Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
When a powerful orgasm surges through our bodies, it reaches into all those dark corners where we may be hiding difficult emotions. As we grow up we are taught that part of being adult is controlling our show of feelings, and we learn to suppress any that are considered inappropriate. But feelngs always want to [...]
Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
In my last blog, I mentioned some basics around feelings, what they are, and how they affect us. I’m very fond of saying that the rational brain is limited in its value, and when it comes to feelings, that is particularly true, because feelings have nothing to do with the rational brain. The place where [...]
Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
Failing to deal well with emotions is probably the single biggest cause of problems in relationships, especially as sex tends to bring up feelings. Yet they are rarely understood in this society. Here is quick primer: 1. Feelings are not facts but they often affect us much more than facts. 2. Feelings may carry [...]
Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
Recently I was asked for a list of things that are not generally known about women’s sexual responses and desires. Since women vary enormously, this is a little hard to do–and perhaps that is the most important thing that most people don’t realize. But here is a little list I made up anyway: 1. The [...]
Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
In my last post I discussed the Gspot. Now let’s talk about ejaculation. Some women naturally seem to ejaculate when they are aroused, sometimes without even knowing they are doing it, others never ejaculate, and others learn to do it, usually as a result of different kinds of sexual experimentation. Very little research has been [...]
Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
When I first wrote The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women, I interviewed twenty-six women in depth and received more than fifty questionnaires. We may be sure that these were all women who have an easy time with sex, since women who have a difficult time with sex rarely want to talk about it, but [...]
Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
I want to say more about that thing called love: it’s my favorite subject. In this society we tend to equate the word yes with I love you and the word no with I don’t love you. They are completely different things. Saying yes means that it will bring you joy to do this thing. [...]
Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
There is a lot of talk about love at this time of year. It’s a subject this culture really doesn’t understand; many people believe that as long as they love their partner, it’ll be a good relationship. Life is not so simple. Experiencing deep love is a glorious thing–and it’s important to realize that compatibility and [...]
Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
Since it’s Thanksgiving, it seems appropriate to suggest that we all give thanks to our bodies. That’s actually something I recommend on a daily basis. Most of us take our bodies for granted, frequently forcing them to do all kinds of things that they really don’t want to do, running around all day long instead [...]
Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart
My name is Mikaya Heart. I’m delighted to say that Dangerous Lee has selected me to write a regular column on sex and relationships on this website. Here are some things to know about me, so you know you can look forward to a thought-provoking, down-to-earth, and inspirational column: I am an award-winning author and [...]
