When you’re on a date with a girl you like, are you Mr. Talkative or Mr. Shy? Neither is necessarily a bad thing. It’s not always about how much or how little you talk; it’s much more about the content of the conversation. You need to talk about things that interest her and make her want to get to know you better. There are a few topics, however, that almost guarantee she won’t want you to call her back. Here are four things you shouldn’t talk about on a date.
Talking about Your Mother
Women like men who have good relationships with their mothers, but on the first few dates it’s not necessarily a good idea to talk about yours. If you casually mention something positive about your mother, that’s okay. But if you start gushing over how close the two of you are and how you meet for coffee three times a week, she’ll think you’re a momma’s boy who hasn’t really grown up enough yet to be on his own. If you talk about how much you dislike your mother, she’ll be turned off by your apparent lack of respect for the most important woman in your life, and she’ll wonder if you’d treat her the same.
Talking about Your Ex
When you’re just beginning to get to know a girl, you shouldn’t be talking about another girl from your past (you ex). No matter what you say, you’ll seem like you’re just not over her yet, and your new girl won’t want to get involved with you if you’re not completely emotionally available. If you talk badly about your ex, it’s even worse. She’ll think you’re holding a grudge or angry, and she doesn’t want the tables to be turned on her one day down the line.
Talking Too Much about Your Hobbies
Let’s face it – when you’re trying to appeal to a girl and get her to like you, in most cases talking about sports and video games won’t do the trick. It’s okay to be an extreme football fan or enjoy a few hours of World of War every week. She just doesn’t want to know so much about it in the beginning (or ever). You can mention your manly hobbies, but don’t talk about them much at all. Only talk about hobbies that are really unique and impressive, like rock climbing or SCUBA diving. Better yet, try to find and discuss hobbies that you both have in common.
Fishing for Compliments or Feedback
You put a lot of thought into planning a nice date, and you tried extra hard to look your best. That alone will hopefully impress your date, and if it does she’ll likely tell you. But if she doesn’t, don’t freak out and assume she isn’t interested. Most of all, don’t ask her things like, “What do you think about our date so far?” or, “What do you think about my haircut?” Women want men who are secure and confident. Fishing for compliments will only make you seem the opposite, and she’ll be turned off immediately.
About The Author: Nikki White is a Las Vegas socialite and writer who has lots of experience with bad dates. She loves to blog and covers topics relating to relationships and getting the best out of the Vegas nightlife.