Are you letting your negative self-talk ruin your life? If self-criticism is all you are hearing from your internal voice, this can work against you and keep you from meeting your goals or from finding lasting happiness. If you often find that you are your own worst enemy, now is the time to figure out how to silence the hateful voices once and for all.
Understanding the Process
The internal dialogue you hear is a normal function of your brain. Even though it may sound like your enemy, this isn’t true. In fact, it is your brain trying to deal with unpleasant experience and/ or emotions. If these issues aren’t dealt with properly, the brain will continue to bring them up until there is a resolution. This happened to my sister who is learning how to become a graphic designer. She got so caught up in everything, she didn’t deal with issues she had. As such, the only way to silence negative talk from your inner voice is to take the time to process and file the thoughts properly. To do this, ask yourself what lessons you have learned from the experience, what likelihood there is of it happening again, what you can do to avoid repeating the experience, and how you could handle things differently.
The negative voice you hear before something happens is along the same lines, but instead of dealing with emotions, it is trying to protect you. When you see someone attractive and you think “that person is way too good for me” that is just your brain trying to protect you from a tense and possibly embarrassing encounter. The best way to deal with this sort of internal dialogue is to ask yourself if you truly have a reason to be afraid. If not, ignore the voice and move ahead. After all, if you constantly give in to your fears, you will never take risks and will never gain new experiences. Where’s the fun in that?
It’s a Bad Habit
If your inner voice is constantly negative and critical of you, this is simply the result of a bad habit. The only way to defeat this type of internal dialogue is to replace negative thoughts and statements with positive ones. Instead of thinking you aren’t good enough, start realizing how great you really are. This can be the hardest type of internal dialogue to defeat, since it comes form your own long-standing opinions of yourself. Never forget, however, that you are in control. When it comes to your thoughts and feelings, you are the boss. Try to discover whether the negative thoughts come from someone in your past or if they are your own invention. Either way, analyze them carefully and then dismiss them as the rubbish they are.
There is no one in the world that can destroy your happiness and dreams as rapidly as you can. The only way to prevent this from happening is to deal with your negative inner talk and dismiss it or turn it into more positive choices. When you do so, you will soon find that you can make your dreams come true much more easily and that you can enjoy a level of happiness that you have never before experienced.
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