Q: I’m on the verge of hating black women. My ex wife is using my daughter as a pawn. She refuses to let me see my daughter and now I have given up. I don’t want anything to do with my daughters or black women. Why do black women love men who abuse them and treat them bad?
This woman knows I love both of my daughters. She has turned my oldest daughter against me. My ex is bitter because I left the marriage after she stopped sleeping with me. She’s upset with me because I tried to be a man and got angry with her when she messed up our finances. She will tell you I have a temper. True I do, but when it’s necessary. I even put myself in anger management. They said I didn’t belong there. I’m really angry now and this goes back to my mother. I can understand why a black man goes and gets himself a BECKY once he becomes rich.
I tried my best to be a good father, but this woman keeps trying to push the envelope with me. I now understand why some men beat their women. I’m pissed! Can you possibly explain to me what may be floating around in my ex wife’s head being that you are a black woman?
Clint C. Brantley
New York City
A: Based on what you have to say it’s your ex wife that you hate, not all black women. You only think you hate all black women, but that’s your frustration and inner turmoil talking. If you truly hated black women you would not be asking for my opinion. Your ex wife is black, so you project your hate towards her on other black women as well.
Also, because you have issues with your mother, the woman who gave you life, your mind won’t allow you to see black woman in a positive light. Ask yourself this question; If your ex wife was white would you hate all white women? The answer is important, but it’s also important to think about how ridiculous it would be to hate all of anything or anyone just because you’ve had a bad experience with a few. Ever hear of racism? I also want you to understand that hating black women also means that you hate yourself.
Seriously think about getting some therapy so that you can be a positive role model for your daughters. Hatred is taught, and your actions and attitude towards them may cause them to grow up hating black men.