He spoke of watching my videos on YouTube, being “appalled” and “immediately hating” my singing. Despite 13 allegations ranging from “Conspiracy for Fraud” and “Tortious Interference” the following stood out like a sore thumb:
“Defendant McLafferty was ‘too unattractive’ to front” this kind of band.
“Pink is a visually striking woman,” it read as it was further alleged that I didn’t “look the part or contribute to the overall aesthetics” of the group.
The damages sought were around $10,000,000 and the “legal fees” Chuck felt he was entitled to by defending himself. In addition, he sought to ban me from performing in any P!NK tribute band in perpetuity.
I immediately quit my job in the band.
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Has this case affected your self esteem or self worth in any way?
Interestingly, my self esteem has never been better. Let me tell you, when you get sued for millions of dollars for no reason, you get real spiritual, real quick. A friend of mine told me that if she were in my situation with the case and the press she would most likely slide into a deep depression. That really shook me up. If this happened to me at a different point in my life, I may have just given up music or done something self destructive to cope. I think this would absolutely crush a less experienced performer. Fortunately, with 20 years in the music industry under my belt, I’ve had to battle a variety of insanely harsh situations. It became fight or flight. And I chose to fight, and the fact that I am a “lifer” in the music game has been my most valuable asset. . I’m stronger overall. I do have some very sad “why me” days though. I usually just drink of wine, cry and watch Jon Stewart and wait it out.
Have you heard from P!nk or her people?
The NY Post reached out to P!NK’s “camp”. I’m guessing a publicist. We got a “no comment”. This was when the story first went public. It’s hard to say if she knows the details of this case or not. Pop stars are so insulated and there are thousands of people trying to get in touch with them on a daily basis and everybody wants something. Plus legal issues are sensitive and no one wants to get sued themselves. That being said, P!NK’s platform is all about empowerment and sticking up for the underdog. There are a lot of parallels between her music and this case. Speaking up on the matter would be consistent with the message she puts out as an artist. However, I know that if I were in her situation, I would want the facts first. And getting them is time consuming. I mean my schedule is crazy just as a working regional artist, I can’t relate to what her life is like at all.
Has anything positive come from this experience?
Yes! I have gotten a crazy amount of support, especially from female musicians my age and the New York City music scene has been AMAZING to me. I’ve always wanted to speak very publicly about the value of older performers and why we should be celebrated and not silenced. Because The NY Post decided to make an issue of my age, I now have a platform to talk about it, so it’s a gift in strange wrapping paper. It’s also taught me that as of today I can handle almost anything life throws at me and it’s going to be OK.
What have you learned from all this so far?
You have to stand in your own strength regardless of what others may think of you or say about you. I feel that I started playing it safe in my career a few years ago, because I got tired of reading the harsh comment when I would put my work out to the public. It made me want to be less open and vulnerable. But this experience has taught me to build a shield, focus on the art and those who love you. Oh, and also keep records of everything music business related! Emails, texts, everything!
Has this case affected your career negatively?
Unfortunately, in the short term it has been rather financially devastating, only because fighting this is a full time job. I spend hours everyday educating myself on the legal system instead of working on music. I’m slowly working on becoming a balanced human again. I’ve managed to work consistently for 20 years because I have always been diligent about auditioning, submitting my work, attending shows and jam sessions etc. As a freelancer, I do a lot of “one off” studio sessions, sub gigs etc, and there just hasn’t been time to pursue those things. Getting the work itself is a full time job. Fortunately, my 2 bands The Fred Savages and Lavender Steel are getting out of the “start up” hump and it looks like I’ll be busier in the fall. But it’s been a tough summer.
Also, If you Google my name, “old, ugly, bad singer” comes up repeatedly, thanks to the NY Post’s version of the story, which made the newswire. It’s kind of hilarious, but eek! They say there’s no such thing as bad press, but as a professional singer that is the worst possible press you can get! Now I can look at that and know absolutely that I am neither old, nor ugly. And I can sing, obviously. But in this business, you are constantly introducing yourself to new people, submitting head shots and demos online etc. And the first thing a potential employer does is Google you. So this has to be addressed, and I have to create new headlines for myself. Unfortunately, there’s a stigma to being sued. So there’s that too. This is going to be a huge challenge going forward to be known for my work once again and not as the “lawsuit girl”. Someone actually called me that at a concert I attended.
When things get resolved, however, if I can channel the strength I have found from this whole ordeal into my music and my artistic platform, I will be Dangerous! Pun intended!
Collette is represented by Martin Kera of Kera and Graubard, 212-681-1600
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HEAVY SIGH - So there’s this video going viral showing a little Black girl at the playground sliding down a pole like a pro as other children watch while she lands perfectly in the splits. The insulting meme attached is “The Moment You Realize That Your Daughter’s a Baby Thot”. A thot, to put it simply is a hoe (see whore), in urban slang language. There are more than a few problems that I have with this video and its message.
#1: This is an innocent child. How dare you lay the title of hoe on her because she has athletic skills. She is on a playground pole, a place more than appropriate for her to participate in this type of activity. Is she supposed to just slide down like a firefighter? Should she have her style of play limited?
By thinking what she is doing is inappropriate because strippers also display these skills in the club, or that she is not being “lady-like”, or that she should not play this way because some pervert will be turned on is absolutely ridiculous. You are putting blame on a child for your thoughts and the presumed thoughts of others. And, again, she is on a playground. Should poles be removed from playgrounds?
#2: This child is not exposing her private parts or her underwear and though I would rather she was not in a dress, not once do we see the dress go over her head.
#3: Making statements like she is being raised wrong, or that she must have seen this behavior somewhere, or that her mother should be ashamed is making a negative judgment call when you know absolutely nothing about this child or her family based on this short video.
#4: Ain’t nothing wrong with grown women stripping or being a stripper for a living. And, all strippers are not hoes. Furthermore, the strippers that are hoes don’t deserve your unkind words and assumptions either. You owe strippers an apology for thinking so low of them.
#5: Pole dancing is a legitimate skill, an art, no matter who is doing it or how old they are. Kids do it on the playground, it’s also taught in fitness classes all over the world, gymnasts do it and there are even international competitions, and yes professionals dance on poles in strip clubs or on an even larger scale in awe inspiring shows like Cirque du Soleil.
#6: I’m pretty sure that pole dancing came before stripping in clubs. I haven’t and won’t fact check this one; but I’m pretty sure…just logically speaking.
I really wish more of us would stretch our minds beyond our slanted view. To help you I’ve done a little research and found the following article. You’re welcome. Enjoy!!
1. Most pole dancers, regardless of age, are in the best shape of their lives.
Pole dancing is a full-body workout. It is resistance training and cardio in one. Flexibility is improved as well. Pole dancers perform acrobatic tricks either suspending their weight or propelling it around a metal pole. The simple act of climbing a pole is an incredible display of strength. It is no surprise, then, that most pole dancers insist they have never looked or felt better. Natasha Wang is a world champion pole dancer who didn’t even start until age 29. Greta Pontarelli is a champion pole dancer at age 63—and she only began a few years ago.
2. There are many different types of pole dancing.
When most people think of “pole dancing,” they tend to think of the kind performed in strip clubs. While the sexy side is still very present, there are actually three main branches of pole dancing: sport, art, and sexy.
3. Some are pushing for pole to become an Olympic event.
These are the serious athletes performing death-defying tricks and displaying unfathomable muscular strength. Then there are also those who embrace the artistic side pole has to offer. The simplicity of a vertical apparatus is appealing in that so much can be created and so many stories can be told. Many of these dancers perform barefoot and have been known to incorporate modern dance, props and costumes into their routines. Finally the sexy side of pole is still practiced by many. These dancers usually wear heels. And although there is some debate within the community about which direction pole is heading, all three forms flourish, and many pole dancers enjoy all styles. There is something for everyone.
4. You need your skin exposed to grip the pole.
I am still surprised that people don’t understand this concept. In order for skin to grip the pole, pole dancers must have their legs, arms and stomach exposed. This is a safety concern. There are some grounded spins, poses, and floor work that can be performed while wearing pants. But in order to perform more advanced moves, we must have the proper amount of skin exposure. Most pole dancers do not have an issue with this at all, since our focus turns away from what our bodies look like and onto what they can do.
5. It can be dangerous without proper training.
Although pole dancing is fun, it is still a serious athletic endeavor that should not be taken lightly. Some people do not realize how challenging it is when first starting. In addition to the bruises, pole dancers can experience shoulder and/or back pain with improper technique or over training.
Some people don’t learn from from certified instructors and instead try to figure it out with an improperly installed home pole and a YouTube instructional, which is a recipe for disaster. Some people can be too eager to flip upside down. This can be especially dangerous and can lead to head or spinal cord injury. This caution isn’t meant to scare away hopefuls, but rather to encourage everyone to go through gradually progressive training.
6. Men can (and do!) pole dance.
The number of men pole dancing continues to grow every year. There are men’s divisions in competitions now, and I usually have at least one man in all the classes I take or teach. Men’s natural inclination toward upper body strength makes them ideal candidates for the sport. There are many ancient forms of pole dancing such as Chinese pole and Mallakhamb, which have been performed throughout history and almost exclusively by men.
7. “Not having upper body strength” is not an excuse to not try it.
This is quite possibly the most irritating argument I hear against wanting to try pole dancing. There will always be hundreds of reasons not to try. Maybe you aren’t at your ideal weight, or you have two left feet, or you think you’re too old. Why not stop creating roadblocks? You’ll build skills as you grow and learn. That is part of what’s so inspiring and empowering about it.
Whether you’re uncoordinated and can’t lift your own body weight or you’re an athlete with gymnastic capabilities, there is always a new trick or transition to learn with pole dancing. The process of growth never ends and the possibilities can be as creative as your imagination allows them to be.
8. Even though pole dancing is growing in popularity, we still can be judged.
Despite progress in the public’s understanding of what we do, many of us still fight stereotypes. Some of pole dancing’s loudest critics have never tried it themselves. Just last year, Marina Heck, a schoolteacher, was forced to resign from her position following controversy that she is a pole dancer. Even if what we are doing is completely athletic and far removed from the type of pole dancing performed in strip clubs, we still need to explain ourselves. Many times when revealing to strangers what it is I do, I find myself hesitating because I don’t feel like justifying my passion to a skeptic.
9. It’s not always so sexy. (And our significant others don’t get free shows all the time.)
Don’t get me wrong; Pole dancing can be very sexy. But it is not always as overtly sexual as people may believe. We end up with bruises, burns and scrapes from trying new moves. And although we may wear sports bras and tiny shorts when performing, we opt for comfort over fashion in between training sessions.
Our partners soon become all too familiar with pole dancing. We bring them to competitions, we send them videos, we practice the latest tricks at home, we talk about which grip aids work best. Many spouses are affectionately referred to as “pole husbands.” They are supportive. But do they feel forbidden allure? Not so much.
10. The community is very tight-knit.
Because what we do is still considered taboo by many, there is a unique closeness that bonds us together. There are pole dancers of all professions, ethnicities, religions, cultures, sizes, and ages. I have friends all over the world because of pole dancing. I have friends who have been able to travel the world because of it. We support each other through learning new moves. We share each others videos. We watch each other perform. This shared interest bonds us with a special understanding.
11. Pole dancing is emotionally healing.
This is one of the biggest reasons I’ve stuck with pole dancing as long as I have. The physical benefits are great, but the feeling you get from mastering a move or expressing a particular emotion is indescribable. Just the other day, I assisted a student in her first climb. It was a huge deal for her and the expression of joy on her face reminded me why I do what I do.
You can dance out any emotion in class, whether joyful, angry or sad. The combination of athletic skill and artistic influence makes it incomparable to any other form of dance or sport. To me, it is both dance and sport woven together into one beautiful, athletic art form.
11 Things I Wish Everyone Knew About Pole Dancing -originally posted on MindBodyGreen
Who is Pearl Pearson?
Pearl is a 64 year-old diabetic deaf driver who resides in the Oklahoma City area.
What’s the story?
At this time, only limited details can be provided since this case is under investigation.
1. The Oklahoma Highway Patrol pulled Pearl over late in the evening on January 3, 2014. Pearl pulled over as he should.
2. Pearl’s driver’s license indicates he is Deaf. He also has a visor card inside his vehicle that says, “Driver is deaf”.
3. During the police encounter, Pearl was struck by officers.
4. An interpreter was never provided while Pearl was under the care of law enforcement — not during the booking, hospital, or while at the jail, even though Pearl requested one.
5. Pearl does not understand why he was struck. Pearl and his family are still not sure, but are ready for some answers.
6. Pearl’s own son is a police officer, as was his son-in-law, who is now a deputy sheriff. He respects law enforcement and knows how to respond when pulled over. There is no reason for someone like Pearl to be hurt like this by those who are meant to protect and serve.
Learn more via pearlpearson.com.
I created this Bitstrip to make a point about how so many of you are hypnotized by online media outlets like Bossip and TMZ and fail to support independent media in the same way. Low and behold, a day after I created it, TMZ posted a story with a poll asking if Black people should be referred to as Niggas or African Americans. Why? Because Suge Knight doesn’t want to be called African American because he’s not from Africa. Suge Knight is stupid. Stop supporting bullshit media. I’ve never had a real issue with TMZ until now, but his story is just irresponsible. They’ve lost my clicks.
Feces in the hallway and female inmates sleeping nearly on top of each other in the intake area are recurring problems at the Livingston County Jail, the sheriff confirmed Friday.
Sheriff Bob Bezotte brought those issues — including a photograph of the sleeping conditions —to light in an e-mail to the Livingston County Board of Commissioners this week, which the Livingston County Daily Press & Argus received through a Freedom of Information Act request on Friday.
“We should never be in a situation where we have eight people sleeping on top of themselves and with one toilet,” the sheriff said when asked about the living conditions at the jail.
“I put myself in that position and I would be furious. … As the sheriff and elected official, I think it¹s my duty to bring this to the attention of the commissioners,” Bezotte said. “This is an ongoing issue we have to deal with. This is not right. Period.”
County Commissioner Ronald Van Houten, who chairs the commission’s public safety committee, believes the photograph and Bezotte¹s comments are merely propaganda.
Televangelist Pat Robertson on Wednesday struggled to understand why homosexuality was no longer considered a mental illness, but said that he approved of gender reassignment surgery.
In response to a viewer who asked if her gay nephew needed to pray for himself to be helped, Robertson recalled that homosexuality was considered to be a personality disorder by the American Psychiatric Association until 1973.
“A few years ago the psychiatrists, the psychologists used to say that homosexuality was a mental illness,” the TV preacher remarked. “Now, the Supreme Court has said that it is a protected right.”
“So what’s he going to pray about? Is he going to say something is wrong and he’s unhappy? And if he’s unhappy and realizes he is doing something that makes him miserable, you might help him.”
“They put in the filler, it looked like Steamboat Willie, the old Mickey Mouse cartoon, and then all of a sudden it goes into this other scene. It seemed like forever when you’re trying to, you know, cover a little guy’s eyes. I didn’t have enough hands to cover his ears too and he got the sound down real good. You’re talking, what, a PG-rated movie to all of a sudden have an R-rated scene up there for little children? My concern is that there should be safeguards in place so that this doesn’t happen again.”
Read full story via Movie Theater Plays Sex Scene Instead Of Disney’s Frozen! | PerezHilton.com.
In recent years, a terrible situation has come to light: farm workers across the nation are falling prey to instances of sexual harassment and abuse, and are often subject to these terrible instances with what they believe is little chance of recourse.
Fear Of Deportation
Many of the workers who labor on farms, harvesting crops and performing tasks like irrigation and planting are immigrant workers who accept low paying jobs where they are compensated under the table. Many of these female workers face horrific instances of sexual abuse and harassment but do not report instances to authorities because they fear that blowing the whistle on their abusers may put them at risk for deportation.
Superiors Committing Crimes
In many cases, workers are assaulted or harassed by their boss or other superior. This makes it even more difficult for a victim to report an instance of abuse, because the person who is abusing them may very well be the same person in charge of continuing their employment.
Most farm workers labor for very low wages and are struggling to make enough for themselves and their family. Risking their jobs can often mean risking their livelihoods, so abused workers remain silent for fear of falling into destitution.
Lack of Controls Among Supervisors
Often, instances of crime and abuse are allowed to occur simply because there is a lack of regulation among farm worker supervisors. The employees above supervisors may be quite distanced from life on the fields, and there are often few checks and balances or strict standards for those laboring outdoors.
Supervisors are generally in a position of extreme power because many workers rely on them for things that may even include rides to work or to the market to cash a paycheck. Even if an abuse victim wants to report a crime, it may be unclear to them who they should report to and what exactly reporting procedures are.
An Alarming Number of Instances
The issue of abuse of farm workers is a very pressing matter, as workers are facing victimization at an alarmingly high rate. Across the nation, an estimated 24% of all farm workers are women, and of that 24%, 80% report that they have been subject to sexual abuse or harassment of some kind.
Criminals Should Be Brought to Justice
Victims of sexual harassment and abuse should be aware that under no circumstance should they be subject to this behavior. In many cases, brave workers have reported their abusers to the police, who have in turn investigated and often prosecuted sexual offenders in the agricultural workplace.
Unfortunately, however, many victims still live in constant fear: fear that they will continue to be abused, fear that they may lose their job, fear that they may be sent out of the country.
Workers who have been subject to these terrible occurrences should be aware that they can take action to stop the vicious cycle of continued wrong-doing. Perhaps as this problem continues to be brought to light, more steps will be put in place to help these workers.
Jefffrey R. Lamb, an Associate Lawyer at Martin Stanley Law, is a devoted husband to his wife and in his off time donates his time speaking about Education and the Law.
It’s unclear where the chicken and watermelon themes originated. They may have begun as Southern stereotypes and then evolved into anti-Black stereotypes during the antebellum period. Numerous primary sources chronicle Black resistance to slavery through “silent sabotage,” or, day-to-day acts of resistance. Stealing from the master was one example. It seems logical that food would be among the most desirable of pilferable items, and chickens and watermelons would have been commonly available. For example, In his autobiographical account of being kidnapped and sold into slavery, Solomon Northup tells of being put in charge of punishing slaves who got into the master’s watermelon patch. Rather than carry out the punishment, Northup had the slaves show him the way to the patch. Whatever the history, by the Jim Crow era chicken and watermelon obsession was firmly entrenched in the imagery of Black Americans being produced by White America.
Learn more via The Coon Obsession with Chicken & Watermelon.
“He is in custody,” Officer Green, with the county sheriff’s office told USA TODAY. He said the booking officer handling Zimmerman was still filing his report and he had no additional information.
The Orlando Sentinel reported that Zimmerman was en route to the Seminole County Jail in Sanford, according to Sheriff Don Eslinger. The Sentinel said it was not clear what happened or what crime he’s accused of committing.
Read full story via George Zimmerman arrested again in Florida.
Craigslist is a great resource for people to find a variety of local items, events and jobs. By posting a simple ad on the site, you can sell items you no longer need, buy items you want at a cheaper price, find jobs or gigs, hire people for jobs or gigs, find places to live and much more.
When posting an ad on Craigslist, it’s important to take the time to proofread your work to ensure it’s grammatically and contextually accurate. If you make major grammatical mistakes, you could end up on a blog post like this, which showcases the best of the best funny grammatical mistakes found on Craigslist.
White Girl’s Dresser
When describing the item in the subject area of the Craigslist post, this individual turned an innocent white dresser into a racist comment. The subject states, “Free White Girl’s Dresser”. Yes, the poster was obviously trying to state they had a free dresser that was white in color and meant for a girl. Unfortunately the post came out sounding as if they were getting rid of a dresser made intentionally for Caucasian girls.
Some people use Craigslist to try and find that one cute person they saw at some point in his or her lifetime, but if you’re going to do this, make sure that you learn from this guy’s mistakes. When you’re describing the individual you want to meet, you should compliment them. Instead of saying “bare legs”, this guy wrote “bear legs”, which in turn made people think that this poor woman was walking around with extremely hairy legs.
Too Many Mistakes
There’s a difference between having one or two grammatical/spelling mistakes in your Craigslist ad and having a plethora of mistakes. In this ad, the poster wanted to trade his “Caddy Suvill” for another car, but “Seville” was not the only thing this poster spelled wrong.
Apparently, the individual looking for a new car is not the only Craigslist poster with a poor knack for spelling and grammar. Another case of too many mistakes falls in the hands of this poster who is looking to sell his sailboat. One sentence of the ad states that the boat is “canfortobol” and “wery clin”. Unfortunately it just gets worse from there.
If you truly want to sell your item or find exactly what you’re looking for on Craigslist, it’s important that you take the time to ensure your ad is grammatically correct. All of these ads show that a lack of effort will not only confuse your audience, but it will turn your ad into an Internet sensation for being one of the worst ads ever posted on the site. All of the aforementioned posts could have been completely avoided with one simple step—they could have used a grammar checker. If you’re going to post an ad on Craigslist, do yourself a favor and take the time to check your writing before you post.
Christina Parker is a frequent Craigslist shopper an avid blogger. She enjoys writing about shopping and childcare in her free time.