Never Overcome

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Sadly, we won’t.

I Am The 14% – Black People in America: Why We Will Never Overcome

Remember the following fact the next time a Black woman or man is unjustly killed or why it is so hard for us to overcome the effects of racism in this country. Also factor in that many of us only want to assimilate.

We are a minority in more ways than one.

In 2012 US Census Bureau estimated 44,456,009 African Americans in the United States meaning that 14.1% of the total American population of 313.9 Million is Black. This includes those who identify as ‘Black Only’ and as ‘Black in combination with another race’. The ‘Black Only’ category totaled 41.2 million African Americans or 13.1% of the total U.S population.

via BlackDemographics.com | The African American Population.

 

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Welfare Wishes and Watermelon Dreams: Being Poor Isn’t A Crime But It Should Be Illegal

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poor [poo r]

adjective, poorer, poorest.

1. having little or no money, goods, or other means of support: a poor family living on welfare.

2. Law. dependent upon charity or public support.


 

As I’m doing some Back to School shopping at the Salvation Army for my daughter, I find myself in a conversation with an older Black man, who after seeing me pull my wallet out to pay for my items says, “I wish I had seen you pull your wallet out before I went to the car to get my money. He’s joking of course, but I tell him, “Nope. You did the right thing by going to get your own money.” We laugh.

A few moments later as I am paying with my debit card in a separate check out lane, he says to me, “I knew I should of had you pay for my stuff!” He’s still joking, but I’m wondering why he’s obsessed with me and this particular joke.

I don’t give a damn if we are at the Salvation Army, you can pay for your own shit. I tell him, “I only spent $14. We’re both shopping here so we must be in the same situation.” “What situation is that?” he asks. I reply, “We’re poor.”

That’s when he got even louder. “Oh no! I’m not claiming that! I’m not poor.” I start to tune him out and by this time I was on my way out the store anyway. He’s still going on and on and  as I am walking out, I say, “I am poor. It’s the truth and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.”

I understand his attitude, but I think it stinks and it’s stupid. I hear it all the time – “Stop claiming that you’re poor.” Why? I AM poor!

As if saying I’m poor is why I’m poor or as if I start saying I’m rich that my bank account will magically swell up.

I am poor.

I think the real issue is that when people think of poor, they only think of people who look like this:

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No, sweetie. Poor people look like me too! Many of us look like we have our shit together. We are the “working poor”.

Besides, why else would I be shopping at places like the Salvation Army, Goodwill or other various consignment stores if I could afford new clothes?

Granted, even if I was living comfortably I would still shop at these places, but not as often as I do now and not because my budget won’t allow me to shop anywhere else.

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I’m one of many. Too many. There are millions of poor people in America and all over the world. I don’t know about anyone else, but it was not my dream to grow up and struggle for a living.

However, I will not let the stigma of the word “poor” make me feel ashamed of my current situation.

#IfTheyGunnedMeDown

#IfTheyGunnedMeDown

If they (the police) gunned me down would they use this picture of me on the set of a film to show what type of a person I was?

Would they also mention the fact that I am a single mother on welfare? Also, my name IS Dangerous Lee, would that also be used against me?

Women: Can’t Be Friends With ‘Em, Can’t Kill ‘Em

Before I get started on my rant just let me say that I have less than a handful of people that I consider true friends in the first place (male and female) and I have become quite comfortable as a homebody and I have no problem being alone.

As of late I prefer my own company over that of others anyway so having a small or nonexistent circle is fine with me. People in general, these days, seem to be so full of shit and fake that trying to make new friendships is a turn off.

1friend

noun ˈfrend

: a person who you like and enjoy being with

: a person who helps or supports someone or something (such as a cause or charity)

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The cast of TV show, Girlfriends. Too bad art doesn’t always imitate life.

In the last couple of years I have tried making new friendships with women, one Black, one White, and both left me hanging to be with male company instead.

I’m not a cock blocker and I am all for a woman getting her boots knocked or licked, but let a sista know that plans have changed.

To not do so is just rude and mean as hell. In both cases, if I had not been the one to reach out, I don’t think I would of ever gotten a response as to what really happened.

A woman that will drop you like a dirty diaper in the 11th hour if a man gives her some attention and not bother to call or text with an explanation is not someone that I want to spend time with. 

Needless to say those friendships ended before they even began and to this day we do not communicate.

True friends or acquaintances, for that matter, don’t do shit like that. We remain “friends” on social media, why I don’t know, but we are.

Well, if I’m being honest I remain connected to one of them on social media because she is also a writer and I enjoy some of her work. The other one I could easily hit “delete” and not feel anything about it at all.

There have also been female friends that I have known for years who have done some shiesty things to me and while I am cordial, they are also on my shit list and I no longer consider them friends.

I’m all about sistahood, so when a woman plays another woman I think it stings a little bit more than if it were a male friend.

I’ve always found it easier to be friends with men, but even that puzzles me. Then again, maybe it’s because unlike women, men don’t sit around and complain about the women they are dating.

I’m not the type of chick that wants to hear about your relationship drama every time we talk. You know he ain’t shit. Drop his ass so we can talk about something fun and meaningful.

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Why It Makes Perfect Sense To Want A Man With Money

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I’m broke. Poor to be exact. I make less than $10,000 a year. A lot less actually. And, I have bad credit. Why would I want a man that is doing just as bad as I am or slightly better with no current plans or hopes of things looking up?

Money is not the most important quality in a man. In fact it’s not even a quality (is it?), but you know what I mean.

For instance, there is a man, an old and good friend of mine, who was interested in seriously dating me but he does not have his own home or apartment, has a mediocre job, he pays child support for one child and he cannot afford to save a damn dime.

And, that’s just what I know to be true about his financial status. I’m sure it’s worse.

Let’s forget that I am not into him at all romantically for a sec, but what if I was? As a woman in her late 30’s with a child of my own to take care of I cannot and will not entertain seriously dating a man that is struggling financially.

It does not make sense, especially in this day and age. Sex, I would entertain if I was sexually attracted to him, but anything other than that is off the table, permanently. However, sexual relationships get old quickly. At least for me.

I’m sure 100% of women, if asked, would say that they want a man with money and rightfully so. Not just any man with money. Of course he has to have things like integrity, drive, personality, good looks and even a nice ass, but financial security is a must when looking for a serious long term relationship.

Why? Because things cost. It costs to live and enjoy life. Bills have to be paid. A legacy has to be built and that cannot be done when one or both persons is poor. Besides, according to traditional values (which I don’t usually give a shit about), the man is supposed to be the head of the household, the breadwinner.

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For the record, not all woman who want a man with money are gold diggers. Smart people know the difference.

Now, you may be saying – “A man doesn’t want a broke woman either.” You may be right. That’s fair. Though I’m sure that most well to do men are more than okay with their woman making less than them. It’s an ego thing. A man thing. I’m OK with that.

Don’t get me wrong, if the woman is poor, lazy, has no drive and no plans on how to become financially stable, there is a problem. However, if it’s a woman like me or a woman who is also financially stable I’m sure a man can work with that.

I have a college education, ambition, goals, plans and I own a business, but it is not a successful business, in my eyes. Success for me would be generating a stable income for myself and my child where I would never have to skip paying my Consumers bill (or any bill for that matter) and I would not be driving around in a raggedy ass ’97 Escort for going on two years now without car insurance and tags. It’s a damn shame.

If I met a man I really liked who just happened to be a well off business man or a well off garbage man, take your pick, we could build a legacy together. Meaning he could invest in my business or perhaps we could build an entirely new business together. We could pool our talents and help each other.

As I type this I am thinking that it would be great to have an angel investor, male or female, but those are harder to come by than a viable significant other these days.

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