Lucky guys such as Ashton Kutcher and Harry Styles, who are let’s face it attractive men and have more than enough opportunity to proudly sow their oats in as many corn fields up and down the land as they chose, have both opted to go for the more mature or older lady.
Some who don’t quite understand the cougar scene feel like slapping them around the face with a wet kipper to bring them to their senses. The men that do understand simply smile.
So what is about the siren call and lure of an older lady that brings men to their knees, and sometimes in more ways than one J ?
Match Made in Jeans
Generally a cougar and cub relationship begins with a sexual chemistry. Although not always the case, the sexual aspect and needs for both younger male and older female help bring the pair together.
Perhaps the cougar has come from a long term relationship, or divorce, and is ready for a non-emotional tie fling. A casual relationship that suits her, maybe to fill a gap the husband or boyfriend either didn’t fill or has left. Maybe this is time to explore some sexual fantasies not played out. Perhaps a time to feel special and have some needed attention paid.
From a younger man’s point of view, this is an older experienced women where sex is not a taboo subject or something just your mates are having. Cougars make a fuss of younger men, and lots of compliments are paid. Men like this, especially testosterone filled young men looking to become the next Alan Sugar or Richard Branson with more businesses on the go than Stellios’s Easy Group.
Formula to note:
Young Man looking for attention and sex + Older women looking for attention and sex = Bloody Good Time
You look after the pennies, I’ll look after the pounds
Let’s face it, a young relationship can be difficult for entertainment avoiding the obvious. Unless you are born with a silver spoon up your proverbials, money is generally an issue. Sitting at home on the couch with the old folk, or tucked away in a bedroom with parents popping by every 5mins on a covert mission pretending to bring snacks, but really making sure boundaries of genitals are set.
Now take an older woman. She could be working with a good salary, have her own place and will have much more independence. Money is often less of an issue, where to go is never a problem (rather than finding deserted car parks or places to drive to tonight to get out of the way of the ‘parental unit’). This gives a sense of liberation to the young stag – who is now feeling more manly by the minute.
It’s no wonder a young man wouldn’t be attracted to the benefits, and with the sexual chemistry and thought of no timely interruptions whilst you’re trying to make a quick grope cannot be a bad thing.
Not many stags I know would want to pass up such an opportunity.
It’s all in the Mind
In this world you get two types of younger male. Yes, just the two. You get they conscious, mature minded type. Likes a conversation and generally thinks of others first. May not make the hunkiest guys list, or have heads turning, but he’s a likeable guy – then you have the second type, a lad.
The lad is the type of guy that loves fast cars and try and slam down their Polo and burn some tread, although getting out of 4th gear and past 75mph is generally a problem. Still, love em, they do try.
The first type of guy doesn’t want an immature girl. He wants a women. He wants to be Finch and he’s looking for ‘Stifler’s Mom’. This mind set is naturally adapted for a cougar. They will share similar wavelengths and interests. Not only does the cougar get her claws in to a younger prey but she won’t feel so awkwardly embarrassed and her age when he starts doing young laddie things.
This is the type of guy that was born for a cougar. The ‘lad’ is great for the casual one-night fling forgetting your age and your inhibitions. Not the kind of material you’d introduce to your friends or family, but great for a pick me up and put me down!
In conclusion there are many (many) reasons for a guy to be attracted to a cougar. There isn’t just one, but then most men (contrary to popular belief) are different and want different things. I guess just like women.
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