The first few dates with a guy you like are crucial. You want him to like you, and you want to portray the right image. But women are chatty, and lots of women ruin their chances by talking a little too much about certain things. Here are five things you can say on a date that will scare any good guy away.
Talk Badly About an Ex
When you’re first getting to know a guy, it should be all about him (and you). It should not be about anyone else, and especially not about your ex. Trash talking your ex is bad for a few different reasons. For one thing, it makes you seem bitter and hostile. It also makes a guy think you’re not really over your past relationship. Finally, he doesn’t want to take the chance that later you’ll be talking badly about him.
Fishing for Compliments
If a guy likes how you look, he’ll tell you. On the other hand, not complimenting your looks doesn’t mean he’s not interested. Some guys are more complimentary and vocal about their attractions than others. Never flat-out ask a guy something like, “How does my hair look?” or, “Does this dress look good on me?” Guys want girls who are confident, and they don’t want to have to constantly reassure you.
Talking About Relationship Goals
Lots of women have timelines for themselves on when they’d like to get married, have kids, etc. If you do, keep it to yourself. Telling a guy, “I want to be married by the time I’m 32,” will only make him want to run. A guy doesn’t want to feel like he has to follow or fit into a set schedule of life events. He wants to let things happen naturally, and by talking about future relationship goals so early, he’ll only feel pressured to be husband material. If he’s not ready for that, he won’t want to be with you.
Be Overly Concerned About Food
If you’re trying to stick to a diet, eat fewer fattening foods, or consume fewer calories, don’t let a guy know that on a date. If you comment too much on the menu options and what you should or shouldn’t be eating, it will turn a guy off. Again, men like women who are confident. By focusing too much on food (in a negative way), you’re showing that you lack confidence in your body. It’s also such a buzz kill. He wants to have fun, not count calories, nor does he want to hear you do it for the rest of your relationship.
Talking About Financial Problems
Money is a subject that should probably be avoided in the beginning of a dating relationship. No matter what your bank account balance is, you should never talk about it, especially if it’s to say how broke you are. A guy also wants a girl who is self-sufficient and responsible with money. If you make any comments about his potential salary or his career in a way that highlights how much he makes, he might think you’re a gold digger.
About The Author: Nikki White is a Las Vegas socialite and freelance writer who knows her way around a date. She loves to blog and covers topics relating to relationships and getting the best out of the Vegas nightlife.
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