So you’ve just landed yourself a hot date with someone you’ve had your eye on for a while! Cue the celebration music and the victory dance! When you’re done celebrating, let it sink in. You’re going on a date. With someone you’re into. What if you mess up? What if you say something embarrassing? What if you have spinach stuck in your teeth all night?
A date can be nerve-wracking. It’s your chance to woo your date and show him/her that you’re all that and a bag of chips, and there’s little room for error. You understand that no one is perfect, but you want to come off as perfect to your date, gosh darn it! It’s perfectly normal to get the jitters before a big date, and it’s also perfectly possible to calm your jitters before your dates comes a-knockin’.
Just take a look at the following 6 confidence-building exercises you can do before the big day.
When you are nervous, breathe until you calm down. The calmer you are, the more confident you will feel and appear. The way you breathe has powerful psychological effects on your brain. When you breathe properly, your brain gets enough oxygen to function properly. Breathing too shallowly deprives your brain of oxygen and makes you feel anxious and confused. So… just breathe.
Recite that “youer than you” Dr. Suess quote over and over again until you believe it.
You know, the one that goes: “Today, you are you. That is truer that true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.” If you have a few insecurities, always remember that people who don’t accept your flaws aren’t worth your time at all. You are you, and if your date doesn’t appreciate that, it’s his/her loss!
Do you have an uncanning ability to make people laugh? Did you just achieve something great at school or work? Did you finally finish something you’ve worked on for a long time? Do you look like a goddess today? Look yourself in the eye (in the mirror) and deliver your best compliment to yourself. This is one of the best confidence-building exercises you could ever do, not just before a date, but on a daily basis. Point out all the great things you’ve done and tell yourself that you’re amazing for accomplishing all those things. The more you do this, the less inclined you will feel to seek approval from others.
Correct your posture.
Did you know that forcing a fake smile will make you feel happier? Even if smiling is the last thing you want to do, simply smiling will decrease stress, anxiety, and ill feelings. The same goes for your posture. If you’re feeling nervous or unconfident about yourself, simply lift your head, straighten your back, and look straight forward. You’ll feel more confident in no time!
Put on a killer outfit.
It’s been shown that simply looking good immediately boosts your confidence. So take your sexiest and most flattering outfit out of the closet and throw it on! Also tease up your hair into a cute style, put on flawless makeup, slap on jewelry, look at yourself in the mirror, and be prepared to say, “wowzee!”
Express gratitude for the things you already have.
When you’re focusing on the things you don’t have, you’re ignoring the things you already have. Mentally list everything you have to be grateful for – your home, your family, your friends, past successes, and yourself. This helps you remember all the great things going on in your life, and you’ll end up feeling less jittery.
Most of all, remember that you’re amazing, and your date is lucky to spend time with you. It’s because you’re all that and a bag of chips!
About the author: This is a guest post by Anita, who is a professional writer for Higherclick.com, currently writing on behalf of Macys.com. In her free-time she enjoys reading a good book, and of course: blogging.