“Keep Your Panties up and Your Skirt Down” is a straightforward, direct, informative, and naughty book that remains committed to its purpose. The message, “safe sex every time, all the time,” comes through loud and clear. With honesty and humor, Dangerous Lee busts common myths and supplies much-needed facts about AIDS and HIV. She also discloses her own story about testing positive for a curable STD, offering encouragement for anyone else in the same situation. If you don’t wince at explicit language you’ll appreciate this risque read that makes its point without being preachy.
I’m not sure when or how it happened, but I am addicted to chicken wings! I have always been partial to dark meat, legs and thighs, and I avoided wings like the plague, but in 2011 chicken wings are the only part of the bird I consume.
In January, while in California, I had chicken wings at Hooters for the first time. I think this is what sparked the addiction. After I got home when I had my moms chicken wings and noodle soup, that sealed the deal! I have eaten my moms chicken wings and noodle soup countless times, but this time the wings seemed to satisfy me in a way that they never have before.
I’m not sure why I have shunned the chicken wing in the past. Maybe it’s the retarded (yea, I used that word) part of the wing that you can’t eat that I found unappealing, or maybe because I have given up eating so much red meat and pork that chicken wings are an acceptable substitute.
In fact, I cooked chicken wings twice this week! I need more recipes folks, what are some other tasty ways to prepare chicken wings other than fried with hot sauce drizzled over them?
“You’re just wonderful, a Satanic Marilyn Monroe for the new age!”
– Act of Dog
This quote comes from a Gothic person and it was meant as a compliment, so I will take it as that. It’s something that I’ve never been told before, so when I first read it I was taken aback a bit. Furthermore, I thought Marilyn Manson already held this title. Being compared to Satan is never cool, in my opinion, but again I had to consider the source and I can be a lil’ devilish 😉
Dangerous Lee’s “Keep Your Panties Up and Your Skirt Down” is a serious REAL TALK novel about sex millennium style! This is a very unusual novel that entails short tales about practicing safe sex. My favorite tale is ‘Safe Sex Kit,’ which involved two smart lovers and their incredible little sexual escapade. I found this novel very educational and is definitely a must read for all sexually active readers. I would have liked more facts about HIV/AIDS, true stories from HIV/AIDS infected people, and more graphic photographs about the importance of this disease. Overall, I still enjoyed the short stories and will continue to look for more from Dangerous Lee in the future.
Estimated reading time: 5 minutes, 7 seconds. Contains 1024 words
This is a three part series about colorism.
Take a look at my friend, Katie Burrell:
Is Katie Black? Is Katie White? Is she both?
Katie’s ethnic background will be revealed at a later date, but carefully look at her face, study her features and skin tone because she is my poster child for this series. More pictures of Katie will be shown later.
-Your daughter is beautiful! She looks nothing like you. (Yes, in the same breath.)
-She must look just like her daddy.
-Is that your daughter?
-Is your daughter Mexican?
Over the past eight years the above quotes have all been said to or asked of me because of my daughter. I am a Black woman and I have a child by a White man. Those words once bothered me when my daughter was a baby, but I am used to it now and I respond accordingly with a healthy amount of venom in my tone.
When I found out I was carrying a baby by a White man I wasn’t happy. There is a long story behind this that will be shared with you in my memoirs one day, but one of the reasons is the fact that I knew I was going to have to deal with all these insulting questions and statements. And, the staring…oh gawd, people could win staring contests when they see a dark skinned Black woman with a child that appears White or is more than a few shades lighter.
I also worried that I would not know how to or be able to deal with raising a biracial child. It may seem ridiculous to you, but I really thought about what type of things I would have to teach her about her background and how to deal with people liking or disliking her because of things like her skin tone or her hair texture. I also worried that she would be different than me and that she would catch hell because of it.
I was right and I was wrong. I’m her mother. She has my DNA. I am raising her and I deal with any issues that may occur quite well. If she had come out half of whatever the hell Yoda is from Star Wars I would still love her lil’ brownish-green ass to death.
Ethnicity and color are not issues for me. They never have been. I love everyone and I dislike everyone. My feelings are equal opportunity. I won’t love you just because you’re Black and I won’t hate you just because you’re White. Like someone once said – “Just because you’re my color, it doesn’t mean you’re my kind.” Truer words have never been spoken.
For some odd and stupid ass reason many of us continue to be color struck. I really think most of us are ignorant or at the very least forgetful. Black people who look White is not a new phenomenon. Back in the day Black folks who appeared more White than Black “passed” all the time. Hell, some people are still passing today. There are some people that could pass but don’t like actress, Jennifer Beals, and my man, actor, Wentworth Miller.
Would you have guessed that Wentworth Miller has a parent with Black heritage? Well, he does! Wikipedia says: his father is of African-American, Jamaican, English, German, Jewish, and Cherokee background, and his mother is of Russian, French, Dutch, Lebanese, and Syrian ancestry. I first laid eyes on Wentworth in the filmThe Human Stain. The film is about a man who passes for Jewish, but is really Black. If you haven’t seen it, check it out. It’s a good flick! Anthony Hopkins plays Wentworth’s role as an older man. We all know Anthony Hopkins is not Black in any way, shape, or form (that we know of), but I’m sure he was cast in the role to make a valid point, not all Black people appear “Black”.
Anyway, back to Wentworth; I fell in love as soon as I saw him on the screen. He is a beautiful man. I saw The Human Stain around the same time Prison Breakstarted on the FOX network, so I became a groupie and began watching it every week thereafter. Wentworth has also appeared in two Mariah Carey videos, It’s Like That and We Belong Together.
Some of you who know me are laughing and probably saying,”Yea, she likes ’em light, bright, and damn near White.” True, I do tend to go gaga more for light skinned men or mixed dudes. I guess I like the best of both worlds. Sue me! When Black and White come together it creates something beautiful. That’s not to say that when anyone else comes together that it’s ugly, so don’t go there, but I like what I like! There are no self hating reasons for it and I love chocolate brothas too. I like men! Period.
I can’t find one to make my boyfriend, but that’s another story.
Again, back to Wentworth, I was sprung after seeing him in The Human Stain, but when I read an interview where he explained that he only portrays a White man for TV, I fell in love. Why? Because he had the nerve, courage and pride to reveal who he is despite the fact that he does not typically fit what most people perceive as a person of color.
-They look nothing like him or any of the other Jackson kids.
-Those kids are White.
-White never trumps Black. Never!
-Why is he trying to pass these White kids off as his children?
These are just a few of the ridiculous things I have heard aimed at Michael and his children. These comments upset me and I take them personally because as you have already read, I get some of the same ignorant reactions because of my daughter.
In the next part of the series I will get deeper into Michael’s children and the issues many people have when Black and White DNA come together to create a child that appears only White.
In the meantime, let’s get back to Katie. Answer this poll:
Why am posting a negative review of my short story “Elderly and Edible”? You have to be able to take the good with the bad. Terrance gave his honest opinion of the story and that’s what I wanted and needed to hear. I respect that. It forces me to take a closer look at my work before it is revealed to the public. I like that!
Sure, not everyone digs short stories, even Oprah stated that she usually does not recommend books of short stories because it seems like something is always missing and you’re left hanging at the end. Recently Oprah found a book of short stories that did not leave her hanging and she made it her book club choice.
I purposely wanted to leave people hanging with this particular story so that you’re forced to think. However, when it comes to character and story development I want you to know what they’re about.
Thanks for the tough love, Terrance. It will help in the end.
Hey Ms. Dangerous Lee,
I have read your short and honestly I don’t feel I can give a positive review for it. I feel it’s a powerful tale and one that needs to be told, but it fell short for me.
The eight pages were extremely short, and the story for me was not developed. I think a lot more back story needs to be told, as well as the developing of their relationship, along with his relationship with the young girl. I didn’t connect with the characters, thus I couldn’t feel anything about their situation or issue.
Perhaps you should get someone else to read and review it for you. Sorry about this.