Top Story – 4 Dating Tips For Men: How To Avoid Date Rape Accusations


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Women are always told to be careful with how they act towards men they barely know. They are taught not to act in any way that might invite unwanted advances and to dress appropriately to avoid being harassed. It is a fact that society tends to believe that the best way to avoid date rape cases is for women to learn how to protect themselves. Although this is a very sound and practical advice, it is also equally important for men to understand that they have the power to prevent these horrible situations.

As a man who frequently goes out on a date or if you are preparing to go out with the hottest girl you’ve met, you need to learn a few tips for a successful date night. This basic guideline will not only help you get the girl of your dreams but also help you avoid false date rape accusations.

Accept The Fact That You Are A Potential Rapist

This may seem like an incoherent idea because you are a good guy. You are not stalking the woman you love and you are not planning to jump on anyone forcing her to have sex; however, you need to understand that most sexual assault occur in situations where the perpetrator doesn’t believe that what he is doing is rape.

For instance, you may think that you are being daring and rakish when you lean in for a kiss, but the woman may feel that you are forcing yourself on her and be scared. You may feel like a rake saying, “how about a kiss?” as you place your hand on either side of her face, but she might think that you are preventing her from leaving. Your intentions wouldn’t count too much in court in comparison to how she felt about it.

Don’t Drink Too Much

When you are out on a date, you must be careful with how much you drink. Alcohol can impair your decision making abilities. In fact, alcohol can shut off the part of your brain that can process the possible consequences of certain actions. This means that when you are drunk, you might not even remember what you were doing the night before. It doesn’t matter how bad you feel the next day, or what your intentions were. With that said, you must be smart about your alcohol intake because you still want to be in control of yourself. Remember also not to get your lady friend drunk and don’t put anything in her drink. Be smarter than that.

Get A Clear “YES”

If you want to kiss a girl or make any kind of move, don’t be afraid to ask. Your lady friend won’t look down on you for doing so. In fact, ladies prefer men who are respectful and courteous.

When you ask, a girl can answer in one of two ways: “yes” and “no”. If she tells you “maybe”, “I guess”, “I don’t know”- all these means “no”. As a man, you must always assume that if she gives you an answer other than clear consent, you need to stop. The worst that could happen is you miss out on a chance of getting together. Should you decide to push the issue, you might find yourself behind bars.

When Consent Is Withdrawn, Accept It In Good Nature

Even if your lady friend has given her clear consent, you must stop if she withdraws it at any point. You need to remember that the girl has the right to change her mind. With that said, be ready, able, and willing to stop. In addition, you must also be observant and sensitive. If you feel that she suddenly becomes uncomfortable with you, ask her again if she’s okay with what you’re doing. Assure her that it is okay to stop.

Author Byline:

Kris Hopkins is a blogger who offers dating advice for men and women. In this article, she lists a few dating tips for men to avoid date rape accusations. She also advises her readers to go to Livesay & Myers if they are in need of any legal assistance.

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One thought on “Top Story – 4 Dating Tips For Men: How To Avoid Date Rape Accusations

  1. This is SO fantastic! Thanks for writing it – it’s very easy to read, easy to relate to and clearly defines and negates what some people think of as “blurred lines” when it comes to consent and rape. I applaud you!

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