Ladies, you know that lovely feeling when you meet someone new, you go on a few dates, your stomach flips when you get a text from him, and you start to think this could be… something?
Stop right there and savour that feeling, because you may be about to ruin it.
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We’ve all had that guy we liked. The one we felt those feelings for. The one who after a few weeks became distant, stopped calling, and before long disappeared off the face of the earth; removing himself as a Facebook friend in the process.
Yeah, you may have made one of these seven faux-pas and made him flee, but don’t worry. Read this list, learn it, stick it on your fridge and move on to the next one!
1) Dropping the B-Bomb
Two weeks in, you both run into someone you know and you introduce him as your boyfriend.
You’ll see his eyes glaze over, drops of sweat appear on his forehead, and somehow he loses your number.
2) You’re always available
Have a life, will you? Say no to a date.
Go out with YOURfriends, keep up your hobbies and keep living your own life.
He’ll feel honoured to be a part of it, not its entirety.
3) The green eyed monster
He goes out with friends and you imagine him with strippers wrapped around his crotch. You imagine he’s swaggering around being chatted up by supermodels.
So you start texting him to find out what he’s doing, who he’s with and where.
He’s actually sat in the pub with his mates talking about Call of Duty. He immediately identifies you as a bunny boiler and goes home with a stripper.
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4) My ex never did it like that
Telling him how amazing, or how awful, your ex is will send him running for the hills. Fact.
Either he’ll imagine you trash talking him after you break up or feel that he’ll never measure up.
5) Giving up the goodies on the first date
This may seem a little old fashioned but it’s a rule that still stands.
If you go back to his and strip down to your best sexy lingerie, you are giving it up way too quick and far too easily.
He will not see you as someone he must try hard to attain, but someone who does not have high standards for herself.
6) Over sharing on the social media front
If you’re having a great date, for God’s sake don’t spoil it by pointing your camera phone in his face and then tweeting a picture, #datenight #happytimes.
Same goes for a Facebook relationship status change. Wait until he suggests it.
7) I’ll have whatever you’re having
You are an individual with personal tastes and opinions. Do NOT go along with whatever he wants, whether it’s the food you order, the film you see, or whatever you plan for the weekend.
Make him see who you are, not the girl you think he wants to see. Pretend and he won’t know who you are, or he will conclude that you have no personality and move on.
Be proud of who you are, even if it means your date consists of watching the worst chick flick of the year and having ice cream for dinner.
So don’t rush it, enjoy the moment, be yourself, but don’t over-share everything right away!
Let him get to know you slowly. Keep a little mystery and he’ll be texting you on the way back from your first date to ask for a second.
If he doesn’t, then he’s clearly a cretin and you’re better off without him.
Please feel free to share any dating disasters below!
About the Author: Susannah Perez is a fashion and lingerie blogger with a passion for human relationships. Her friends call her the dating guru due to her success with the male of the species. She blogs for Lingerie Confidential.