Q: How do you tell someone that you have an STD? Three Girls and a Mic www.threegirlsandamic.com A: First, if you have an STD please seek medical help. Some STDs are curable and others are treatable. If you’re walking around … Continue reading
Q: Do you believe that Blue Ivy is Beyonce and Jay-Z’s biological child? Erica S. Brooklyn, NY A: My short answer is…YES, of course! My long opinion is this: Anyone who believes that Beyonce had a surrogate to carry her … Continue reading
Q: Would you have sex on a first date? Charles E. Flint, MI A: I never have, but that’s not to say that I never would. I think sex on the first date is okay as long as the people having … Continue reading
Q: Do you think Black History Month is necessary? Eric S. Chicago, IL A: Of course it is. I am always baffled by this question and by those, especially Black people, that think we have come far enough to ignore … Continue reading
Q: What do you think about the Chris Brown and Rihanna musical collaborations? Shana T. Detroit, MI A: I have not heard either track and I really don’t care to listen, but I think that those two have made ammends … Continue reading
Q: Why is it that no African-American knows who Roscoe Robinson, Jr. is? Every American should be proud of what he accomplished. Sel Graham Austin Texas A: I agree that every American should be proud of what Mr. Robinson accomplished … Continue reading
Q: I’m not normally an unhappy person, but each year during Christmas I feel really alone and depressed. What is my problem? Tasha Flint, MI A: You may be suffering from the “Winter Blues”. If so, I feel for you … Continue reading
Q: Which is sexier – sexting, cybering, or phone sex? Why?
Pam S.
Chicago, IL
A: I personally prefer sexting. Maybe it’s because I am a writer and I enjoy playing with words, but I find that sexting allows your imagination to run wild and create sexy and erotic visuals in the mind. Also, if a man (or woman) can use words creatively to turn you on there is hope that he (or she) can please you in the flesh. Remember, sex takes place in the mind first! To be honest, I participate in sexting with men that I have not had sex with and perhaps never will. I guess I am a sexting tease!
Q: I’m on the verge of hating black women. My ex wife is using my daughter as a pawn. She refuses to let me see my daughter and now I have given up. I don’t want anything to do with my daughters or black women. Why do black women love men who abuse them and treat them bad?
This woman knows I love both of my daughters. She has turned my oldest daughter against me. My ex is bitter because I left the marriage after she stopped sleeping with me. She’s upset with me because I tried to be a man and got angry with her when she messed up our finances. She will tell you I have a temper. True I do, but when it’s necessary. I even put myself in anger management. They said I didn’t belong there. I’m really angry now and this goes back to my mother. I can understand why a black man goes and gets himself a BECKY once he becomes rich.
I tried my best to be a good father, but this woman keeps trying to push the envelope with me. I now understand why some men beat their women. I’m pissed! Can you possibly explain to me what may be floating around in my ex wife’s head being that you are a black woman?
Clint C. Brantley
New York City
A: Based on what you have to say it’s your ex wife that you hate, not all black women. You only think you hate all black women, but that’s your frustration and inner turmoil talking. If you truly hated black women you would not be asking for my opinion. Your ex wife is black, so you project your hate towards her on other black women as well.
Also, because you have issues with your mother, the woman who gave you life, your mind won’t allow you to see black woman in a positive light. Ask yourself this question; If your ex wife was white would you hate all white women? The answer is important, but it’s also important to think about how ridiculous it would be to hate all of anything or anyone just because you’ve had a bad experience with a few. Ever hear of racism? I also want you to understand that hating black women also means that you hate yourself.
Seriously think about getting some therapy so that you can be a positive role model for your daughters. Hatred is taught, and your actions and attitude towards them may cause them to grow up hating black men.
Q: What is the most ridiculous come on or ‘line’ that worked on you?
Chris R.
Flint, MI
A: Pick up lines and come ons, as a rule, do not work on me unless I have already decided that I like what I see. Men and women both need to understand that what you say and how you say it makes all the difference in getting and keeping someones attention. Just be real and honest with me. There’s no need for ‘lines’, they can be corny.
