At some point, many of us have been unlucky enough to have found out we have a partner who is cheating on us or at least have suspected we were being cheated on. Maybe you were even the one actually doing the cheating.

I have a rather simple view on this. If you’re in a relationship with somebody and you’re thinking of cheating or wanting to do something with somebody else then the fact is you’re more than likely in the wrong relationship in the first place. And if you’re not in the wrong relationship then something is probably not right and you need to address it.

Many people have a view that it’s always the guy that cheats on the lady and I feel this is a little unfair as I have enough female friends and have heard enough stories over the years to realise that it’s actually more of 50-50 thing and not something you can just blame on the guy all the time.

You suspect your partner may be cheating:

The fact is, if something has caused you to become suspicious and you’re not normally the sort of person who get suspicious then the chances are something is probably not quite right somewhere. By the time enough things have happened that we start to notice something is probably not quite right. The chances are you probably already missed quite a bit and if you go back and think about this you’ll probably think of several more things that in hindsight are probably a little bit strange and out of character , but went over your head at the time. Hindsight can be a wonderful thing.

The friends you have never met:

If your partner suddenly starts talking about a new friend or a friend who has met someone on  dating sites or at the gym or workplace and they start to spend a lot of time with this person you may start to wonder if Alan is actually an Anna. The main giveaway here is whether your partner is prepared to let meet the new friend. If your partner seems reluctant to introduce you all will not let you meet then this can be another very good reason to be suspicious.

The daily routine has changed:

We go about our lives in a similar way on a daily basis, often with very little change day-to-day. If all of a sudden things start to change then this can be another good indication that something is not quite right. If your partner stops wanting to go out with you or starts wanting to do things with friends, then this should give you cause to consider a little bit more carefully what may be going on. If it’s not the case that your partner is cheating then they could certainly be getting bored of the relationship and looking for a change.

Inconsistencies:

It’s human nature that the more lies we tell the more we eventually trip ourselves up. If you find out that your partner said they were going out with someone to a particular place and events later reveal that it was not the case then it is most often the case that the person is guilty of doing something they shouldn’t have been doing else why not be honest in the first place. If you find your partner has been telling you one thing and doing another. Then it’s time to look little bit more carefully what’s going on.

Asking questions:

If when you start asking questions you’re met with answers such as ”why are you asking me all these questions “or “why do you have to know everything ”then this can be another indication that something is not quite right. If were in an open and honest relationship your partner shouldn’t mind you asking questions about where you’re going or why you’re doing something or when you’re going to be back. These are just reasonable things that you would expect to know the answer to. If you’re in a relationship. If someone is reluctant to give you this information it could suggest that they’re doing something they shouldn’t be

The author has worked in the field of online dating for many years and quite often blogs for websites on dating related topics.

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