When a relationship ends, no matter how long it was, it is hard to get over. Relationships do not always work for several reasons, and we just have to accept it at the end of the day. There are different ways you can cope with failed relationships, both positive and negative. Here are a few proactive tips on how to move on from your ex.
Delete Them
Figuratively speaking, we are going to delete them from our lives. Delete them from any social media account you have. It’s no longer your business to see what they are doing or who they are hanging out with. It’s also not their business to see what you are doing either. If you it more beneficial to “block” them on Facebook so they are non-existent to your account you can also do that. This way you will not be able to see their comments on your friends’ pages.
Don’t Hold In Your Emotions
With every break-up you feel a million different emotions. It’s OK to be mad, sad. or confused. If you need to cry, then cry. Holding in your feelings will only prolong your healing progress. Find a trusting friend or family member to talk to so you can get closure. If you need to see a therapist even, that’s OK too. Things you should not do are negative reactions like storming into your exes place and starting a fight or going to a bar and drinking way too much. Chances are you will only make the situation worse. Be smart about your actions.
Do Things You Weren’t Able to Do In Your Relationship
I’m not talking about dating other people, but if you feel up to date someone and think it would help, then try it out. What I was referring to were activities your ex did not enjoy while you were together. If you loved theme parks and he was terrified of roller coasters, go to a theme park and have your own fun with some close friends. He may not have like sushi, so go out and order sushi. This is your time to make up for what you may have missed out on.
Change Things Up
It’s time to change things up. Changing up everything around you will banish small reminders of your ex. For instance, rearrange your bedroom and get rid of any pictures and gifts he gave you. That one time he gave you flowers in bed while you were sick will be erased by moving your bed to the other side of the room and getting rid of that flower vase. Change things up by dying your hair a new shade, getting highlights or getting a different haircut. You’ll feel renewed afterwards and it’ll be a great confidence booster.
About The Author: After ending a serious relationship, Jackie Ryan decided it was time to change things in her life. She got a make-over and renovated her living space with new carpet squares.
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Good luck with the book!
Great post Dangerous…
This will help me with my research for my book on “Black Men and Heartbreaks”