Top Story – Moving Back In With Parents: Shameful Or Unavoidable?


In these difficult financial times, people of all walks of life are finding that they have to make unforeseen and unwelcome adjustments to their day-to-day lives. Issues with personal finance and unemployment are the most widespread, but many probably never expected that the fallout might see them living back at home with their parents. This group of society has become so large that it has earned its own name: “The Boomerang Generation.”

It’s easy to understand why slinking back to the family home, tail between legs, could be seen as humiliating. The transition into adulthood has always been associated with independence – moving away, building your own life and establishing your individuality – with grown women and men still living with their mums and dads looked upon as something of an oddity.

However, the person hanging their clothes back into their childhood wardrobe can at least take comfort in the fact that they are far from alone. A study published by the Office of National Statistics in 2011 found a 20% rise in 20-34 year olds living with their parents since 1997. With unemployment still high, wages failing to keep up with an ever-increasing cost of living and post-university debts greater than ever, it is small wonder. The blow to a person’s self-esteem for having ‘failed’ and returned to the nest might be lessened in knowing that three million other British adults are in a similar position.

The initial transition can be a difficult one for all concerned. Just as sons and daughters may not have been prepared for this turn of events, it can be equally as jarring for their parents. Having the house to themselves after years of raising kids is a great change, and so is having them moving back in. The adjustment to living with these people who have become adults but are still also their children can often lead to frayed tempers on both sides.

Concerned prying that was acceptable in teenage years may be far less so when a son or daughter is grown up. At the same time, a child has to be more thoughtful and considerate under their parents’ roof – there is no excuse for forgetting birthday or Mother’s Day gifts when the person concerned is sleeping in an adjacent room!

Moving back in with your parents can be a challenge, and might also be considered embarrassing, but feeling ashamed about the experience is likely to be counterproductive. It has become a fact of life for millions and is unlikely to abate in the current climate. Accepting the reality of the situation and moving back in with mum and dad could turn out to be the most mature decision an adult can make.

This is a guest post by Elly, who has a passion for writing about Fashion, Beauty & Lifestyle across the world. She also tweets regularly on the latest updates in the fashion and retail industry, which can be found here (@Russell_Elly).

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