What Men Want From Intimacy


By Dr. Jeff Davis

Have you ever wondered what a man looks for when it comes to intimacy? Contrary to popular belief, intimacy to a man is much more than sex.

One way to view the word intimacy is to look at it as “into-me-see”. This is where someone gets so close to you that you can see inside of them. You get to see the real person and not the one that is displayed to the world.

It is very hard for men to develop intimate relationships. Women tend to be much more relational and can enter into intimate relationships as long as there are emotional connections. But men have learned how to disconnect their feelings from what they want. A man may walk away from a good woman if he feels like she is not being intimate with him.

Let me share some keys to intimacy when it comes to a man;

1) Men want to connect on a physical level (not sexual) – yes, men want to meet with women and find something physical they can connect with. I remember when I was dating my wife that I was in love with basketball and watched many games on TV. She didn’t understand the game but sat down and watched it with me. Then over time she would come and sit and ask questions. Over time she learned the game and watching basketball became one of our pastime pleasures. When the playoffs came she could sit in a room with me and my friends and hold her on in a sports conversation. My friends said their significant others refused to do that. I ended up in a 30 year relationship.

2) Men want to connect on a sexual level – sex is very important to a man. They are looking for a partner who understands his needs and is responsive to meeting them. The only thing worse than no sex is bad sex (sexual relations with a woman who is non responsive and non participatory). When a man feels like a woman is giving her whole self to him he finds it to be a most intimate experience.

3) Men cannot connect to every woman intimately – there must be connection for a man to find intimacy with a woman. Just because she is a female doesn’t mean he can connect with her. He must find someone who he can come close to and be comfortable while doing it.

Men are strange beings indeed.

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3 thoughts on “What Men Want From Intimacy

  1. Pingback: 11 Ways To Deepen Your Intimacy. | World No.1 Sex Education Hub. | Sex & Romance | Sex Education | STD's | Abuse & Violence | Relationship | Sexual Health | Birth Control

  2. I find this true, especially the first point on finding common ground.
    A man is most likely to be attracted to you if you show interest in something he does.
    Great post!

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