Us women often wonder about single men and why exactly they are single. Especially single men who seems to have the personality, looks, and maturity for a committed relationship.
Have these single men just not settled down yet? Is there some sort of major flaw that they have that they are not showing? Are they gay? Are they just not interested in you? Maybe, but more than likely it’s because they have chosen to be single.
I have talked to many different single men and I know that they are all different in their reasons for choosing to stay single. In this article I will explain some of those reasons men choose to stay single.
First of all, many men don’t like being told what, when, where or how to do – well, anything! They like the independence of not having to answer to anybody. These guys are happy being single men and enjoying the freedom to do what they want.
This can show a lack of desire for responsibility and commitment on the mans part if this is his reason for being single. He does not want to have to do anything or he’s not ready for it – either way it’s not good for a woman looking for love.
If you are a woman looking for love then you may want to avoid this guy because he probably is not going to settle down and get into a long-term relationship any time soon.
A man knows if he is in a committed relationship there is going to be added financial responsibility. Especially if they decide to move in with the woman or marry her. Single men like being in control of their money and spending it how they please. Instead of getting into a commitment where they have to share their money, many single men would rather stay single and spend their earnings how they want.
Playing the Field
I know it sounds selfish and immature, but many single men like to play the field. This is probably, believe it or not, the main reason most men stay single. There can be a variety of factors that encourage this decision.
- Maybe the man tried to settle down at a young age and now feels like exploring his options more broadly.
- Maybe he was recently hurt by a woman and chooses not to be in another committed relationship to avoid feeling that pain again.
- Or he could just be a pig, that wants to sleep with as many woman as possible. Sorry guys, but we all know they are out there.
I think all men go through at least one of these stages at one time or another, and many men have gone through all three.
Just Not Ready
The thought of being in a committed relationship can be down right scary to some single men. Of course when everyone thinks of finding that special person, there’s always the thought of marriage and family. Some men even in their 30′s or 40′s just grimace at that thought.
Sure everyone wants that fairy tale life that always ends with something about a white picket fence, but men usually see this as much more – like never being able to sleep with another woman and giving up all your freedom to take care of kids.
Some men have even admitted their greatest fear which is not being with the woman forever and having to pay child support for the next 18 years. I credit TV shows for scaring these poor guys like this.
Sometimes single men even need this alone time to get themselves straightened out. If their life has taken a turn for the worse then being single may be the only way to get back on the right path and get ready for a committed relationship down the line.
Of course all these things may sound juvenile to a woman that is ready for a relationship, but honestly it’s the mans choice and everyone is entitled to choose what they want.
So there you have it! These are the most popular reasons that single men attribute to still being single. They are honest, to the point, and real answers.
Might I suggest that if you come across any of these single men and you are looking for love then you may just want to keep on walking. The chances of taming a happily single man are slim to none.
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