Fortunate enough to be dating a nurse? If so, that partner could really be a keeper. If there is any chance of taking this relationship all the way to the altar, pull out all of the stops. A nurse, male or female, is one of the best partners one could choose while traveling through life. A marriage with a nurse is like winning the jackpot at the lottery, a pay out that will continue through the years and have more benefits than money ever could buy. Here are five reasons to say “I do.”
Talk about compassion.
A good heart is at the root of nursing. No one goes into the field simply for the money. Long hours, sacrifice, and the pain and suffering of others come with the job. Dedicating one’s life to the care of others means having a level of compassion that goes beyond the norm. Nurses have a strong desire to help people, to comfort, heal the sick, and provide essential aid. Imagine having that in a sidekick.
You will be in good hands.
A nurse has magic in his or her touch. After years of education, what skills a nurse must have at his or her disposal. Nurses have the main goal to join forces with others in the healthcare field with the motto, “Do no harm.” They know how to handle with care. The same could hold true when it comes to hearts.
Health will be a top priority.
Nurses know all the ins and outs of taking care of the body. They are more likely to live a healthy lifestyle and promote it for their families. Eating well and getting exercise, while avoiding bad habits, will be easier with a nurse at the helm. Nurses are great at tackling a cold! Also, if there are any warning signs of a major problem on the horizon, a nurse will have the knowledge to nip it in the bud or get the appropriate help.
A nurse knows how to listen well.
It is part of a nurse’s job to be an excellent listener. A nurse needs to hear what a patient says, pay attention to symptoms, and look for any signs of discomfort. These are wonderful skills to cultivate in a relationship. Most people will say that the ability to listen is one of the keys to a successful marriage.
A nurse will be able to handle the rocky road of life.
Everyone knows that life is not a bed of roses. The happy, golden times are wonderful. However, there will be dark times in every life as well. A nurse will have the resources to ride out the storm. It doesn’t hurt that nurses also make a substantial living, have to be hard-working to be successful, and can go anywhere the wind blows to find work. If circumstances in life require a move, a nurse has many options available. When stressful situations arise, nurses are good at carrying on without becoming frazzled. The little troubles in life will not become a big stumbling block in a relationship with a nurse. Nurses deal with life and death. The relatively calm atmosphere at home will be a blessing. Choosing a nurse will mean having a strong, stable foundation for a marriage.
Author Bio: Denise Douglas is a family practice nurse and guest author at Top Nursing Schools, a site with ratings and reviews of online nursing degree programs.
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Clearly this is not about ER nurses!! Jesus!!! Compassionate! Haha who the hell are you kidding!? Patients treat nurses like shit!!! Being a nurse sucks! It’s the most thankless job at times! I put in OT and no one notices… I save a life and its expected… No thank you’d… No good job… Just another day in the job! Who ever wrote this was high!
CRAP!! I AM A NURSE AND CAN TELL YOU, WHILE THERE ARE MANY GREAT, CARING AND COMPASSIONATE, MANY ARE NOT — many that do it “just for the check” because they obviously don’t give a damn about their patients. MS JANE DOUGH MISERABLE TEACHER LADY: WE DON’T GET PAID NEARLY ENOUGH AND NOT NEARLY AS much as you, apparently, think we do. BUT I WILL AGREE, TEACHERS DO NOT EITHER!!!
Compassion? Marry a teacher. Unpaid, but still do it. Nothing like working after work. Nurses get paid to do this crap. Gets paid well, too. That’s why they’re throwing long hours in this shit.
LOL…I am a nurse and this stuff isn’t true. We may be required to be excellent listeners but that doesn’t mean we listen well. We don’t even have time to listen to all our patients’ problems. “Health will be a top priority” HAHAHA A lot of nurses are smokers, eat unhealthy foods, and go out often with other nurses for some “drinks”. I could go on and on. There are benefits to marrying a nurse but trust me, it’s not comparable to winning the lottery. I’d rather win the lottery.
A cute read, although my spouse would probably not agree with three of the five points. The fact is, nurses are as diverse and as varied in values as anyone else. Like so many careers in this world, not everyone could or should do it. Good nurses and good doctors recognize that the two professions accentuate the other. Nothing benefits a patient more than a smart nurse and a smart doctor who work together.
im proud being a male nurse.dating an accountant.she is lucky coz,i will hundle her with dignity as i hundle icu patients.this aplliea to other professionals but more evident in nursing.
Soo true
I read this to my wife (an R.N) a few minutes ago. She still can’t stop laughing!
Not everyone goes into the nursing field b/c of their passion for caring, alot did it for the reliable job and paycheck alone. Think on that. It’s a diverse field, which means it attracts diverse personalities, I don’t believe you can summarize them in an alike category. I personally feel sorry for anyone that asks their significant other “nurse” for a glass of water after work, b/c she/he will feel like throwing it at them after a 12hr shift of taking care of sick whiney fussy patients and pompous doctors. The nurse may just want silence, to get their feet up, and stare at the wall happily after most shifts. There’s no compassion left at the end of the day, that’s when it’s the nurse’s turn to be waited on and have their cup filled back up. Just food for thought…
Very interesting
excellent!
I read this article and was entertained by it. I am currently dating a male nurse (I am a female physician) and I think that it’s just my guys personality that clicked with mine and it’s not because of his personality. I, personally, have a lot of respect for nurses(my mother, sister and brother are RN’s) and I have a lot of close friends who are nurses. I have dated a male doctor too and that literally bombed (but I think it was because of our personalities(I’d like to think he had a problem) that just didn’t work well together). Anyway, article was entertaining, comments were even more entertaining because I don’t remember reading anything about doctors in the article but for some reason people are comparing nurses patient care to doctors.
All I know, regardless if you’re a nurse or a doctor, treat your patient as if they were your mother, father, brother, sister. That’s how I did it throughout med school and that’s how my boyfriend treats his patients too. You should not just have “sympathy” for your patients, but having empathy is even better. Because you’re putting yourself in their shoes. And I believe that in a relatioship, if you want it to work, you don’t find ways to prove who is right or wrong, you find ways to “make it work”.
Nurses rule, doctors rule… We’re a team! Doctors don’t have eight arms to be able to attend to a patient alone and neither does a nurse. A team… Just like in a relationship, you’ve gotta be a team to work and to last.
DocMcDuck? Seriously? You need to get over yourself. We aren’t talking about the days before Florence Nightengale, and I highly doubt you could teach a classroom full of nursing students two years worth of nursing knowledge when you’re not even a part of the profession. Lastly, what the hell types of nurses do you know, who don’t understand the definition of a fever or the process involved in one? I cry bullshit. Stop trolling around on nursing articles seeking praise for what you do by trashing what nurses do. It comes across as rather pathetic, really. While the article was meant to be light-hearted and fun, I as a nurse was quick to roll my eyes and groan out-loud at the nonsense of it all, believe that. But wow, this entire string of comments has been incredibly disheartening to read. How little we apparently think of each other in the nursing profession. How little the doctors we work side-by-side with, respect anything we do….just real damn sad if you ask me.
You know who would make an even better wife? A female physician.
For all the respondents on this blog that have put down physicians for not having the same skills as nurses: Who do you think taught those skills to nurses in the first place? I’m talking before Florence Nightengale, in the days when doctors were on their own. Wikipedia it.
And as for compassion, female physicians are brimming with it. I guarantee you that every single female physician on this planet has spent more nights than she’d like to remember crying over a patient she couldn’t help.
Long haul? Shit, we’ve been in school for over 20 years (and I’m talking community college and online “school”). We don’t give up on anything. And we know how to multitask like you would not believe. That’ll probably come in handy while, say, making and raising a family.
Keeping you healthy? Most nurses I know don’t even know the definition of a fever. Or the function of a fever. Do you know how many books I’ve read on just fevers alone? I’ll keep you healthy.
Now, don’t get me wrong, there are more bitches in the profession than I’d like to admit to, and don’t even get me started on the plethora of asshole male docs we all have to put up with on a daily basis, but the majority of us are pretty damned concerned about our patients and are willing to give 110% to make sure they’re ok. And I’ve met some pretty damned amazing nurses along my way. But I’ve also seen even more morbidly obese, smoking, lazy, rude, selfish, and unreliable nurses too.
Like I said, we’ve given over 20 years of our lives and made sacrifices that you would not believe to learn how to do this… We sure aren’t doing it for our health.
Wow its amazing how negative people on these posts can be. I have been a CNA ie nursing assistant for the last 14 years and I still care and want to further my education. I know many more caring nurses than anyone could ever fathem. I have met nurses who are burnt out but not because they dont care but because they are under staffed, dont get breaks because oh my goodness they have a patient who needs them and co-workers who rely on them and ps they dont put their needs before yours as the patient. They listen and are under appreciated by Patients and employers. Just 10 years ago nursing was more bedside care your nurses could spend more time with you but because of LAWSUITS by unhappy patients who dont realize what we have actually done for you, the way goverment ie medicare and medical regulates the care u recieve is now 10% beside care and more charting. Nurses do care thats why we give up our breaks lunches and yes even our bathroom breaks. People need to see both sides before passing judgement. Nurses are now overweight because we eat whatever we can throw in the microwave and heat up for 30 seconds and eat in less than a minute we drink way to much caffeine so we can run the patient that is on lasix to the bathroom 50 times throughout our 12hr shift. I have been the patient and the mother of a patient I have seen and experienced bothsides. Noone is perfect we have bad days and we are human. Remember that the next time you say nurses dont care!!!
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SO many narcissistic, egotistical, self-centred responders to this “article”. Like any one of us, there are good, bad and ugly but for goodness sake you would expect that the person (nurse) taking care of you when you have been hit by a car, fallen over in a drunken stupor, lost your beloved mother after surgery on Ward 3 etc. and YES, those nurses are the link and key to your well-being. Perhaps it is the demanding, rude, ignorant, self-centred patients we should be denigrating.
I think many of us can disagree with this article but I think it just comes down to the fact that Denise Douglas just wanted to “toot her own horn,” so to say. Apparently, nurses are also humble…
I myself is a nurse I enjoyed nursing every minute of it from home to hospital and anywhere,however I witnessed some nurses that don’t possessed the real,ideal world of nursing,yah some just for the sake of money and socialisation,when it comes to emergencies saving their lives,some of them has no presence of mind,systematic thinking, and most of all don’t know what to do…nursing is not a routine job…it’s entails your common sense,dedication,efficiency,practicality and most of all how to know the meaning of life threatening as a priority,So frustrating most of the time to work with these nurses,I must admit the bad stigma of NHS about care and management is partly true.!and these health care professionals can get away with murder..GOD BLESS THE PATIENTS…
Working in a hospital 35 years, 28 in the e.r. I hate effin people. Society sucks!
A lot of nurses I work are lazy and overweight. Not to be harsh. Not all nurses are all that. And most nurses that I encountered in the hospital are not very nice. Let alone be a good listener. Sorry
Nurses are great lays!
My my my my my!!!! Phew weeee! Some serious attitude on this article. I was a nurse for 10 years. I have seen good and bad nursing standards. Unfortunately, a lot of nurses get burnt out and they are the ones that need to get out of the profession. I do believe a lot of what has been said here is correct. Nurses are not angels and I personally found the career quite bitchy myself. There is a lot of rivalry and one up man ship going on, which upset me greatly. I know I nursed to the best of my ability and I am pleased that I helped so many people but I am also glad I got out.
More recently, I have been a patient and I was very saddened by some of the nurses who looked after me. I was shocked at their practice behaviour, it certainly was not how I ever behaved. I don’t really think you can teach nursing, it either comes deeply from the love of your soul or you are in it for the wrong reasons.
Maybe one day…I will return to nursing, as I do miss it, but one needs to be very well themselves to be a very effective nurse. My advice is have a break, when you are feeling it’s all too much because having been on both sides, it is screamingly obvious to me, those that just should not be doing the job.
I am not sure nurses make the best partners…there are other professions which require as much compassion and dedication. I think I would rather be with a vet
My ex was a psychiatric nurse and he had such a huge ego and was a seriously damaged individual. He dumped me by text…hmm, very compassionate! Suprised I didn’t end up one of his patients, after his treatment of me. He was impatient, a complete control freak and thought he was god’s gift. Bless him though for apologising 3 months later!!
May God unvail more insight to others through you! Kudos to Nurses, how I wish I was one.
Well put, and 100+ %
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Scroll down, then calm down. There’s a more “professional” image a lil’ further down in the article. Can’t you see it?! By the way, who says the chick in the first image IS a whore? Judgmental much???
Please come up with a more respectful picture. Nurses are not whores and are professionals. Passing this picture along does not reflect us as professionals and is insulting…just sayin
I can only speak from personal experience… The moment I knew I wanted to be a nurse was the day my father died. The nurse that informed my mother of my father’s death seemed very cold and curt. At the time I was 16 and thought where’s the compassion? I can be better than that. I’ve now been an R.N. for almost 25 years. First starting out in Med-Surg for 5 years and Maternity for nearly 20 years. During those first years of my career, I’ve held quite a few hands of patients taking their last breaths. Times when their exhausted family had gone home, to get a few hours of sleep or a shower, after many hours of vigil. Stroking an arm, talking soft words, medicating, washing, giving comfort the best I could. Being respectful and compassionate to the patient even after death. The way I would want someone to treat my family.
To be present in those moments when someone leaves this world is precious. And to be present when someone enters is even more precious. Now when the exhausted family needs to get a few hours sleep or a shower, I’m still stroking an arm, talking soft words, medicating, washing, giving comfort the best I can. I take pride in how I care for my patients, like I would my own family. There’s been days I’ve shed tears of joy and heartache. But, I’m not perfect. I wish I was. I reflect back on many a time when… I could have been better than that.
Nurses are caring, compassionate and listen to people all day at work. Why the hell would we want to go home to a man (or woman) who requires this from us after a long day?
Everyone does the job for different reasons. I personally don’t agree with this article for the most part. My EX wife is a nurse and she’s the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of every description. She is egotistical, vengeful, bitchy and just generally a horrible person. She does the job for the glory of saying she helps people, to brag about herself and her accomplishments and get pity for the heartache of her job. She does it for the money and attention, but cares little about the patients.
On the other hand, my girlfriend who is currently in nursing school, is ALL of those things you described. Accept maybe one. The job of a nurse is so hair raising and stressful that it seems, from my personal experience, that they sometimes take those stresses out at home. Which is natural and expected, to a point, but frustrating at times. But lucky for me I found the right one this time, or should I say…she found me. She’s definitely a keeper!
Bless all of you nurses for what you do, its a tough job!!
I am a nurse and i married a nurse so i guess our marriage is going to be a long and successful one lol
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I’m currently a student nurse and I have already seen a wide range of nurses that I have worked with. One of the first ones I was with was awesome. She was extremely nice and able to coax a patient into doing something they were initially hesitant to do. Her knowledge and skills were also top notch. On the flip side, I have seen nurses that made me feel embarrassed for how they were handling a particular situation and made me be more conscious of what I was saying or doing. Its made me way more introspective about what I am saying or doing.
My classmates also tend to fall into these 2 large groupings. Nurses who are in it for the interesting job and an interest in caring for patients and being a part of a team that helps each other, and those who seem more interested in it for the ability to call themselves an RN. And of course most of the people are a mix of the two categories. So far it has been an interesting ride and I have learned a lot, not only in terms of how to be a good nurse and the academic side of things, but also how to work with other nurses and learn from them, both from their good behaviors and bad.
Wow. So many of these comments are negative, and that’s sad. But I would have to agree that the majority of nurses-for the vast majority of their careers-are genuine people. That’s not to say that some of them come off as bitchy or stuck up in the beginning, or don’t end up as arrogant and mean in the end. But think about what they do every day. They go to a job that requires you to be peed on, puked on, pooped on, bled on, and yelled at every day by patients. They see a lot of bad mixed in with a lot of good. They watch not only patients, but family members that are hurt and confused and unsure of what will happen to them or their loved one. And it takes a special kind of person to be able to go to work facing that kind of human emotion every day. And I apologize if this comes off as arrogant, but I think it takes a pretty damn confident person to be able to do that every day. And I think that people who work their asses off to get a degree in nursing and care for people like that every day are entitled to be proud of themselves. Nursing majors are largely known to be some of the busiest undergraduates out there. Nursing schools are competitive and only accept so many applicants per semester. You’ve got to be smart, and you’ve got to think critically. You can’t just understand a concept or spit back information. You have to be analytical and critical to be seen as baseline competent to pass your boards. You have to dedicate time not only to study, but to pre-plan for clinicals, to get up and actually work 8 hour shifts at the hospital-and NOT be payed for it, but rather pay to be there. It’s rough. So if you know a college student that’s in nursing school and you think they’re cocky- or you know a nurse that thinks they’re the shit because of what they do-don’t be mad at them. Try to put yourself in their shoes. I thought the same thing for a whlie. And then I went to nursing school. I am a male nurse who has been in the profession for over 5 years now and having been on both sides of the fence, they were right. I’m a nurse and I’m damn proud of it.
Hiperlitegreen: You can’t really fairly compare nurses and doctors when it comes to duties and job responsibilities. Doctors go to school to learn how to diagnose and treat patients. Nurses go to school to learn all the technical stuff you said (IVs, medications, CPR, etc). When you jump all over doctors for not having the skills or knowldege to respond to codes, etc, bear in mind that a nurse likewise would not be able to diagnose a patient or create a treatment plan for that patient. It’s not that one job is necessarily more demanding or glamorous than the other, it’s just different skill sets. It’s like being a carpenter and getting all mad at an electrician for not being able to build a bench. It’s a waste of time and doesn’t make sense.
Obviously a quirkly little article written by a nurse or someone close to one… Some of the nicest people I have ever met are nurses and some of the most self absorbed and damaged people I have ever encountered are also nurses. You can’t make a blanket statement about any group of people based on their job alone.
After 23 years as a nurse, yes, I have run across all types of losers. But for the most part, nurses are kind, compassionate, and giving. You cannot last in bedside nursing as an uncompassionate individual, and usually, the compassionate nurses will weed out the “bad eggs”. Also, sadly, there are some nurses that will become drug addicted, but, it doesn’t take long before those are also weeded out. Most of us are in this profession because we love it. The ability to help others, to make a difference, to alleviate pain and suffering fulfills us better than any drug or alcohol could ever do. Are we unsympathetic towards minor illnesses? We can be, especially if there is a young mother in the next room that we know will not survive while her children are clinging to her, begging her to wake up, and you have an ingrown toenail and are demanding morphine, crying like a fool, and cussing us out for not getting your morphine quickly enough. Can we seem cold and uncaring when we make you get up out of bed and you don’t feel like it? Yes, because we know that the sooner you get up and moving, the quicker you will recover, so we have to come across as a little “bitchy” to get you to do what we know you need to do in order to recover. We know that for every 1 day you spend lying in bed, it will take you 3 days to recover. So, the next time you run across a bitchy nurse, stop and put yourself in her shoes.
Shipwrecked, I apologize. You are right. All Doctors are Gods. I forgot where my place was.
makes life more interesting!!!
Wow I can’t believe how negative a lot of these comments are. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
I took the article as “For Entertainment Only” – and to rub in my fiance’s face!
Nurses come in all personalities . Some nurses are very compassionate. Some want a paycheck – some are overweight and unhealthy- some are big smokers- some could give a rats behind about the health of their spouse. some nurses are extremely lazy! Some live in filth…..think they care about washing their hands. Been there, seen it all. They are just like the rest if the human race. Just as any other occupation….you can only hope that you get one of the good ones
So true regarding nursing! We are pulled in different directions at the same time and always manage to complete all tasks necessary to deliver adequate and quality care!
the responses to this are better than the article! i love my job most days, and hate it others, as does (if they are lucky) everyone. relax people. there is no nurse competition. we all do it for our own reasons, and hopefully, we all find satisfaction from it in our own way. as for being anything better than human, well, we all have our vices. but, if you go to work, do a good job, make people healthier than when they met you, happier than when they came to meet you – go you! its not easy but its gratifying. and really, when you were a baby and your parents had their newborn dreams for you – didn’t they just want you to self sufficient and contribute positively to society? and as a nurse you have done that. and then some. positive thinking people! lighten up for pete’s sake.
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I am a nurse. I believe nurses come in all shapes and sizes (personalities included). I think nurses are as capable of screwing up as anyone else on earth. Nurses do endure some interesting things in their careers and yes, depending on how each pursues his or her career, it can be incredibly financially rewarding… but long hours of school and experience come first to get to that point. Does that make us loveable and infalliable… absolutely not. It makes us as human as anyone else in a career that has a ladder you climb to get to the top. We all have opinions of who someone is or what a career makes someone, but let me assure you, it’s not our careers who make us who we are (any of us); what makes us who we are is what we individuals choose to be. And because we are human and we are incapable of perfection, then we will all make mistakes, we will behave poorly, and we will all shine and do good things. Someone on here said something about not having a God complex…. I think if we all had a little more of a godly complextion, this conversation wouldn’t be had. :0)
I must be one of the few that totally love my chosen career path as a critical care RN/ACNP-BC. I’ve spent many years working in ICU’s/ED, along with Palliative Care/hospice–never once regretting what I do….. I have had plenty of bad days/weeks over the years–I get that. But I never went into nursing for the money or the notoriety of being an RN–I just wanted to make a difference, and I like to think that I have…….whether it was holding the hand of a patient who was actively dying as they take their last breath…..or comforting a family member from losing a loved one. Life isn’t perfect–it’s about living and caring for others–regardless if we are teachers…….ministers……. or the person who bags groceries……..or the homeless person……. The pay is far from being “bad” and I have made a decent living at what I do and I think the majority of us have as well…..am I as rich as the Waltons? No…but I am content……I’m looking forward to the next 15 yrs or so I have left to work in my profession…..WE as NURSES have come along way……..and WE DO MAKE A DIFFERENCE. If YOU don’t think so then maybe its time for a different work environment to bring out the better caring nurse that is in you.
As much as I wish this were true, not everyone is like this. Nursing seems to attract women that tend to be somewhat snobby (not all but it is common). Most of the girls I went to nursing school with were nice to their patients. But outside of the hospital they would make fun of people, ignore others, and acted like they were on a pedestal because “were nursing majors”. And even nurses I work with are that way. If you’re truly a compassionate person it follows you everywhere with all people. I didn’t get anywhere close to the best grades in my classes in school and I was slower at picking up a lot of the skills compared to others I graduated with but I don’t treat people the way I see many nurses treat people, especially outside the hospital. There are plenty of other jobs just tiring, and in need of patience and compassion then just nursing.
I am a 31 year old male, and I am about to graduate in 37 days, maybe this true love will come after I graduate.
meah…..
I am not the writer of the article so I don’t know if the author is writing based on experience or hearsay. Everyone has a different perspective, so you’re right, perception is rooted in reality. But, I personally wouldn’t use a scripted show as an example of what all nurses are like.
and this article is based on first hand experience? or fiction…. Perception is reality these days sadly
It’s a fictional TV show…
uh Nurse Jackie. Enough said. Cause thats the good life?
Since when are 12 hour shifts 3 days a week considered “Long hours”…. ?!?!?!?!
Substantial living?!?! I’ve been an RN for 7 years and would love to know where I can get one of those…
my “nurse” was all that and cheated with co-workers. She now lives elsewhere. I don’t look at n.a.s the same.
My someone.special an RN And his degree is a disease specilist….i too work in the medical fieldand he actually diagnose my RAD…before i took a.test at my Dr. I have ashtma and my lungs dont.open up. Hes very compassionate to my every need..as to i am his. I adore him.I thank god for him.Hes.my ANGEL.
74 yrs old retired (after 50 yrs) RN. In the early years both nurses and doctors smoked in the hospitals, sometimes in patients’ room, with the patients. As a group, we were most likely to be the ones that stopped smoking, as more and more information was known. As nurses it didn’t take us long to notice the relationship of smoking to the many lung diseases, so there are very few smoking nurses now! Sure there are problem drinkers and drug users, but in the minority, like most groups of people, and nurses have organiztions in place to help their own. Coffee ? That is a very personal thing, and not wrong as far as I know. There are nurses that went into the profession just to have a job (especially when nurses started getting decent pay, and don’t like the job, but again that is not the majority. Have I ever been rude, etc. to a patient? I sure have, but not usually. I usually saved my temper for the doctors. Ho,, also married 54 yrs!
Hiperlitegreen, you have a chip on your shoulder and are painting doctors with a wide brush. You wouldn’t like us to do the same with nurses. There are a ton of compassionate doctors out there. I think most do more than look at tests, give orders and run.
I am an RN and I have a real problem with people glorifying nurses as “angels”. Yes in our profession it is ideal to be compassionate and caring and advocate for our patients but these are qualities that any person can have in any vocation from waitress to business person. To all the RN’s who responded with how they are sooooo wonderful get over yourselves and drop the “God” complex. We are human beings working at a job just like any other. It is true in health care we see the nitty gritty intricacies of life and death, family dynamics, and what can happen when someone stops putting their health as a priority. However, these qualities of compassion, understanding and patience are found in many many people who practice many different vocations. As human beings shouldn’t we all strive to care for one another? My mom is a teacher and she reflects loads more stoicism, compassion, drive and understanding than any nurse I know.
Also lots of nurses on here sound like they are super jaded. I just started as a new to practice this year. As a word of advice from a youngster, stop judging people so quickly. Generally once you start talking to your patients and realize their stressors, frustrations, and anxieties, you will understand where their behaviors come from. Most people are just lonely and want a kind ear. Plus you don’t truly know these peoples situations or how they were raised so don’t judge their life choices, try and steer them in the right direction instead.
I am a male nurse married to a nurse, dated and know a lot of nurses. Also had experiences as a patient under the care of a nurse. From my experience, I can comfortably say MOST NURSES ARE ABSOLUTELY NOT LIKE THIS IN THEIR PERSONAL LIVES. They may think they are, but are self centered to critically analyze themselves. The qualities mentioned are part of many reasons I got in the industry and I believe that as nurses we are supposed to be like that and hope I never lose those qualities. Unfortunately I believe that most nurses get desensitized and put on the show only when they are getting paid to do so.
I understand why the public can easily think and expect such qualities from nurses, probably based on their experiences as patients … guess what, it’s their job and yes they are getting paid to do so … And yes a lot of them got in the industry for the money. With no love for their job and duty to patients, end up adding more work load on other nurses genuinely concerned about patient care and safety.
All the so called care and smiles shot down as soon as they clock out and get back to their private lives.
They may not know it themselves… but most nurse proudly announce to the world that they are nurses, while exhibiting the complete opposite of what you would expect from them. Including lack of empathy or sympathy when they are not being paid to do so. Some even go on social media to complain about stuff they had to do for patients while breaking patient’s right to privacy with no concern or thought on how that could affect the patient if they some how stumble on a post like that from their nurse (It’s almost like their knowledge about HIPPA violations get thrown out of the window). So yes the public and patients expect nurses to be all holier than thou. Unfortunately marrying one is not like winning a lottery.
I love and married my wife for the kind of person she truly is and that we share the same principles when it comes to treating our fellow human beings among many other reasons. But not because she is a nurse. As a matter of fact before I met her, I had sworn never to date nurses. I just happened to stumble upon the rare gem.
Please keep in mind this is based on my experience, and I could be wrong and maybe had luck of running or working with bad eggs in the industry.
As for my experience as a patient,will try not to go into details, but seriously when a guy is coming out of anesthesia while in serious pain, the last thing they need is a nurse chewing loudly on gum with no introduction, word or anything to let the patient know where they are and what just happened. The nurse’s first word to me was to “stop talking” because my inquiries about my wife who brought me to the hospital while she was under the weather in the waiting room was an interruption to the nurses chit chat. … Yep they tend to forget the patient always comes first.
Again … I am not saying all nurses are like that, but seriously, let’s be realistic.
For all the negativity on here … you dont know the rewarding career there is in nursing. Emotions run high, attachments exist, and the love for another human being is unbelievable … Nursing comes from the Heart … I have worked in geriatric nursing for 15 years, it is only for those who can handle it is true but for those who can’t please don’t trash a profession that is much needed and understaffed.For those trashing it … maybe you should reconsider your selfish statements as before you die guaranteed a nurse will be one of the last people to touch you in more ways than you can understand <3
lol ! most nurses I’ve known are stuck up .. they think they won a lottery fr their profession :/
I am not a nurse because of the glory, recognition or the awesome hours. The visualization of bodily fluids, seeing patients at their worst or the death and dying is not an attraction. Every day I am faced with at least one opportunity to make someones life better. Nurses are human beings with faults and problems just like every other profession. Co-dependent people are usually attracted to this field because they want to fix other peoples problems. Shame on my colleagues that are attacking other R.N.’s on here. It is an accepted practice still practiced by many that nurses eat their young. Instead of berrating people on here why don’t you try to make a difference. Everyone of us has a vice that we need to address to improve our mental or physical well-being. As for my husband, he knows he is lucky to be married to me, not because I am a nurse but because I don’t quit, I am passionate and I am content with my life.
This sounds about right. The general public somehow plants DOCTORS on the almighty pedestal and profess they are the miracle workers. Tehehe. NURSES are the backbone and driving force of healthcare. Nurses adapt to everyone dynamic situation and do whatever it takes to save the patient’s life and be there for the families. DOCTORS simply just analyze patient results and give orders to the staff and move on to the next patient. Its crazy some doctors only meet with the patient for 1 minute and some don’t even go into the room. Nurses stay with the patient for 12 hours and respond to any quick changes in the patient’s vitals. I remember constantly seeing doctors and surgeons rushing to leave the unit or the room when the patient’s heart stops (codes), because they simply don’t know how to perform the technical aspects of a code which means they don’t know how to get their hands dirty. Suddenly, you see all the nurses rush in the room start slamming meds into the iv’s, performing cpr, and working the defibillator. Such an ironic stand point from the public’s stereotyped view of healthcare. GO NURSES!
I’m married to an RN and work in admissions for an LPN to RN program. I must say this article is correct, but could of easily listed 10 reasons! Nurses are the best!
You naughty girl! Keep it Dangerous!
Exactly! I for one, don’t mind taking on that persona occasionally
Life it too hard if you don’t throw in a little spice every now and then!
Thanks! It just adds a lil’ spice. We all know the typical nurse fantasies exist…
Oh, and about the pic……who cares? It’s just a picture. I liked the article and I think it’s right on the mark with me and my friends who are nurses!
I am an nurse and most of my friends are nurses. I happen to love what I do and I do my job with a compassionate and caring attitude. As with any profession, there are some who do not have my attitude, but as a general rule I think most nurses are compassionate and caring people who do this sometimes difficult job because the love it and care about their patients. No one ever gets rich in nursing. You work long hours and are often treated with a great deal of disrespect. However, having said that, I still think nursing is a great profession. We do tend to be a little unsympathetic to minor illness but if you’re really ill, you will find no better advocate! It is often hardest to care for family members of nurses, because they expect high quality care for their loved ones, more so than they do for themselves! As far as the crap about smoking and drinking……..well, we aren’t perfect, but neither are you
Spare me, Kathy! But, thanks for reading
The lousy image that. Depicts the nurse with big boobs, gloves had her looking like an evil cartoon character…totslly takes away from the goid write up…so I shall not pass aling to preserve the sacred integrity of my fellow nurses.
Speaking as a Pediatric ICU nurse it really depends. Nurses in ICU’s get burned out. It’s a stressful gig. Most of my RN colleagues are some of the most compassionate people I know. We don’t overreact when a kid of ours get sick. We deal with it. Nurses are human and fallible but at the end of the day we’re pretty f’ing awesome.
Scroll down a lil’ further in the article for what you may consider a more “appropriate” image of a nurse.
I’ve Worked With Nurses My Whole Career As A Paramedic And Physician Assistant. This Article Makes It Sound Like Go Ahead Marry A Nurse And They’ll Take Care Of You For The Rest Of Your Life, That’s The Furthest Thing From Truth, NursingA.d Healthcare Is Stressful And You Better Be Ready To Be Their “Rock” After Working Those Long Shifts And Dealing With All Walks Of.life. Motivations For Goung Into Nursing Are Quite Varied As You Can Earn A Ver Good Living And That Alone Can Be A Motivating Factor, Very Skewed Article.
I appreciate the article but not the photo at the top of the article of a “nurse”.
I’m sorry, Elizabeth, but what business is it of yours if a nurse happens to smoke and drink coffee. Many nurses start their training already being smokers struggling to quit. and in such a highly-stressful profession, should it be a surprise to find a high rate of cigarette smoking? It also relates nothing to the care they give. You need to work on your maturity and wisdom. Also, to say that most nurses you know use drugs to cope…? What a ridiculously hate-fueled comment. How would you even know if they are drug-users, are they friends of yours? As is all areas of social interaction, you get back what you give. You may likely be a nasty, negative, difficult personality type, which does not change all of a sudden when you become a patient in need of care. God bless the health care workers who have had to care for you.
Are you kidding me? My mother was a nurse. She had no compassion at all. Her motto was…..If you can still breathe and your heart is still pumping blood you have nothing to worry about! Now, get your butt to school!!
not all of them. it individual per individual
If you do not like us (RNs) that is ok, we generally do not like you too much either. Why you may ask? Because we get tired of having to constantly save your noncompliant, fat ignorant, obese, twinkie eating, fat back snortin, newport smokin, shine drinkin, dumb ass from your own irresponsible life style and then have to listen to you whine about everything and take it out on us because you are a fat tub of goo.
Ride a bike, eat a vegetable, drink some water and be responsible for your own health and well being instead of living like the devil and then having the expectation that “we” will fix it for you.
OUT OF THE GENE POOL!
That is all.
Nurse Grundle
It depends
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My mother was a nurse, and she was tough as nails. We didn’t get to stay home from school sick unless we were puking our guts out, had a high fever, or were barely able to stand. She was like CJ/RN above – she’d dealt with so many really serious medical issues, she had no time or sympathy for whiners!
I think you “RN haters” should just keep your mouths quite. You have never been in our place before, and frankly I doubt if you even know what our job responsibilities are. Over the last few years I have notice more and more lack of respect we get from the public and sadly our patients. No we do not all smoke, we are not all over weight, and we are not all alcoholics or drug addicted. We love our jobs or we would not be here. Just like anyother service provider like police officers, we will never have the publics respect. Just remember before you speak with disrespect about RN’s or other public service providers, we are here to serve, protect and save you.
women in first picture is a porn star? Name???
I worked as a CNA/ CMA for 7 years and i would say the Article is a little skewed. Nurses are human beings from all walks of life. The motivations to join nursing are diverse and this article assumes a ton. I have worked with nice wonderful nurses and not so very nice ones …Would i marry a nurse …. maybe but not primarily because of the nursing profession
Elizabeth, I am so sorry you had a bad experience at the hospital and were treated unkind. In no way is that acceptable. However, your post says you have yet to know a nurse who doesn’t smoke and so forth and I must say I completely disagree with this statement. The actions of the nurses who took care of you should in no way be placed on all of us nurses and the same could be said to the poster Air Ambulance. I do not smoke and only drink wine on special occasions like holiday get togethers. When I go to work, regardless of what is going on at home, I leave it at the door. I would never take out my own personal frustrations on a patient as I would never want someone else to treat me or my family that way. I treat others how I would want to be treated and I take pride in my work as a nurse. Maybe it is different on my floor but we truly work as a team and help one another out. I absolutely love the other nurses on my shift and working in a field that consists of a lot more females than males, that is not always the case. I have dealt with nurses on the other shifts who were not very friendly and one was even very rude and crabby toward me when I was giving her report on Easter morning. I will never understand people like this whether they be a nurse or another profession, they exist everywhere and we will always come across people who are just plain rude toward others. However, there are plenty of loving and caring people out there as well in all types of professions and I know many that are nurses and love what they do. It is easy to get burned out when your unit does not work as a team or as a nurse you are not only performing your role but the PCA’s role as well. It is not an easy job and it takes dedication but I enjoy coming to work and making a difference. I love the fact that my patients always remember my name even if I haven’t been their nurse in a few days. I hope if you ever find yourself in the hospital again that you get nurses who truly care and want to be your nurse. Take care and well wishes to you.
Wonderful words
I’m a nurse and I’ll admit to being nothing on this list. At work I do have compassion but at some point you get exhausted of people. Then you come home after 12 hour shifts and just want to sleep. If you get a partner that works opposite shifts the relationship may last longer but then you’ll be sleeping alone lol
I AM A NURSE AND THE NICEST, MOST CARING PERSON I KNOW. THE ARTICLE IS 100% TRUE IN MY CASE!
@ J. I DO NOT THINK THAT YOUR “NURSE WIFE” CHEATED ON YOU BECAUSE SHE IS A NURSE. FROM THE SOUND OF YOUR BITTERNESS, SHE PROBABLY CHEATED ON YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE A DICK!
The majority of Nurses I have come into contact with, Do possess at least a few of the 5 qualities, However, I have Yet to know An RN , LPN Or NA, that doesn’t Smoke, resent patient concern’s (Pain and Discomfort), Use drugs, themselve’s to cope with the stress of the Job And Most Sadly, of all, Take Verbally take out their frustrations and Burn Out on Their Own Patient’s? Certainly, Not Every RN, LPN is like this, However, there are more that lead unhealthy lives especially in Hospitals, than those Who possess Compassion, Empathy And Exceptional Medical and/ or Social skills in order to want to voluntarily communicate and give aid to their patient’s without resentment, frustration or apathy.
I am speaking from Year’s of My Own, countless experiences as a patient in a Hospital, Several time’s in ICU, As A Woman of 44, With necrotizing Pancreatitis, And Sepsis (Not a drinker of alchohol) Which involved The collapse of one lung and life threatening cases of pneumonia, which followed months, later. 2008-present.
I am not a smoker, nor had I had any experience With TPN, Pics, Ports, Endoscopies, or Abdominal Drainage tubes or Lung tubes! etc, Months at a time! Yes, I am eternally Thankful and feel truly blest By the Skilled Dr’s And Nurses Who were there by my side to sincerely Care for me, Professionally , And in so doing, aid in saving My life, not once but twice! Nurses Can also be, Guardian Angel’s, too!
Nurse’s, in short, are just like any other Professional, in that, There are the gifted, hard working, healing individuals, And then there are the rest. Punching the clock, overdosing on cups of caffeine and cigarettes, and finally, those that truly dislike their Job/ And feel bitter toward their assigned patient’s! God Bless Nurses Who posess both exceptional Skills and Compassion! + <3
This article makes dating a nurse sound like replacing your Mommy.
There is definitive proof that these characteristics are present in most nurses. Those who became nurses for the right reasons, possess all of them, those who went to nursing school because they watched too many hospital shows and want the supposed glam or to find love with a doc are some of the coldest people you will ever meet. My wife and I are nurses, just like people of every profession, we have our good and bad days, but when it comes to our family, we are there 100%. Thank you for posting this article, there are too many people that only see the rushed, frenzied, overworked nurses that don’t have the time to spend with the patients and families to help make them feel more secure about their situation and build the trust needed to convince them that their care is our #1 priority.
Please just remember this the next time you hit your call light and the nurse doesn’t appear right away: With the exception (in most cases) of ICU and CCU environments, the patient to nurse ratio of hospitals is 6:1, patients have an average of 20 scheduled meds per day, not to mention those that are prescribed as needed. Many hospital ratios are worse, not too many are better. Those nurses, no matter how good they are, can and will get behind and most of us feel horrible when we have to make a person wait for anything, especially when they’re in pain.
I am an RN- none of this is true.
100 % agree with CJ, RN that’s a more accurate depiction! My husband and I got a laugh when I shared this article with him, He won the jackpot (and me too)but not for the reason’s listed….
Sounds like all the issues you people are complaining about is not about nursing but about personalities.
I love how this article is bringing out nurse hate…lol….humans….smh!
I was married to a nurse. “WAS” is the main word. She was a liar & a cheat. Caught her having an affair & she tried to lie about the whole thing. Worse 4 years of my life!
My care tank only fills up so much… usually I’ve expended it’s capacity after a day at work. Everyone else is just shit out of luck at that point
If you have a “real” problem, fine we can deal with that. If you’re coming around to bitch about something you may as well carry on because I’ve probably seen more serious problems that day then what anyone else is about to relate to me, I mean really, unless you’re actively bleeding, going into shock, or have become septic… let’s not waste my time 
However, if you plan on being someone who is enjoyable to be around, rock on, let’s do this.
Bwahaha! None of that is true. I work with nurses. Believe me – I know.
Thanks for catching the typo!
Most of the nurses I work with eat horribly. There are always snackies around! Also, you spelled altar wrong.
Having served for 24 years, being deployed a few times myself, Afghanistan being one for a year as a “nurse”, I can relate to the needing the quiet and relaxing time, I can also understand the spouse that has stayed behind a year and has taken care of the bills, repairs, kids, lonely nights, and the not knowing if you will be coming back HOME! So I say to my husband, thank you for taking care of our home, kids, bills and all the day to day living while I serve my country. Yes we did have some difficult times as he wanted to hand everything over and I wasn’t ready for at least 6 months. Readjustment is hard….for everyone! and it’s normal for a “nurse” to be unsure when your own child is hurt, you can’t compartmentalize your child. So try to see her side as well, marriage is a always a two way street.
Sounds like your having redeployment issues not Nurse issues
Its hard to be gone and come back to a place that was well controlled in your absence, now its time to reacclimate for both parties! Welcome home soldier
Sounds like it’s time for some counseling.
I wish this was the case….I really do. Just returned home from Afghanistan and my wife of 6 years who has been a nurse for 8 years hAve been fighting everyday. Over stupid stuff….I just want to relax and enjoy doing nothing for the three weeks of leave I have taken. She is mad at me everyday, tells me I’m boring and undercuts me in front of friends. She is not stable if our little girl hurts herself and has a hard time seeing her blood. At work she is different. Those skills and capabilities have not transferred over to our relationship. I wish it was stable, I really do…after being gone for so long and then coming home to what I thought was going to be a moment in life that would give me peace, I was wrong.