As a culture, we are encouraged to have only a distant relationship to our bodies, and sometimes to have an actively adversarial relationship with them. We are taught to relate to the world around us primarily through our rational brains, allowing them to dictate what our bodies should or shouldn’t do, and frequently denying, or […]Read more "Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart: Loving Your Body"
“It’s not worth it to tell the truth,” is something I hear people say quite often. Well, that depends whether you are really measuring what you’re losing by lying, and whether you really care about what you’re losing. You may not notice the gradual deterioration of your once-intimate relationship into a casual daily exchange of […]Read more "Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart: Why tell the truth?"
Wanna get married? I recently officiated at a very fun wedding held on some land in northern California. The couple were both in their thirties, and the half that did most of the organizing is an accomplished artist who designed and sewed her own dress, made hundreds of origami cranes, and etched names in glasses […]Read more "Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart: An Alternative Wedding"
I apologize for the long delay in posting – life has just been incredibly full and busy! OK, following on from my last post, I’m still on the subject of communication and anger. Although it’s true that someone who is very afraid will never be able to communicate clearly, and that some people have no […]Read more "Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart: Dealing with Anger"
Unless you are one of those lucky people who just happens to be with someone who wants to have sex exactly the way you do, the art of negotiation is an essential skill. By that I mean that you need to be able to listen to what your partner is saying without taking aboard any […]Read more "Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart: Moving Beyond Fear And Anxiety"
Contrary to popular belief, breaking up is not necessarily hard to do. It does tend to get harder if you put it off until you are on very bad terms with your partner. If you stay and stay and stay, resentments will build up and up and up, until you can’t remember why you loved […]Read more "Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart: Breaking Up"
In my last post, I wrote about abuse; before I move on to more pleasant subjects, I want to say something about rape. Citing my own experience may help people understand what motivates a person to rape another human being, and what our culture needs to do to prevent this happening. At college in my […]Read more "Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart: Understanding Rape"