Rock The Vote or nah?

I don’t think I’m going to vote on November 4th. I’ve become one of those people that believes my vote doesn’t count in the grand scheme of things.

I know, I know! I’m a woman. I’m Black. There are so many reasons I should, but eh. I’m sick of dirty politics.

I usually vote Democrat but I am no longer pledging my allegiance to that party. If I do vote it will be Independent or whatever the hell the alternative is.

Voting Republican will never be an option.

Anyway, use the resource below to register to vote and share with others.

Register to vote…or not.


Multi-ethnic group of young women: African, Asian, Indian and Caucasian.

Men don’t smile all day. Why should we?


I’m only smiling for the camera. Happy I am not.


After an SMH and eye roll worthy real-life experience I took to Facebook and asked:

Men: Does it usually “work” when the first words you say to a woman are – “Why you look so mean? Smile!” ? feeling curious.

It doesn’t matter if you want to “get with” a woman or not, though I’m sure had I given him the time of day he would of tried to get with me and let’s be real, men only say this to women they find attractive or want to get to know better.

Approaching a woman, especially one you don’t know, this way is rude. It comes off as controlling. Just because a women is not smiling doesn’t mean she’s got issues in that moment. Then again, maybe she doesn’t have anything to smile about at that moment either.

Men don’t walk around with a smile on their face all day. Why should we? None of us lives in a world worthy of smiles all day every day.

A smile or lack of one is really not the issue here. It’s like Brian said in an earlier Facebook comment: social skills.

Just say hello or ask how I am instead of putting an emotion on me before you know anything about me. If you think I look unhappy, try to cheer me up. That’s the least you can do. Say something nice. Starting a conversation with a negative is a turn off. Like they say: keep it simple, stupid.

I’m just telling you how I feel about it, but based on many of the responses, I’m not the only women who does not like it and it’s one of those lines that has been passed on from generation to generation.

I can remember my mom complaining about this ages ago when I was a child. It must die. Stop saying it to women. We don’t like or appreciate it.


Black People Can’t Tell “Black Jokes” Now?

The real issue is that a lot of people do not get or like her brand of humor.

I got it! I laughed, especially when she continued to birth famous athletes. I mean, c’mon it’s the truth!

If you have no idea what I am talking about consider yourself lucky or just Google it.

Leslie Jones

Click image to read heated conversation that took place on Facebook!



Is White Right?


Laura Govan, Basketball Wives L.A. cast member, often makes the statement that “White is right” in regards to dating men.

The first time she made the statement was when cast mate, Jackie Christie, mentioned that she was once married to a white man. Laura is the mother of four children (I think) and has only dated men of color without long term success, so now she feels that dating white men is the answer.

Is it?

I for one think that Black women and other women of color should keep their options open in regards to dating men and women of other ethnicities, but White is not right just because it’s White!

I cringe when I hear men or women make statements such as “I don’t date Black women (men).”

To me, that’s self hate in its rawest form.


Laura Govan


Jackie Christie

Look, we’ve all been hurt and we all tend to generalize Black men and Black women as being a certain way in relationships and in everyday life, but take it from someone that has a child by a White man; all White men don’t stick around to raise their kids and all White men are not good mates.

His or her lack of melanin and different culture do not mean that he or she is the perfect mate for you.

As people of color, we have got to stop believing and perpetuating all the negative stereotypes that have been placed upon us. Until you have dated a few White women or White men you will not know if they are right for you.

And, don’t give up on Black men or women or other people of color because you have had one or a few bad experiences. Most importantly, work on yourself as you may be the reason your relationships are not working.

Truth is, we’re all a lil’ fucked up!

Date and love whoever loves you back unconditionally.




Am I the Only One That Didn’t Know Who Steve Jobs Was?

When I read the tweets and Facebook posts regarding the death of  Apple co-founder, Steve Jobs, I had no idea who he was or why he was so important. I had been asked by a few people if I had heard about his death that day and my response was, “Yes, but I had no idea who he was!”. In return I got laughter and one person even reminded me that he’s responsible for my iPod, which I had just purchased earlier this year and it’s probably the most up to date piece of technology that I own.

I am not the type of person that has to have the latest piece of new technology, so I am very far removed from knowing much about it or anyone affiliated with it. Anyway, I know who he is and what he was responsible for in his life, and I want to say, THANKS 🙂

Top Story – Should We Feel Sorry For Amy Fisher?


Unless you were an infant when it happened, you remember the media circus that was Amy Fisher, Joey Buttafuoco, and Mary Jo Buttafuoco but here’s a refresher from Amy Elizabeth Fisher is an American woman who became known as “Long Island Lolita” by the media in 1992, when, at the age of 17, she shot and severely wounded Mary Jo Buttafuoco, the wife of her lover, Joey Buttafuoco. She was initially charged with first-degree attempted murder, but eventually pleaded guilty to first-degree aggravated assault and served six years in prison. After her parole in 1999, Fisher became a journalist and writer, before embarking on a career as a pornographic actress in 2007.

Mary Jo Buttafuoco, Joey Buttafuoco, and Amy Fisher (insert)

Amy Fisher is currently a cast member on the VH1 series, Celebrity Rehab, where she is dealing with an addiction to alcohol. Amy has also appeared in pornographic films because she says it’s the only work she can get. Her reputation and what she has been through in her life when she was essentially a child has deeply affected her adult life.

I personally feel sorry for her because it’s evident to me that Amy was also a victim in her relationship with Joey Buttafuoco. She served time for her crime and attempted to get her life together upon her release, but the world would not allow her to move on from her traumatic past.

During her counseling sessions with Dr. Drew of Celebrity Rehab she has made it very clear that she feels like she deserves pain and that she has been unable to move past being known as “The Long Island Lolita”. Amy has been married for 12 years and is also the mother of three children. For her children’s sake, I hope that she is able to fully get her life in order and I also hope that the world allows her to have a much deserved second chance.

Did You Know Madison Pettis is Black?

Madison Pettis

I thought she was of Hispanic descent because she portrayed the daughter of a Hispanic President on the Disney series, Cory in the House, but apparently she is of African-American, Irish, French, and Italian heritage.

My daughter, Senia, says that she knew she was black because, and I quote, “I saw some black in her and she has hair like mine.” Well, excuse me! Lesson learned, once again!

Madison just turned 13! Does she look older?


Sylvester vs Serena Williams

As I watched an episode of Unsung on TVOne that profiled the life of gay disco singer, Sylvester, one thing kept going through my mind: Serena Williams looks just like him, especially when he was younger!

Humor me, do they look alike? (Above the neck of course)



Tunde Olaniran: Is He Gay? Why Do You Care?

Tunde Olaniran

Tunde Olaniran

“Weird, soulful, old school, catchy, uplifting. All of these words have been used by listeners to describe Tunde’s style. One moment, a chorus of vocals soar over a sitar raga, the next, he sings quietly over a spare Casio keyboard, 808, and gulping tablas. Armed with a strange, wonderful new sound, solid vocals, and commanding stage presence, Tunde is prepared to share his music with the world.”

Many people also use the word “gay” to describe Tunde. Why is it that a gay man is only thought to be one way, feminine or androgynous? Why is it that a straight man is only seen as one way, butch or thuggish? Would people be worried about Tunde’s sexuality if he were a White man?

Tunde Olaniran

Dangerous Lee at Tunde’s Cobra music video premiere in March 2010.


Dangerous: Many times I am often asked by others in the community, “What’s up with your boy, Tunde? Is he gay?” Do you have to deal with people questioning your sexuality often? If so, how do you react?

Side note: Before I knew the answer to this question, I would simply answer that I did not know, but I would inquire why they asked or why they cared. Basically it was Black men or other men of color who have asked. They respect Tunde’s talent but felt that his style of dress and overall demeanor was not typical of what they were used to as far as straight men are concerned.

When I learned the answer to the question, I would further explain that he’s an artist, as an artist myself I am often misjudged or misunderstood and I often find that people do not “get me” at all. A persons sexuality is a non factor to me. Tunde is an awesome person and  that’s all I care about in anyone.


Tunde Olaniran

Tunde: It’s interesting because people pretty much make up their minds without ever directly asking me. It’s not really a “question” for them as much as it’s like them being sure already! It’s very rare that someone asks me.

So, even though there might not really be a point because people think what they want to think, I’ll answer the inferred question: I’m a weird, androgynous heterosexual (lol). I express my “gender” and “race” in a way that’s atypical, or queer. I don’t mean queer as in “gay;” I mean queer as in just really freaking strange or odd from a conventional viewpoint. In terms of my personal practices/preferences, I don’t have/want same-sex romantic or physical relationships.

In some ways, people assuming I’m gay helps me know *their* true colors more than anything else. If they assume I’m gay and treat me well, then I know they are probably good people! The funniest part is when I’ve had to “come out” to LGBTQ friends as heterosexual; or guys have asked my gay friends if I’m gay because they want to ask me out!

All in all, I don’t have an issue with questions about my sexuality. As long as someone’s uncertainty doesn’t stop them from treating me with respect, then I’m good.

Watch This – Tunde Olaniran Live! Can you spot Dangerous Lee?


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